A real man walks over to a woman in whom he is interested. He gets to know her. He realizes that he is a catch. If he finds something attractive about her, then he asks her out and gets her phone number.

A real man will call her up the very next day (or even maybe that night) and set up a date with her, because he wants to get to know her. A real man doesn’t hesitate.

A real man makes decisions. Even when a decision takes time to make, once a real man makes that decision he sticks to it and stands behind it. I know sometimes it takes me a month or two to make a decision on certain important issues in my life, but once I make a decision I never waiver backwards.

I never think to myself, did I make the right decision? Is this the right decision? Should I have gone the other direction?

Sometimes it takes me two months to just buy a car. Once I buy that car, though, I know I’ve made the right decision and I don’t look back.

Sometimes it takes me three months to process something personal that’s going on in my life. Once I make a decision about it , though, I move forward and stick with that decision. I don’t go back and think about the other options I was considering.

A real man walks into a room and smiles. A real man walks into that room and talks to people that he finds interesting.

A real man walks through life knowing that he’s a success. A real man takes risks — business, personal, and everything else. He realized that even when he fails, it’s a lesson that he needed to learn and he embraces it.

A real man does not blame anybody for anything that he’s done, and just accepts things as they come along. More importantly, a real man protects the people that he loves, and is loyal to everybody that he loves.

A real man is loyal to his family. A real man steps up for his kids, his wife, his friends. He never leaves them hanging.

A real man picks up the phone when a friend is in need. A real man picks a friend up when he is in need.

This is what I feel a real man is like. Are you a real man?

When you speak, you speak from your heart. You can articulate your words without any judgment.

This is one reason I love Copytalk. You call them up, speak into your phone — talking to the air really — and speak your thoughts. This allows you to learn how to journal without editing your thoughts.

When you write, you’ll tend to re-read sentences. You’ll take something out because you’ll start thinking about what you wrote. You start editing your own thoughts.

What we are all really trying to do is to become better men and women. So we need to really try to stop editing ourselves and our thoughts.

We spend so much time editing ourselves every single day. When we see someone to whom we’re attracted, we know we want to go over and talk to them.
What we do, though, is talk to them based on edited conversation we’ve had in our heads before we ever spoke to them.

So being able to really just say what you feel, and to articulate it, is amazing. If you journaled using Copytalk and did this, then when you got the transcription back, you could read your thoughts out loud to yourself (which is very powerful) and add more thoughts to them.

When you start to read your thoughts, you’re going to realize that all the things you say are really beautiful. Yes, they are also vulnerable and they might scare you a little bit at times, but they’re amazing.

The most important thing to remember is that whatever they are, they are your thoughts. In order to be able to go out and meet people you will love, you need to be able to articulate your thoughts this way.

When you read back the dictation that you get from Copytalk, you need to read it back with no judgment. You need to look at what you said as being where you were in your life and in your mind just on that particular day. Think to yourself, “Wow, that was me on April 2nd. That’s cool that I felt that way.”

You will then start to own your thoughts and your feelings, and realize that you are an amazing person. You will realize that you are a gift to the world.

Not only that, but if you would send all of your transcriptions to friends and family members, I guarantee that they would get to know you in a whole different light. They would look at you and say, “Man, I can’t believe it. You’ve never expressed that to me. That’s a beautiful thing.”

Part of what I do whenever I coach a client, is to make them get a three month subscription to Copytalk. Then I make them send me all of their raw thoughts. Of course, I then get on Copytalk myself and send my raw thought reactions right back to them. All of this helps them to get raw with themselves.

The beauty of life is being able to say freely what you feel and what you desire without judgment. It’s funny how people are always looking for validation from other people.

Really you should never be looking for validation from others. When you seek validation from others it is based on your own insecurity.

Life is a mirror. We get exactly who we really are — the true person we are 24/7 and not the edited version of ourselves.

So get raw with yourself. Enjoy yourself and don’t be afraid of anything you have to say, because everything you say is beautiful — a beautiful thought or a beautiful emotion.

If any of you are ready to really get raw, get yourself a Copytalk membership and start exploring yourself. Start realizing that all of the things you say and do are there for you and everyone else to enjoy. And if you do get copytalk tell them that i referred you.

Recently I posted this up on you tube and some of the you tube flamers totally took things the wrong way, what a shock right!

You need to watch this and think about how your life would change if you could say whats on your mind.

When you are done watching answer this question.

How would your life change if you could speak your mind?

What would you say first and to whom?

Self Perception is everything.

How does that relate to the way you conduct your life everyday?

Are you even aware of what your energy, attitude and the way you feel about yourself convey to others.

It really is everything that determines whether you are going to be successful in whatever you are doing at this present moment.

This weekend is all about chasing the 4th of July festivities. Are you really in tune with yourself and when you arrive at your destination what do you think people see?

I want you all to think about this today.

When you say you are going to do something, do you actually follow through and do it? When you say you’re going to meet somebody, do you actually meet them at the time you stated you were going to meet them? When you’re going to do a favor for somebody, do you do that favor or does the person have to ask you to do it over and over again?

Living life with integrity means actually committing to the things you say and to the actions that you promise. Nothing irritates me more than when someone tells me they are going to do something, and then I have to hound them to get it done.

It’s annoying to have to ask someone five or six times before they will do what they said they would do. This is especially true in professional or business situation.

In business, if you have to ask someone somebody five or six times to do something, then it means that person is really not a good worker and doesn’t take pride in their work. Even in a personal setting, you should never have to ask a friend to something several times before they will do it. The same thing is true in a relationship.

Become somebody who commits to your word, and other people with really respect you so much more. Even more importantly, be a person of your word so that you can respect yourself.

So many people answer the phone like they’re expecting bad news. They say “Hello” in a mumbled or depressed sounding voice. Other people say “Hello” like they are annoyed or angry, and as if you disturbed them with your call.

It’s funny. Sometimes your first contact with someone is via a phone conversation. How they sound when they answer the phone tells you so much about their personality.

If they answer in that angry tone, you will be thinking “Oops, I’m sorry I annoyed you. Why did you pick up the phone?”

If they answer in that depressed mumbled voice, you’ll be thinking “It sounds like you want to kill yourself today with your pillow. Sorry that you actually picked up the phone.”

How you answer the phone may be the first contact you have with somebody. So do it with enthusiasm.

Don’t yell and scream your “Hello.” When I say to be enthusiastic, I mean that you should just answer the phone with a friendly sounding “Hey,” “Hello” or “Hi.”

If I see on the Caller ID who is calling, I like to answer the phone using the person’s name. “Hey Jim. Thanks for calling me . . . ”

Find your own unique style, but make sure that it’s something that gives the caller the feeling that it was actually a good idea to call you. Be sure the caller doesn’t feel like they are bothering you by calling.

Just a short little tip today that I thought all of you could use. Oh, and next time you call me I’ll say “Hey ________. Great to hear from you!”

That’s a great quote. I love that quote. I’m going to agree with it . . . 100%.

Forget about all the experts — especially in dating and finance. I mean, come on.

Look how great Americans are in finance. Look at all the great things they’ve done to themselves.

Look at the number of people who have borrowed against their house thinking that the real estate market was going to go up 100% every year. Look at the situation those people are in right now. Look at all the people who kept their money in the stock market during the .com heyday, thinking their stocks would go up 200% every year.

Yes, people don’t need financial help at all. People – the majority of people – clearly need a lot of financial help. Something like 95% of people who win the lottery are broke within six years.

People need financial help! A friend of mine bought a house in 2005. In Los Angeles, houses went up in value 132% in five years. He thought that houses would continue to go up and up because there is no more land in Los Angeles. Now he’s lost $300,000.

So according to that quote, people don’t need financial help? It’s “just plain common sense?” Really? I love that quote.

As for dating, sure I’ll agree that it too is “just plain common sense.” In this case I’m actually not being sarcastic.

The problem is that people don’t trust themselves when it comes to dating. They’re afraid to approach. They’re afraid to say what’s on their mind.

When they’re on a date, they’re afraid to challenge somebody because they are looking for validation and approval. They want to be liked. They want to be loved.

Don’t get me wrong. I love people who figure things out on their own. I love people who are financially secure or are great at dating all on their own.

The problem is that most of those people think that everyone else should be just like them. It was so easy for them, and they have no compassion for others who are screwing up in those areas and aren’t mastering them on their own.

Let me tell you, the 80/20 rule is true, and 80% of the world is screwing up. They don’t get it. They don’t understand. 80% of the world can’t balance their own checkbook, make a budget or walk across the room to approach someone of the opposite sex.

So when people say something like the quote I put at the beginning of the blog, I say to them, “You have no compassion.” If you need help in one part of your life, you should go and get it!

If you need financial help, there are financial people from whom you can get help. If you need help with dating, there are people like myself who can help you.

Really, a lot of what I teach is to get people to trust their instincts. I teach people how to trust themselves, love themselves and how to be more self-aware.

Shame on you to the person who gave me the quote that started this blog, for thinking that nobody needs to be taught these things. Shame on you.

There are so many people out there who are lonely, angry, upset, and broke. So many lonely people who can’t date, who can’t make the right relationship choices, but according to the person who gave me that quote they should just figure it out on their own. It’s all instincts and common sense.

The problem is that these people’s instincts and common sense haven’t gotten them anywhere. So why pass judgment about these people, and about their decisions to seek help. Passing judgment on people is the reason we’re in such a mess in this country.

I love that I teach people how to date, how to meet people and how to love themselves. It’s an honor for me to do that. I have compassion for it and I enjoy it.

So come on folks. Stop judging others who are having trouble with some part of their life, and start supporting them.

I can imagine what happens when the woman who gave me the quote at the beginning of the blog has a friend come to her for advice. She probably just says to her friend, “Just use your common sense.” I can also imagine how badly and how uncomfortable that friend must feel after hearing that.

What this woman should say to a friend like that is, “You know, I might have gotten that part of my life in order, but I can totally understand where you are at and how you feel. Let’s find you some help and the right people to talk to about this, so you can make this part of your life amazing.”

Let’s start supporting each other and stop judging each other.

It’s amazing, though, how many people will email me and this will be the sum total of their message: “I saw a woman on the street I want to meet and I don’t know what to do. I always think I’ll be able to talk to her, but I’m so afraid approaching women. I feel like a total loser. I don’t really know what to do. Help me, you’re my last chance.”

That’s it. No salutation at the beginning of the email — No “Dear David” or “Hey David” or even “Hi.” They’ll just go right into what they want from me right off the bat.

Also, there will be no name or salutation at the end of the email. It’s amazing how many people out there have no social grace whatsoever. None, zero.

I mean, you’re asking me a question, but you can’t even say hello at the beginning of the message or thank you – let alone identify yourself by name? It actually doesn’t surprise me, because there are so many people out there who who don’t understand the importance — and don’t have the confidence — to say their own name.

I recently did a seminar, at which I stood outside the room and greeted everyone as they came in the room. I did this because I wanted to see how many people would actually stop and introduce themselves to me. While many said “Hi” or “Hey David,” virtually no one introduced themselves by name.

Your name is important. You need to be confident and proud of who you are. Don’t give your power away to anybody else.

Don’t ever send an email to someone without addressing the other person by their first name, and without signing your name at the end. Based on the number of people I see who don’t do either of these things, it almost seems like an epidemic.

For a while, I did a Q&A day on the blog in which I would answer questions from readers in the blog. Do you know that almost no one who sent me questions (or whose question I answered) ever said thank you? I was taking time out to help people, and there was almost no appreciation from anyone. It kind of blows me away.

Becoming good socially can start with things as simple as your email and voicemail messages. On your voicemail message, use your name. Say something like, “Hey, this is David. Thanks for calling . . .”

It is important for all of you to realize that first impressions are everything. If you don’t introduce yourself properly or don’t write an email properly, then that is the first impression you are giving to others about you, your confidence and your social grace.

I don’t always wear a watch and I barely look at the clock, but yet I get everything done that I need to each day. I don’t work eight hours a day either. I work less than that.

All of you see the amount of stuff that comes up on my site — videos, blogs, coaching and so forth. People sometimes ask me if I work 24/7, but the truth is that I don’t.

I’m just really good at managing my time. When I sit down at my desk to work, I sit down at my desk to work. I do not answer texts from friends. I don’t answer phone calls from friends during the day. I don’t answer emails from friends during the day. When I was single, I didn’t get on online dating sites and work on my dating life during the day.

When I sit down at my desk to work, I work. No disturbances.

I also put together a “to do” list with everything I need to get accomplished that day, and I get rid of everything on that list by the end of the day. When a work email or IM comes in, I answer it right away so it doesn’t get lost in the shuffle. If a customer emails me, I email them back right away if they have a question about a product or coaching.

If they send me a question and want free dating advice, I don’t answer that. I have coaching programs on my website. So to all the people who keep emailing me wanting free dating advice, I suggest you check out the 3 email coaching package I have for $99.00. Grab that and you will have my undivided attention.

Time management is really important, and so many people are so bad at it. They start a task, and then they get distracted — they turn on the television or the radio — and the next thing you know, the task isn’t getting done.

When I’m working I am working. Do not bother me or disturb me, and I’ll get everything done.

Sometimes I write thirty blogs in an hour. Crazy, isn’t it? I get it done, though, because I’m laser focused. When I’m creative, I don’t let anybody bother me.

So the next time your friends text you in the middle of the day or some girl wants to hook up later that night just tell her, “Look, I’m working right now. I’ll see you later. Looking forward to it!”

Stay laser focused in work and you will be successful in your career. True entrepreneurs are laser focused, and they don’t let anything disturb them and keep them from getting everything done. That’s what good time management is all about.

You think to yourself, “Do they just smoke pot all day long?” In California, pot is just about legal so the answer might be yes.

There are just some people who don’t take any pride in their job. They are what I call “perpetually out of it.” You always feel like they’re off in another world.

I’m somebody who takes real pride in their work. I try to remember everything that I do, and everything that I say. When I don’t, I apologize for it. If I forget to answer an email, I’ll apologize and say “Can you please send me that again so I can help you.”

There are some people, however, who just don’t take any pride in their job. They don’t like their job. They don’t enjoy their job. They think their job is beneath them, so they don’t do the best job they possibly can.

Something that I learned a long time ago, is that you have to do the best job possible no matter what job you’re doing. The only way to succeed in life is to do everything 100% and put your whole effort into everything you do.

By doing a great job in whatever you do, you’re going to succeed in life. You’re going to move forward in life. You’re also finally going to learn how to really connect with everyone else, because you’re going to be 100% present in everything you do.