We don’t talk about one-night stands that often. Let’s talk about them from the women’s side today.
When it comes to one-night stands for women, I say go for it! Go have a one-night stand.
They’re amazing for your sexuality. They’ll make you feel free. You’ll have a blast, and I want you to do it with no guilt.
If you choose to have a one-night stand, just pick a guy and have fun. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t allow your friends to judge you.
Sex is something about which we need to be free and open. We need to stop judging ourselves, and start experiencing ourselves.
To the men, if you have a one-night stand with a woman — if she allows you to have a one-night stand with her — don’t judge her. Just thank her for sharing an amazing night with you.
Give her the option of whether or not to do it again with you. If she chooses you to have a one-night stand, just say “That was a great night. I don’t know if you want to move forward and do this again, but I’d like to.” If she declines, thank her for a great night and make her feel wonderful.
So, if you have a one-night stand with somebody, let the other person feel great about it. They chose you for that one-night stand because they thought you weren’t going to be an asshole at the end of it.
The next time you have a one-night stand, thank the person for a wonderful evening. You never know. You might get another one-night stand with that person a few days later.
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So this is normally Podcast Wednesday, but I’ve decided to do something a bit different today. As you know I’ve been hard at work on a new product. A new product that you’ve been asking for – all about texting. Texting plays such a big part of peoples lives these days, and yet so many people don’t know how to use it to get what they want from the opposite sex…
Well, that’s what I’m here to help you with, and I’m excited about what I’ve got so far. For the past few days I’ve done nothing except go through the almost 1000 responses I’ve gotten from all of you, and all I can say is “Wow.” I’ve been overwhelmed by the response, this is obviously something you guys all want, and I’m making sure to include all the questions I keep seeing in my new product.
Listen below as I talk about one of the questions many of you had:
If you haven’t already done so, take a few minutes to fill out the survey below, so I can be sure to get your questions answered in my upcoming product. This is your last chance to influence this product, as I’ll be closing the survey tomorrow! After you’re done, you’ll also get a chance to sign up for my early notification list. You’ll want to jump on this, because I’m going to be releasing special deals only to those on this list.
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For the rest of you who have already taken the survey and gotten on the list, thanks. Stay tuned tomorrow as I’ll have another update and answer another question I’ve been seeing a lot of from you…
Have you ever had the demanding house guest come and stay at your house? You know, the one who seems to have lots of requests despite the fact that they are getting a free place to stay?
Recently I had a house guest who said to me, “Am I going to get my own room?” I said, “Yes, you are going to sleep on an air mattress in my office. We only have two bedrooms, and the second bedroom is basically Sonja’s storage room.
So he said to me, “Nothing with a door?” I said, “No. You are going to be on the third floor of my house, though, and no one will be up there but you.” He said, “I am a really private person. Can you maybe clean up the second bedroom so I can sleep in there?”
This really surprised me. You are someone’s guest. They are saving you money. They are putting you up and allowing your energy in their house for a few days. I know when I stay at someone’s house, all I ever care about is whether a bed and thanking the person for letting me stay with them.
Some people, however, are very demanding when they are a house guest. Some people need to always have their things around them, and they can’t get out of their comfort zone.
So how does this tie into dating? It does. When you sleep over someone’s house for the very first time, are you cool about it or are you demanding about it?
The great thing about life is experiencing different things. Another great thing about life is being open. You need to open yourself up if you are a demanding house guest.
I know when I went to visit Sonja’s family in New Orleans, I preferred to stay in a hotel because it was quieter and easier. Staying with her family, though, gives me an opportunity to really hang out with them and to get to know them better.
So maybe I am not as comfortable as I normally am by staying with them, but sometimes it is not about comfort. Sometimes it is about the experience of getting to know new people and letting them getting to know you.
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I have a great new app for iPhones. It’s perfect. It’s something you need to install and download right away on your own phone.
As a matter of fact, I am going to call Apple, and I’m going to get this thing done.
It’s an app that is called “Lower Your Standards Time!”
Picture it. It’s 1:00 am and you’re standing in a bar. You’re drunk. All of a sudden your phone starts going crazy — beeping and vibrating. You look at it, and it says “It’s Lower Your Standards Time!”
“Look, there’s a drunk girl leaning against the bar right now. She just made out with a random guy in the corner. It’s time for you to go over there and get her number. It’s time to lower your standards!”
It is hilarious what we do at 1:00 am. It’s almost like we’re one of Pavlov’s dogs.
It is 1:00 am and you haven’t been successful all night long, so you automatically lower your standards and go for whoever you can possibly get so you can validate yourself that night.
Why? You do it so you can tell your friends you got a phone number. You, however, never tell your friends that it’s the phone number of a woman who was drunk, vomiting at the bar and won’t even remember who you are when you call her.
So, really, I think you know where I’m going with this. Why ever lower your standards?
The only reason why you ever lower your standards is because you don’t have the balls to talk to women to whom you are attracted. You get all full of panic because your ego wants something.
Your ego desires to get a phone number. It validates you that you actually could do something — even if it’s something that totally lowers your standards.
So, you know what? I’m going to have you download this new “Lower Your Standards” app from Apple. That way you can always kid yourself and think that you’re more successful than you really are.
The other option is for you to get on the ball and really start to meet the women to whom you are most attracted. Which option seems better?
CLICK HERE to find out the one way to never again be stuck settling and lowering your standards — and to always CHOOSE the women you want to meet.
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You can’t handle the truth . . . Then again, maybe you can. For some reason, though, we have turned into a society filled with liars.
It all started when we were first dating and made the “just the tip” promise. It continued into our 20s when we said we were only coming up for coffee.
We lie all the time . . . or do we?
To find out more, you will need to listen to today’s podcast.
I promise to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help me blog.
There is another guy I know who doesn’t hold ANYTHING back when it comes to telling the truth about sex and really big orgasms. Hear what he has to say about all this (and a few more of my thoughts on these topics as well!) by CLICKING HERE.
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We had a great conversation the other night while out to dinner with an old friend of mine. It was a conversation that made me realize something interesting. Men have mid-life crises all the time.
They go and stuff their big bellies into little tiny sports cars that make them look like they are sardines. They go out and get a young version of their already hot wife because they want an even younger version. They may even hire a hot secretary during their mid-life crisis to help them to feel sexy again.
Whatever a man’s mid-life crisis entails, men seem to be allowed to have one. Men are, to some extent, even expected to have a mid-life crisis of some sort. Men themselves feel entitled to one.
People will even comment about it matter-of-factly when it’s a man. They’ll say things like, “He bought that sports car because he is having a mid-life crisis” or “He dyed his gray hair black because he’s going through a mid-life crisis.”
Men are allowed to have a mid-life crises. They are allowed when they get divorced to have a mid-life crisis and date a 22 year-old whose vocabulary primarily consists of the words “awesome” and “dude.” (No offense to any of you 22 year-old women out there).
My question is this: What about the women? Why can’t they have a mid-life crisis?
Women who do have a mid-life crisis are usually called “cougars.” So let me get this straight. Women are animals because they have a mid-life crisis?
When women go out and buy a fancy sports car, all the men look at them and think, “That’s a cougar.” With a man, it’s not only allowed but expected. What about the woman who is married and has three kids who decides she doesn’t love her husband (aka “the supporter”) anymore.
For any of you who don’t know what a “supporter” is, it’s the sucker who married the hot woman who really didn’t love him and just wanted his money. The supporter is usually a manipulator and a control freak (among other things). If any of you supporters are reading it, you know who you are – so don’t deny it.
Usually women who have a mid-life crisis are ones who married a supporter – a guy to whom they were not really attracted in the first place — and then all of a sudden realize they are aging but still look good. So they want a second chance at something, which might be love or passion or something else.
When a woman has this instinct and acts upon it, she is deemed to have abandoned her family. In reality, what’s happened is that the woman is sick and tired of the supporter and realizes that maybe she has grown a little bit personally.
Women are entitled to their mid-life crisis. So to them, I say “Go for it” Women do not automatically become cougars just because they have a mid-life crisis. They are just going through the exact same thing men are.
Go to Orange County on any given day and take a look at the way some of those women dress who are in their 50s. They dress exactly like their daughter (or like they both bought all of their clothes from Forever 21).
They’re not ‘Forever 21.’ They are ‘constantly approaching 60.’ Maybe that should be a store for women having a mid-life crisis and we’d call it “Constantly Approaching 60.”
That way you can buy a replica of your daughter’s wardrobe at double the price. It’s like the opposite of what I tell my skinny Asian clients, i.e., that they can buy clothes in the boys department and get the same stuff at half the price.
Anyway, women are entitled to their mid-life crisis. Men do it all the time. I mean, salaries are getting more equal and life is more equal, so why can’t mid-life crises be equal as well.
So the next time any of you young guys screw a women who is a cougar, why don’t you just tell the truth? Say, “I had great sex with this woman who is going through her mid-life crisis and wanted an emotionally immature man who basically can f*^k her all night long.”
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It’s Monday. All right, so I missed with my Titans prediction. I did, however, hit with everyone else — which puts me at 11-1 now for the season going into tonight’s game. For that game, I predict the Vikings will beat the Packers.
11-1 . . . I am pretty impressed! What really does not impress me, though, are men who hang out with strippers and who pay strippers to hang out with them.
We had friends in town this past weekend who stayed at the 4 Seasons Hotel. We went there last night to hang out in the hotel’s hot tub.
There was a middle-aged man alone in the hot tub when we arrived. He seemed like a nice man. About three minutes later, though, three bimbos with long nails came bearing drinks and speaking in Paris Hilton-like sentences.
The man started talking about his hotel room and other such things. The women immediately started “wow-ing” about his big balcony. Then they got on the phone with their friends and started going on and on about how they got their nails done at the 4 Seasons and about the guy’s huge balcony.
You know, anyone can open their wallet and invite three bimbo strippers to their room. Unless you’re going to have the sex of your life, though, being forced to sit and listen to these women is just painful. I swear, Daphne had more to say than these women did.
Why is this such a thrill for guys? Here is this guy hanging out with a group of women who can only manage to speak in Paris Hilton type half-sentences. I never understand this.
Of course I get a guy liking younger women, but there’s certainly younger intelligent women he could find who would like him. The conversations they were having were so boring. No one was listening to each other. All I can think is, “Why?”
I know men, and I have coached men, who have done this. The sex is never any good, because the women aren’t into it. They just want the cash or the fringe benefits (like getting their nails done at the 4 Seasons).
What really happens is that the women just try to get the guy to come as quickly as possible. So who is winning here? It’s just so gross.
I’ve had casual sex, but I’ve never paid for sex. Maybe I’m just more evolved and maybe there are just less evolved people in this world . . . and that’s fine.
It’s fine if you’re the type of guy who looks at women like a piece of meat, is only interested in getting his dick stroked, and couldn’t care less about an emotional connection. That’s not the life I want. That’s not the life I teach.
When we were sitting in the hot tub, the man kept looking at me and smiling. It was like validation for him, as if he was saying with his smile “Look, I have three hot bimbos with me in the hot tub!” I ignored his smiles.
If you want to impress me, impress me with who you are as a person. I’m not impressed that you can get three strippers into a hot tub. That doesn’t impress me in the least.
While he was sharing a second grade-level conversation with those women, we were having a deep conversation about life. So why does he think I’d be impressed that he has three bimbos with him? Sometimes I’m embarrassed by my own gender.
So this kind of guy doesn’t impress me, nor does the guy who whips out the black American Express card at dinner. Why should I pay a couple thousand dollars a year to have a credit card that does the exact same thing as my free one?
I’m also not impressed by the guy who pulls in front of the coffee house in his Lamborghini but doesn’t bother to put money in the meter because he doesn’t care about getting a ticket. He figures, what’s a measly $60 to him.
If you want to impress me, get deep and tell me who you really are. I couldn’t care less about all this surface stuff.
Oh, and by the way Mr. Hot Tub from last night, I know you’re reading this today because I dropped my business card on your towel (and human intuition definitely wins out every time). This blog is dedicated to you.
I guarantee you got nothing out of last night, except a thinner wallet and maybe an orgasm. In reality, though, you are just as lonely today as you were yesterday.
So how do all of you feel about men who use their wallets on prostitutes and fancy cars just to prove how successful they are?
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