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Thursday, August 5th, 2010
Not too long ago in the blog, we talked about guys who act like an ass in the bar. For any of you who didn’t catch that other blog, I talked about how to deal with the annoying guy (who we’ll call “Mr. Attitude”) who comes and starts talking to a woman you’re talking to in the bar — particularly the guys who try to get the woman to walk away with them.
In that blog, I gave some advice on how to handle that situation, including leaving the decision of whether to stay talking to you or to leave with Mr. Annoying up to her. A few days after I posted that blog, I got an email from a guy who told me he had tried what I said and that it had worked! This guy said what I recommended in that blog, and (not surprisingly) the woman chose to stay with him instead of leaving with Mr. Annoying.
This guy was not just writing to let me know how well this technique worked though. His email went on to say that after the woman rejected Mr. Annoying, he started to try to pick a fight with this guy right there in the bar.
Here’s a guy who just can’t handle that someone else talked to the girl to whom he wanted to be talking. So what do you do in that situation? Here’s exactly what you do.
You take the girl by the hand, look at her and say, “Let’s go sit down over there with some of my friends. I want to introduce you to my crew.” Then you take her by the hand and sit down with your friends, or grab a table if you’re not there with friends.
In other words, you walk away. Mr. Annoying is a bully. You walk away from bullies.
Mr. Annoying is so sexually frustrated in his life, that all he wants to do is fight. Bullies like that are so pissed off that they don’t get what they want, that they go out at night with aggression and ready to fight. So you walk away.
There is power in walking away, because real men will walk away from Mr. Annoying. Less powerful men will challenge Mr. Annoying. They will engage with him.
A powerful man doesn’t do this. You are not only being a powerful man when you do this, but you are also showing that woman that you are a powerful man who has restraint as part of your personality.
That woman is going to admire the fact that you don’t have a temper. Women don’t want to be with a guy like that, because it reminds her of so many other guys she has known in the past.
Men are very testosterone-laden and women don’t want to see that crazy hot-tempered side of you. Women want men who are very even-keeled and can handle all situations.
Do that, and she’s going to look at you as someone with strength. It’s actually probably going to turn her on. The fact that you walked away from the idiot will turn her on, because a lot of guys would have just gone ahead and engaged with him (and maybe even got into a fight with him).
Let me tell you something, if you get into that fight with Mr. Annoying then neither of you would end up with that woman. Both of you would have gone home alone.
The lesson here guys? Walk away.
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Popularity: 7%
Tags: advice, attract women, attracting women, Date, dating, david wygant, how to attract women, how to be a better communicator, how to handle conflict, how to meet women, meet women, meeting women, meeting women in bars, tips, understanding women, when to walk away
Posted in College Dating, How To Be A Better Communicator, Life Style 101, Night Game, Understanding Female Psychology & Mindset | 13 Comments »
Tuesday, July 27th, 2010
A client of mine just asked me a great question, and I wanted to share it with all of you. He asked me, “What if I walk over to a woman and I say something that I think is absolutely hilarious, and she looks at me with a snotty look on her face and says ‘that’s not funny?’”
I told him that there is something I do every time in this situation. The first thing I do is stay in the situation, because I am a man of confidence, strength and conviction.
What I will do is look her directly in the eyes and say, “Well, obviously we don’t have the same sense of humor. It’s a good thing we found this out right now, before we got romantically involved.”
I’ll say it with a smile on my face. I bust her really hard on what she said.
I’ve done this a lot. What happens is that she’ll start cracking up and will say some something like, “Oh my God, now THAT’s funny!” Then I’ll say, “What? Funny that you and I are dating, or funny that you and I don’t have the same sense of humor?”
So do you see how this scenario can go very differently when you go into it with no fear, and when you challenge someone on what they say? You need to go into these situations not so outcome-oriented.
A lot of times guys will go into a situation like this thinking, “I’m going to go and flirt with her right now. I’m going to hope that she responds to me so I can get her number (even though I don’t even know anything about her yet).”
So by being not so outcome-derived, it allows you to speak your mind and allows you to eliminate being intimidated by somebody. Also, by challenging someone you are pushing them a little bit.
For example, the woman in the “that’s not funny” scenario above may have not thought what you said was funny because of nothing having to do with what you actually said. She might have been thinking about something else, like her friend yelling at her earlier that day, and she took it out on you.
Staying in the situation and challenging her like I’ve described gives you the opportunity to maybe turn the situation around. So the next time a woman tells you “that’s not funny,” say exactly what I said to say in this blog and then let the fun begin!
Popularity: 8%
Tags: advice, approach women, approaching women, Date, dating, david wygant, Day Game, how to approach women, how to talk to women, Night Game, opening lines, talk to women, talking to women, tips
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, College Dating, Day Game, High School Dating, How To Be A Better Communicator, Mindset, Night Game | 11 Comments »
Saturday, June 19th, 2010
What are you doing this weekend? Everybody loves to ask that question.
It’s almost like you’re comparing your weekend to their weekend. Maybe it’s just a phrase that we use over and over again.
What are you doing this weekend? The older you get, the more your weekends become very mellow.
I remember in my 20s, people would ask about my weekend and I would have a list of about forty things to do. “Oh my God, tonight I’m meeting some friends for happy hour and we’re going to go to this new bar that opened up on the upper Westside. Then we’re going to go to this club downtown. Tomorrow, I’m going to meet a couple guys for brunch. Then later in the afternoon, we’re going to go to this happy hour. Saturday night, we’re hitting some clubs. Then Sunday, we’re going to meet some more people for brunch.”
My weekend was so full, it’s no wonder I never felt relaxed in my 20s. I was always doing something on the weekends.
Now when people ask me what I’m doing this weekend, I say “Not much. Just chilling out. Watching a movie tonight. Getting some dinner. Staying home. Tomorrow night, maybe going out for dinner. Go for a bike ride maybe. Go for a walk.”
You kind of relax more as you get older. You tend to enjoy your weekends in a very different way.
When you’re in your 20s, you feel like you have to be doing so much on your weekends because if you’re not then your weekend is not going to be successful. I hated relaxing on my weekends when I was in my 20s. I really did.
Even when I had a summer share, I used to always make sure that I had eight million things to do. We’d go out drinking Friday night until 2:00 in the morning. We’d get up at 8:00, we’d play softball. Then, we’d go to the beach and go for a swim. Then, we’d go play some volleyball. Then, we’d pass out in the sun for a couple hours. Then, we’d start drinking at 5:00. Then, we’d go out again. Then Sunday, we’d wake up, play softball again.
By the time we left, all of us would be sleeping on the train. Of course, when we got back to the city we had to go see a movie. It’s always about doing things. But that’s what you do in your 20s.
You do much more on the weekends than you do in your 30s and 40s and 50s. Each time, though, is really good.
My relaxing weekends now are fantastic. My crazy weekends in my 20s were absolutely fantastic. It all depends on where you are at in your life.
So where are you at in your life, and what are you doing this weekend?
Popularity: 4%
Tags: barbecue, bars, clubs, david wygant, dinner, mellow, movie, nightclubs, relax, relaxing, weekends, what are you doing tonight, what to do on the weekends
Posted in Life Style 101, Night Game | 6 Comments »
Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010
So this is normally Podcast Wednesday, but I’ve decided to do something a bit different today. As you know I’ve been hard at work on a new product. A new product that you’ve been asking for – all about texting. Texting plays such a big part of peoples lives these days, and yet so many people don’t know how to use it to get what they want from the opposite sex…
Well, that’s what I’m here to help you with, and I’m excited about what I’ve got so far. For the past few days I’ve done nothing except go through the almost 1000 responses I’ve gotten from all of you, and all I can say is “Wow.” I’ve been overwhelmed by the response, this is obviously something you guys all want, and I’m making sure to include all the questions I keep seeing in my new product.
Listen below as I talk about one of the questions many of you had:
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[SURVEY CLOSED!]
For the rest of you who have already taken the survey and gotten on the list, thanks. Stay tuned tomorrow as I’ll have another update and answer another question I’ve been seeing a lot of from you…
UPDATE:
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Posted in Day Game, How To Be A Better Communicator, How To Start A Relationship, Night Game, One-Night Stands | 5 Comments »
Friday, April 16th, 2010
It’s Friday and you’re thinking, “Where do I go tonight? Should I go to a party? Should I go to the bar I normally go to on Friday nights, and just kick back and have some beers with friends? Should I maybe go to that new Irish pub on the corner? I heard it’s a lot of fun there.”
This blog has nothing to do with where you should go on Friday night. I think that no matter where you choose to go tonight, however, you just need to be sure you speak the Friday night language. It’s called “Drunklish.”
So what exactly is Drunklish? It is a combination of drunken banter and English.
In order to properly speak Drunklish, you need to have a little slur in your speech, speak a little louder than is normal and be kind of fixated on certain topics of conversation.
When you are being spoken to by someone speaking Drunklish, you almost feel like you are with your 80 year old grandmother who screams into the phone. A lot of the words are kind of slurred. You tend to swear more easily.
So tonight when you’re out sucking down a couple beers, I would suggest you stop before you start talking Drunklish. I had a really good friend who used to turn into an entirely different person when he started speaking Drunklish.
It was amazing. We would go out and have a couple drinks, and everything would be great. Then he’d suck down a few more drinks, and all of the sudden this other person would emerge speaking an entirely different language.
He would start speaking Drunklish. Then the rest of the night, I would have to basically deal with taking care of him.
When people start speaking Drunklish, they get stupid and loud and embarrassing. Instead of getting to talk to people, you have to spend the rest of your night watching what your friend is doing.
You have to make sure that they aren’t screaming at people, slurring their words and saying something stupid. It all comes with the territory when someone starts speaking Drunklish.
The biggest problem about speaking Drunklish, is that the only other people who can understand you are those who are also speaking Drunklish. If you speak Drunklish to people who are not speaking it, all they are going to do is laugh at you and say, “God, he is so wasted right now. It’s unbelievable. Why is he so loud? He sounds like my 79-year-old grandmother.”
Popularity: 7%
Tags: acting drunk, advice, beer goggles, Date, dating, david wygant, drunk, drunk talk, getting drunk, how to meet women, how to talk to women, meet women, meet women in bars, meeting women, Night Game, talk to women, talking to women, tips
Posted in College Dating, Humor & Just For Fun, Night Game | 24 Comments »
Tuesday, April 6th, 2010
I have a great new app for iPhones. It’s perfect. It’s something you need to install and download right away on your own phone.
As a matter of fact, I am going to call Apple, and I’m going to get this thing done.
It’s an app that is called “Lower Your Standards Time!”
Picture it. It’s 1:00 am and you’re standing in a bar. You’re drunk. All of a sudden your phone starts going crazy — beeping and vibrating. You look at it, and it says “It’s Lower Your Standards Time!”
“Look, there’s a drunk girl leaning against the bar right now. She just made out with a random guy in the corner. It’s time for you to go over there and get her number. It’s time to lower your standards!”
It is hilarious what we do at 1:00 am. It’s almost like we’re one of Pavlov’s dogs.
It is 1:00 am and you haven’t been successful all night long, so you automatically lower your standards and go for whoever you can possibly get so you can validate yourself that night.
Why? You do it so you can tell your friends you got a phone number. You, however, never tell your friends that it’s the phone number of a woman who was drunk, vomiting at the bar and won’t even remember who you are when you call her.
So, really, I think you know where I’m going with this. Why ever lower your standards?
The only reason why you ever lower your standards is because you don’t have the balls to talk to women to whom you are attracted. You get all full of panic because your ego wants something.
Your ego desires to get a phone number. It validates you that you actually could do something — even if it’s something that totally lowers your standards.
So, you know what? I’m going to have you download this new “Lower Your Standards” app from Apple. That way you can always kid yourself and think that you’re more successful than you really are.
The other option is for you to get on the ball and really start to meet the women to whom you are most attracted. Which option seems better?
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Popularity: 8%
Tags: advice, Date, dating, Dating Advice, david wygant, drunk, drunk girls, drunk girls in bar, ego, how to get a girl's number, iphone, iPhone app, lifestyle, lower your standards, Mindset, Night Game, one night stand, Pavlov's dogs, PickUp, pickup girls in a bar, pua, tips, validation
Posted in College Dating, Life Style 101, Mindset, Night Game, One-Night Stands | 29 Comments »
Friday, March 26th, 2010
A client of mine was just asking me about how to handle something that happens all too often in a bar. Now my client knows I am not a big fan of the bars, but lots of people do go to them.
It’s always good times when you go to the bar to have fun with your friends, and you run into who I call Mr. Testosterone . . . or, really, Joe Jerk. I call these guys Joe Jerk because they are guys who have been jerking off way too long and have way too much pent up energy.
Joe Jerk is the guy who will walk over to you, and try to get the girl you’re talking with to walk away with him. Here you are enjoying yourself at the bar talking to a girl. Joe Jerk will walk directly over to you using all his testosterone and say something like, “Dude, why are you still on it? She’s obviously not into you. Take a hike, man, so I can talk to her.” They go right for you.
I have something I want to tell all of you guys who do this kind of thing: It’s really ridiculous. It’s bravado. It’s that ‘macho man’ stuff that women really don’t like.
Even if you wanted to take a stab at doing something like this, this is totally the wrong way to do it. You would walk up to that woman and whisper in her ear, “Obviously you’re not into this guy. C’mon, let’s go. Just pretend you know me. We’ll walk away and you can buy me a drink for rescuing you from him.”
That’s what you do if you really wanted to go this route. You don’t try to get into a fistfight with some strange guy, just because you are frustrated that he approached the girl you wanted to talk to first. That doesn’t show any confidence.
If you see a girl talking to some guy, and you truly believe that she isn’t interested in that guy in the least, then try what I said above and give her the opportunity to walk away. If you do this, one of two things will happen.
If you’re right, you will have given her the opportunity to get away from a guy in whom she is not interested. Most likely, though, she’ll look at you and say “No thanks. I’m with him.”
The truth is that guys who pull this kind of crap are the same guys who get into their car and peel out like they’re sixteen years old. Even if a woman is not into that guy, you don’t look much better.
So if a guy does this to you in a bar when you’re talking to girl, you can look directly at him and say “You know what, let’s let the lady decide, because I personally think it is her choice. If she chooses you and your overwhelming personality, then that’s fine with me. I’ll go and talk to someone else.” Then you look directly at the girl, smile and say, “Your choice.”
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Popularity: 11%
Tags: advice, approach women, approach women in bars, approaching women, bars, Date, dating, Dating Advice, dating etiquette, david wygant, how to approach women, how to meet girls, how to meet women, jerk, jerking off, masturbation, meet girls, meet women, meet women in bars, meeting girls, meeting women, Night Game, she's just not that into you, testosterone, tips, understanding women
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, College Dating, Dating Etiquette, How To Be A Better Communicator, Night Game | 18 Comments »
Friday, March 12th, 2010
So you walk up to a woman and you start talking to her. It could be about anything. It could be about something really simple.
Say you are looking at a sushi bar and you say to her, “Man, there’s a lot of different colors here” and she ignores you. What do you do next?
A lot of guys run. They play the “oops I spoke and you didn’t respond right away so I’m going to run and hide” game. The guys who run in this situation do so without realizing a lot of things.
They do so without realizing that the person they talked to might be shy. In fact, that person might even be shyer than you.
You might have taken her off guard, and she wasn’t ready for a conversation. She might have been thinking about something else. You have no idea because you are not inside her head.
So let’s go back to the sushi scenario. In that situation, here is how I would handle it.
If when I say the observation about the colors the woman looks taken aback, then I would say to her, “What are you getting? What’s good here?” I would give her the opportunity to respond.
Think about yourself and how many times you are out somewhere — at the market, a coffee house, a clothing store or wherever — and you are trapped in your own thoughts. You might be thinking about your day, about work, about what you have to do when you get home or even about your underwear. Who knows?
Just think about how many times you are stuck in your own thought process. So, with that in mind, give someone another shot to respond to you before you bail in these situations thinking someone blew you off.
You may not be getting blown off at all. You might have just caught her stuck in her own thoughts and shocked her for a moment.
That is all it takes. Give it another whirl. If she still ignores you, then maybe she isn’t interested.
If that is the case, then you move on and say “no chemistry” to yourself. Then you think, “They weren’t interested. Who cares? Next!”
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Popularity: 19%
Tags: advice, approach women, approaching women, chemistry, Date, dating, Dating Advice, david wygant, Day Game, how to approach women, how to talk to a woman, how to talk to women, Mindset, Night Game, PickUp, pua, Rejection, sushi, sushi bar, talking to women, tips, understanding women, what to say next, what to say to woman
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, College Dating, Day Game, High School Dating, How To Be A Better Communicator, Night Game, Rejection, Understanding Female Psychology & Mindset, Understanding Male Psychology & Mindset | 16 Comments »
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