You’ve been dreaming of this night for most of your adult life. It seems like it’s every man’s ultimate sexual fantasy: meeting the woman cool enough to want to invite a friend over for a three-way.

You’ve heard rumors about the three-way. You’ve had friends who have experienced it, and they all tell you it’s like living your own private porn.

What people fail to talk about when it comes to a three-way, however, is the emotional repercussions that occur the day after a three-way. Welcome to a really tough time in your adult adolescence.

In order to make a three-way successful and make it work, you need to realize that this “ultimate male fantasy” has to be only about her. Let’s say your girlfriend comes to you and says, “I really want to do this because I think it will really turn me on to see you and I with my best friend.”

In that situation, you need to ask her some questions and talk to her more about it before you even consider doing it. You need to talk to her ahead of time about what the parameters will be, because if you overstep certain boundaries she has you might ruin the relationship (not only with her but also between her and her friend).

A three-way always sounds good ‘on paper.’ Three-ways in fantasy land are always amazing.

Three-ways in the real world are very emotionally confusing, especially if you get so turned on that can’t keep your hands off the friend (and end up ignoring your girlfriend). That does happen.

It happens because as men, we are wired to always want the new. Take a man to a car dealership for two hours, and watch him test-drive four different cars for two straight hours. The man will leave with a car. Why? Because we always want bigger, better and more fun.

Put a hot woman that your girlfriend brings over in front of you, and no matter what the boundaries are — whether it’s no penetration or not — and you are going to spend more time on the friend (because she is the “new one”). You’ve already had the old one plenty of times. That toy is getting old for you now.

A three-way is a male fantasy, but be sure to realize that it has to be all about her and be done according to her rules and parameters. So whatever your girlfriend says, you need to respect.

It’s fun to have a wild and crazy woman in bed. It’s a lot of fun to be with a woman who likes a lot of sexual exploration. You don’t want to ruin that just because you think the three-way is supposed to be a certain way.

Allow it to be however it’s going to be, and remember one thing which is the most important advice I can give you: Make it about her and her pleasure, and it’s amazing how far you can stretch those boundaries.

How much masturbation is healthy for you? How much is overboard? How many times in a day should you masturbate? That’s right, how many times per day? You know quite a number of people who actually masturbate two to three times a day, and I’m not talking about just men, I’m talking about women also.

What is a healthy balance between masturbation and actually going out and trying to have real sex?

The problem is so many people become masturbation dependent, that they don’t even try to have real sex, and when they do finally have sex, especially women, since they’ve been vibrating way too much, can’t orgasm. Because their damn clitoris is so numb from having Bob take care of it all the time. And no I’m not talking about Bob, I’m talking about “Bob,” her battery-operated boyfriend. Bob wishes he was battery operated.

So many women are in that spot that they masturbate way too much with their vibrator, that they can’t even get off with a man anymore. So, the question today is, how much masturbation is too much, and when do you stop masturbating, and start building up your sex drive again?

Think about your past relationships at the point they were ending, or at the point when you and your partner were “on the outs.” All of a sudden you get to a point in the relationship where you’re having sex, you’re fighting, and you’re not really connecting.

Then one day you’re angry because you haven’t had enough sex, so you beat off. You think to yourself, “This isn’t bad. I can do this again.” The next time you fight with your partner and have sex, you realize it’s not really working at all. You jerk off again.

Pretty soon you are jerking off a couple of times a week. You start to not care anymore about having sex with your partner. You are able to fight with your partner without any emotion.

You become a lot more mellow because you’re not dying for them. You’re not relying on them sexually. You’re not needing them sexually anymore. You’re just basically alright with wherever you are.

It’s the weirdest thing, but if you think about it there is almost a cycle to masturbation.

When you first meet a woman (or a man), you’re really hot for them — and even have sexual fantasies when you think about them — so you masturbate.

Then you start having sex with that person all the time, and you don’t need to masturbate anymore.

You will masturbate for fun, like if you masturbate together. You show each other how you touch yourself. You turn each other on that way.

Maybe you will masturbate alone if you’re not with your partner for a week. You’ll always tell your partner about it, though, and turn each other on by doing that.

At some point in the relationship, you start masturbating two or three times a week, and are hardly having sex anymore with your partner. You start to think, “What went wrong here?”

What went wrong is that you’re not connecting anymore. What went wrong is that you’re not sexually turned on by that person anymore.

At that point, you realize that it’s not worth it – what you’re going through in that relationship — because you’re not connecting and you’re fighting all the time. Looking at when, how and why you’re masturbating in a relationship is usually an indication of what’s going on in that relationship.

“What are you doing tonight?”

“Not much, I think I’m going to go home and masturbate.”

It would be funny if people talked that way, and were very frank about masturbation.

“What did you do last night?”

“Not much. Watched a movie, masturbated for a while and ate some dessert afterwards. Couldn’t fall asleep, so I masturbated again.”

Masturbation is such a taboo topic for people. For some reason or another, people are just afraid to admit that they masturbate.

There are a lot of people in relationships who sneak their masturbation sessions. They don’t tell their partner that they masturbated. They actually don’t tell anyone that they masturbated.

They sneak it. It’s a private thing. It’s not something you ever want to discuss with others.

I think it would be fun if you just walked up to somebody and said, “Hey, any good masturbation sessions lately?” You’d have a far better conversation than you would have by walking up to someone and asking about the weather.

About what would you rather talk — your masturbation session or the next range of thunderstorms coming?

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It’s amazing what a good orgasm will do. I’m not talking about self-administered orgasms.

To tell you the truth, those kind of orgasms are lame. They really are.

It doesn’t take much skill to plug a vibrator into the wall, put it on your clit and fifteen seconds later scream “Ohhhhhh!” as you come. Bravo! Let me give you a standing ovation. Also, to the men out there who are beating off in the middle of the day over the sink with hand lotion they stole from their grandmother, I say get real!

Those are not the kind of orgasms I am talking about here. What I am talking about is the sex you have in a relationship that makes the fights go away.

Now, I’m also not talking about taking off your clothes, humping and getting each other off (basically masturbating inside each other). That is not what sex is all about.

Granted, I’ve had relationships in which the sex was really just about masturbating inside each other. I’m sure all of you have.

What I am talking about here is being connected to each other’s needs, wants and desires leading up to sex. That means tuning in to how your lover needs to be taken.

Are you someone who just needs to be thrown down on the ground in a testosterone-driven rage and be taken while they look in your eyes? Are you someone who needs verbal foreplay? Whatever it is, we are all very different sexually.

We all love the act itself. Who doesn’t love the warmth and the moisture and the heat of that whole experience?

I remember when I was a baby what my first words were to my Mother. I said, “Wow, it’s so warm in your amniotic sac.”

When I slid my way out, I couldn’t wait to get back in. It took me eighteen and a half years to get back inside.

The bottom line here is to know how you are wired sexually. What do you need the most in your lover? This is something I want all of you to think about today.

Do you need someone to seduce you? Do you need someone who will look in your eyes and talk dirty to you in order to turn you on?

Are you someone who likes to get raw and dirty, and just be taken? You want to have dinner, go home and have your lover f*^k the shit out you?

Write down whatever it is that you want and need. This is very important and something that a lot of people overlook.

Like your good friend Dr. David says, “an orgasm a day keeps the Tyson away.” It keeps the fighting away.

The only issue, and what’s important, is how we get to that orgasm. You may not be aligned with somebody sexually; they may be a totally different sexual type than you are. In that situation you might be having great sex, but it doesn’t mean you are being fulfilled.

So it’s really important before you get into a relationship (or even if you’re in one already), that you are straight about who you are sexually. Be honest about who you are and what you want. This is so important because once you start having sex with someone, it’s very hard (no pun intended) to make changes.

See everyone tomorrow!

It’s 2010. So I want all of you to read this statement and tell me how it makes you feel, and what 2010 means to you:

“Every Day is like New Years – Every day has magic in it. All people need to do is open their eyes!”

Oh, and one last thing…

Today I have a new year’s resolution for all the men out there who think that porn is their friend. Watch this to see why this hobby may be destroying any intimacy you will evey have:

I don’t care who makes it from the National League, because the Yankees are winning it all this year. You can take that prediction to the bank . . . and maybe even to the bedroom.

Life is not fair.  The other night I was having a conversation with someone about sex. I’m not going to tell you all the specifics, other than to tell you that after that discussion, I was absolutely orgasm envious! So let’s talk about orgasms, and I will tell you the reason why I’m orgasm envious.

By the way, if I could have one wish it would be that I could have a vagina for a day. I just think it would be so much fun. I already know exactly what kind of orgasms I’d want to have. I’d love to know how to have multiple orgasms through all different ways.

I’d want to have a g-spot orgasm. Of course there is the clitoris, so I’d want at least one clitoral orgasm (since the only reason it exists is for pleasure). Then there is this other place way back in the bowels of the vagina that supposedly can create a whole other type of orgasm.

I mean, give me a break. Right there, that’s three different kinds of orgasms! We men only get one kind.

I really don’t, however, want to talk today about the unfairness of orgasm counts between the sexes. What I really want to talk about today is sexual prime.

By the time men hit the age of 25, they are basically out of their sexual prime. Age 25? Half of the guys out there don’t even get laid enough to enjoy their sexual prime while they’re in it. Then by the time they are getting enough sex, they are already out of their sexual prime.

Women, on the other hand, don’t hit their sexual prime until they are around 37 years old. Think about the way that balances out.

By the time a guy is 37 years old, he isn’t exactly producing the same amount of “little swimmers” as he used to produce. Not only that, he doesn’t really want to have sex five times a day anymore (while women at that same age are machines!).

It’s no wonder that 37 year old women are the number one consumers of vibrators. They can basically vibrate their day away.

It’s really not fair the way things line up here. It really seems like things are very askew. It’s no wonder that there are so many cougars running around out there.

If I were a 37 year old woman who was hanging out with a Viagra-infused 55 year old guy with no stamina, I would certainly go find myself a young buck. I mean look at Demi Moore.

Don’t ever give her a hard time. She has a guy who is (whoops, I mean was) in his sexual prime. Wait, she may need to go find someone even younger. Justin Timberlake and Zach Efron, Demi Moore may be calling you really soon.

All joking aside, it just doesn’t seem right how the sexual prime thing is set up. Is this God’s way of punishing us? Someone was being mean when they designed the penis and the vagina. Why aren’t those two things created to be in alignment with one another?

Can all the guys remember when you were 18 and you basically would hump the air every five seconds (almost like a dog that humps the air all the time)? The reason why you were humping air was because you constantly wanted your dick to be touched.

I remember when I was 18 years old. I was so penis conscious, it was ridiculous. I felt my penis nonstop. No, I don’t mean that I touched my penis nonstop. I was just aware of it nonstop.

My penis led my life. It made me sleep with some really iffy women. It wasn’t my idea to sleep with them. It was my penis’ idea.

Not only that, but some guys can’t snuggle with a woman until they hit 28 years old. When you are a male who is 22 or 23 years old and your girlfriend asks you to snuggle, you have to go to the bathroom and snap a load off before you can do it.

This sexual prime gap between men and women just does not seem fair. Something is kharmically wrong here! It’s a mean joke. It’s like our sexual primes should have been matched.

Then again, some of this seeming mismatch may actually have been designed better than we thought. So although a guy past his sexual prime may no longer be able to pump and grind five times in one night, he can really satisfy a woman during the one time they do it and will be more likely to want to engage in a lot more of the foreplay that women crave so much.

You take things out of context when you read, and if you do it while you’re reading then I know you do it when you’re listening. My blogs are short, but if you want to get the whole message then you have to read them from beginning to end.

I posted a blog the other day that was titled “We’re Pregnant!” I got congratulatory messages all day long on Facebook, on the blog and in my email inbox. If you’d actually read even the first four lines of that blog, however, you would know that Sonja and I aren’t not pregnant and that the blog was about how men use the phrase ‘we’re pregnant.’

Enough about that blog, except that it’s interesting how life is all about perception. Some of you perceived that my girlfriend and I were pregnant.

It was probably the same group of people who don’t listen to what people say, and have difficulty transitioning into deeper, more meaningful conversations with people to whom they are attracted. Life is all about perception, but you’ve got to listen and communicate everything in order to get what you want.

It’s funny. I have someone who works for me who wants to know why they aren’t making more money. It’s not that I’m not paying them well. It’s that they are not doing what they are supposed to be doing (and need to be doing) to earn more.

If they’re not on Skype during the day, I can’t get a hold of them when I need to do so, and they are on the bottom of the sales numbers every month, then I will perceive them as lazy. I will perceive them as not having a good work mindset.

Now, if you want to masturbate the day away, that’s your business. I’m not talking about physically masturbating (although some people do). I am talking about mental masturbation.

People who don’t take action often times are mental masturbators. They’ll mentally masturbate about having great sex, losing that weight, being able to approach the opposite sex, or whatever it may be.

Mental masturbation is no different than physical masturbation. You just get off in a very different way.

You think about the big home you’re going to have, the car you’ll be driving or taking over a business. In reality, though, you’re still the same person who is getting nothing done and who has the same poor work habits.

Life is full of fears, and unfortunately some of us spend more time mentally masturbating away our fears instead of actually doing something about them. It’s no different than masturbating with your hand or a vibrator. Think about it.

Whenever you get off alone, it’s never even close to how good it is to get off with someone with whom you’ve connected. In a work context, whenever you actually accomplish a goal it is always so much better than mentally masturbating it. Approaching actual women and learning how to be confident doing will always feel better than mentally masturbating all the women you want to approach.

Eventually you have to overcome your fear and just do these things. I am a doer, not a talker.

I am not attracted to talkers. I’ll coach them, but I don’t have any friends in my life who are talkers. I surround myself with doers.

With whom do you surround yourself — doers or talkers? Do you surround yourself with a bunch of mental masturbators so you can stroke each other all day long and never get to your destination?

That’s all for this topic. Speaking of stroking, though, today’s video will tell you how to stroke women so they’ll climax like never before. Ahhh…your mind is so dirty right now, but the sexual technique I’m going to show you will stroke women in a place you would have never thought of…

Have a great day!

Do you know what I like about getting deep and really talking like this? You learn so much about yourself, about your lover and about how to get closer to each other.

I truly believe that in order to make things amazing in your relationship, you need to get down to the core of your behaviors. I’m going to share more about this a future blog.

Right now, though, let’s talk about another conversation. One that is needed for all lovers to share…
You know, it’s really interesting. I was recently talking to a female client who said to me, “David, I’m having this great sexual relationship with a man but I don’t really know how to communicate things. I love what he does to me, but I don’t know how to communicate more with him in bed.”

Then I asked her a list of things to find out what she likes that he does to her, and also told me what he likes to do and the kind of sex they have together. She also told me what she likes that he does.

So I asked her, “Do you tell him this? Do you tell him that you love when he has sex with you in certain ways? Do you tell him that you love when he goes down on you in a certain way? Do you tell him that you love the way he massages your body? Do you tell him any of that?”

She said, “No I don’t.” I told her that as a man, I want to be told those kind of things.

Let’s say I have great sex with a woman or try a new position or something and the next day she tells me how much she loved what I did to her with that new position. What am I going to want to do? I’m going to want to do it again and again in that position. Even if it wasn’t my favorite position in the world, I’m going to want to do it again and again and again.

Why? I want to do that because in these situations I’m fully embracing their wishes and desires. I’m putting it in my memory bank.

Every time each of you put something in your memory bank, what you’re doing is programming each other. I think everyone needs to reprogram their lover in every which way.

You need to forget about the past, and you need to look at your lover and start finding new ways to make love to each other. So, every single time your lover tells you something that they loved sexually that you did, put it in that memory bank and remember it.

You need to encourage the other person. If the other person does something to you one night and it feels great, encourage them. Say, “I love the way you do that…” What happens when you start doing that, is they are going to want to do those things to you over and over again.

Thank that person for giving themselves to you. Don’t expect, but thank that person. Start doing thiss and your sex life is going to go off the charts.