In over 14 years of doing this, I think I have heard it all. I think I have heard every fear imaginable — fear of approaching, fear of getting intimate, fear of saying what’s on your mind and even fear of initiating that first kiss.
You guys have labeled all these things in so many different and creative ways, from monkey chatter to approach anxiety. I mean, if you Google “fear,” it is amazing how many different versions of it will pop up in the search results.
What I am about to share with you in today’s podcast is going to blow you away. I know that every week I tell you that the podcast is the most powerful one ever, but that is because every week I come up with something more powerful than the week before.
In this podcast, I am going to tell you why there are only two emotions in this world: one is love and the other is fear. Hate is fear. Approach anxiety is fear.
Love and fear really are the only two emotions, and in this podcast I explain to you how to really embrace loving everything and fearing nothing. Click here to listen now:
Also, if you want to learn how to truly embrace love in your life and also how to truly erase fear, then you need to check out my Men’s “What’s Your Excuse?” and my Women’s “No Excuses” programs.
Take advantage of where you live. We tend to not take advantage of the things around us.
I remember that while I lived in New York City, I never went to the theater. Never. I didn’t really take advantage of the museums either.
Even though I don’t really like the theater or museums that much, it is still unbelievable that I didn’t take advantage of them at all while I lived there. I did take advantage of the restaurants and other things, but you get the idea.
Now I live on the beach. I remember before I moved here and I lived in Brentwood (which is about 20 minutes from the beach), I used to drive down to the beach three or four nights a week to do my cardio, get some air and get grounded.
Now that I live on the beach, I never want to walk the beach at night. I never even walk it during the day. I just look at it. It’s pretty. It’s beautiful. It’s lovely, but I don’t take advantage of it like I used to before it was right in my backyard.
It seems like we never take advantage of the things that are right in our own backyards. This is, however, something I want all of you to start doing.
I want you to write down ten things in your hometown or the nearby area that are amazing. Then I want you to write down things in your hometown you don’t take advantage of and why.
What stops you? Are you lazy? Do you make excuses?
Do you find other things to do, or do you just take these things for granted that they are always going to be there? Stop taking things for granted and start enjoying every single day what is right in your own backyard.
Before you listen to today’s podcast, I am about to share with all the men something to which you need to really pay attention.
Yesterday on the flight home from New York City, I was sitting next to a guy who was wearing a pair of True Religion jeans. Every time he bent over or reached down for something, the whole plane had the privilege of seeing half of his hairy ass. I am not just talking “plumber butt crack,” this was plumber butt crack on steroids.
This is not something anyone needs to see . . . ever. Every time he moved, every person on that plane — women, men and children — were forced to see his ass.
SO, guys, if you can feel the wind chafing your ass when you are wearing jeans, then it means they are way too low and you need to cover up!
Now, on to another revealing topic . . .
This might be the most powerful podcast you will ever hear. I was recently on the phone with a guy who was thinking about taking a Bootcamp, and he asked me why he has trouble approaching women. He had already attended someone else’s bootcamp at which they had instructed him to approach women using some kind of pickup line.
I told him that pickup lines will never work. Life is all about observations based on instincts. He asked me about what kind of instincts I was talking, and I told him I was talking about the kind of instincts we have as a child.
Remember when you were a kid (maybe three, four or five years old) and you’d see something you like so you’d look at it and touch it? Remember also how when you did that your mother would scold you and say, “Don’t do that?”
Do you realize that the social conditioning we got from about the age of four to about the age of eleven was all about the things we should not do (and all about the things we can’t do)? Don’t look at strangers. Don’t talk to strangers. Don’t smile at that person.
Our social conditioning is the reason why so many of us out there now suffer from problems meeting the opposite sex. Our social conditioning taught us not to talk to people instead of relying on our natural instincts.
This podcast will truly blow you away. It is by far the most important podcast I’ve ever done. Enough writing now. It’s time to open your ears and start listening!
Also, if you want to learn how to recapture your natural instincts and de-program yourself from all of you bad social conditioning, then you need to check out my Men’s “What’s Your Excuse?” and my Women’s “No Excuses” programs.
Back from a long trip to Europe, and back with my Sunday football picks. My record is currently at 17-3 and I’m ready to keep my good record with this week’s picks.
This week I predict the Texans will win over the Bills. The Bears will beat the Browns. The Lions will win over the Rams. The Jets will defeat the Dolphins. The Chargers will win over the Raiders. The Cardinals will beat the Panthers.
The Saint and the Colts will remain unbeaten, but the Broncos will fall to the Ravens. As for the two “big games” today, I am predicting the Giants will win over the Eagles and Favre will gome home crying in defeat.
Have a great Sunday, and let’s get to today’s blog!
At a recent Bootcamp, I had a conversation with the guys about what I call window shopping your life. I had a conversation about challenging yourself. (This, by the way, is a great example of what we work on during my Bootcamp weekends!)
Most of us window shop in our own lives. Many of us have had tragedies in our lives. As humans, it’s natural to want to change our lives after we survive a catastrophe, but it’s also human that we rarely stick with that plan to change.
We always sweep things under the rug. We all do this. It’s just the way things work. We get shocked into doing something or making a change, but we can’t help continuing to window shop.
So what do I mean when I say that we window shop our lives? It means that we fail to take action and really lead the kind of life we map out for ourselves. We go back to not being fully alive, and just wishing and wanting for the life we want to live.
The term window shopping is a good description, because it is as if we have a glass barrier between our life and the life we want. We can see it, but there is something in our way from actually living it.
A lot of people see this barrier as something that keeps them from having the life they want. In reality, though, we are capable of having that life right now if we take the steps to get it.
Why do we think we can’t have this life? We buy into false limitations. We don’t want to face that we need to take more action.
I often call people who just wait for things to happen in life “waiters.” They want things to change, and they keep hoping things will change on their own without them having to take any action on their part.
Once you begin to stop window shopping and to stop waiting, you will see how much time you’ve been wasting kicking back that you could have been spending living the life you want.
Life is too short, and you only get one! If you don’t take the opportunities now, when are you going to take them? So stop window shopping. Stop waiting. Take action today and start to really live the life you want.
This is interesting. How many of you live a life about which you are absolutely not passionate?
You go to a job. You date someone to whom you are not attracted. You may not even like your dog. Whatever it may be, how many of you can’t speak about your life with passion?
If you can’t, do you know why you can’t? It is because you are really not in love with who you are.
Passion comes from within. People who speak with passion, speak from power that comes from within themselves. Meaning, they love everything about themselves.
They’ve accepted their insecurities. They’ve accepted their fears. They’ve accepted all these things about themselves, and they have embraced themselves.
Today’s podcast is going to teach you how to speak from a place of true passion and how to live a passionate life. This is a “must listen” to podcast. It’s that important and that big.
I can’t even adequately express in writing what I want to tell all of you. You need to hear me talk about it in today’s podcast. So I’m just going to stop my fingers from typing on the computer right now, and I’m going to give you the link for the podcast so you can listen to it right now.
Click here to listen:
If you want to learn about my personal journey to self-love, and how to go on that journey for yourself, be sure to check out my “Self-Love” Audios which are part of my Men’s “What’s Your Excuse?” and Women’s “No Excuses” programs.
I remember a woman that a friend of mine used to date. He used to tell me, “David, I swear. When I am facing her, she has one boob facing east and one boob facing west, and a gap the size of the United States in the middle. I mean these things just don’t match.”
This situation is what I call “the refund gap.” The refund gap happens to women who go and get a boob job for $599.00.
Somehow they thought, “I am going to go to the surgeon who is willing to get paid almost nothing.” It’s like they really do not value their body.
There are certainly things to save money on in life. There’s no question about it.
If you see toothpaste that’s on sale for $1.99 when it’s regularly $2.99, then go for the $1.99 toothpaste! It’s the same brand you usually use. It’s not going to leave you with Mr. Ed-like yellow teeth filled with cavities, or with breath that smells like your dog’s ass.
When it comes down to personal health, however, you do not want to be cheap. You do not want to shop around for good deals for your new boobs and end up with the refund gap. You do not want to get marked down laser eye surgery at Costco.
It just blows me away. As far as I’m concerned, anyone willing to discount their services that much, really does not give good service. If someone values their time, their education, their skills and their knowledge, then they are going to be able to build up a clientèle and get paid what they’re worth.
So I’m leery of dermatologists who will do $200.00 procedures for $25.00. I’m leery of the kind of doctors who advertise “buy one get one free” boob jobs. I am leery of dentists who offer teeth whitening for $29.95.
Either they are bad business people, or they are really not skilled. Neither option makes me want to go to these people’s offices.
So women, if you are thinking about getting a boob job, men know about and can easily see a refund gap. Men know that you discount shopped your boob job when they feel breasts that are so hard that feel like rocks when you move from side to side. These things are not exactly a turn-on.
They are more of a turn-off. John Denver might have liked Rocky Mountain High, but he was talking about the Rocky Mountains, not rocky breasts bought on a “buy one get one free” sale.
What is wrong with people that shop for their plastic surgery at Wal*Mart or Costco? You see ads for Lasik saying, “First Eye Only $1.00. Second Eye Just $299.00.” Sure, that’s what I want. I want to entrust my eyes — the things with which I see the whole world — to a doctor that is going to do the surgery on my eyes for $1.00 and $299.00.”
Look at all the women who get $600 boob jobs. Like you can’t tell when a woman has the refund gap? What kind of doctor is doing these surgeries? One who took an afternoon seminar on how to perform the procedure in three easy steps, and who uses implants he finds in dead prostitutes?
Why do any of these things on the cheap? This is your body we’re talking about.
You should see some of the face lifts that I see walking around here in Los Angeles. They look like they tried to save some money by getting them done at Costco.
If you can’t afford a good surgeon, maybe you should hold off on having surgery. I know I certainly don’t want anyone touching my body who I am not 100% sure is great at what he or she does.
I actually saw a guy on the street one time who was right next to a fruit stand, who was selling Botox injections from what looked like a lemonade stand. I don’t remember how much he was charging, but it was super cheap. They could have combined forces and had a sign that said, “Eat a strawberry, get your eyes injected.”
When it comes down to doing anything to my body, I make sure that I go to the best possible person, because I don’t want anybody messing with my body. So if you’re somebody who is looking to get laser eye surgery, boob implants or anything else surgical, I suggest that you save your money before deciding to get these things done at your neighborhood Costco.
Alright, I f*^ked up! I’m not perfect. I was 5-2. 5-2, and I lost my fantasy game too because I tried to maneuver some roster moves that backfired.
Was I angry with myself yesterday during the Colts game? Well it took me a massage, but I got over it.
So, recently I f^*ked up. Today’s blog is going to show you how to f^*k up and enjoy it. Also, be sure to check out the amazing video at the end of this blog that will show you how to transition to sex.
So you f*^ked up. What are you going to do about it?
So many people look back at their “fu^*ked up” childhood and think, “This is the reason I’m allowed to be crazy” or “This is the reason why everyone hates me.”
While there is no doubt that we are programmed by our parents, as adults our f^*k ups are totally on us. It’s all a matter of taking responsibility for your actions.
The truth is that as long as you’re living, you are going to f^*k up. If you are putting yourself out there in life — trying new things, trying to grow as a person and trying to succeed in life — then you are going to f^*k up. It’s going to happen. Period.
The people who succeed in life are those who can admit when they f^*k up and will say to themselves, “Let me learn from this lesson and move forward.” What most people do, however, is play what I like to call “the f^*k up card.”
People allow bad behaviors and choices to continue because they don’t learn their lesson. They will say, “That’s just me. I always f^*k up.”
If you always f^*k up, why don’t you learn from it and move forward? Why don’t you just accept that you f^*ked up and learn a lesson from it?
Winners f^*k up every day, but they actually move forward and learn from them. How many times do you need to same lesson to be put in front of you before you will finally get it?
You need to understand that it’s not making a mistake that is the important thing, but what lesson you learn from it. It’s the changes you make based on the lessons you learn. That is what the real difference is between the winners and f^*k ups in life.
It’s Monday. All right, so I missed with my Titans prediction. I did, however, hit with everyone else — which puts me at 11-1 now for the season going into tonight’s game. For that game, I predict the Vikings will beat the Packers.
11-1 . . . I am pretty impressed! What really does not impress me, though, are men who hang out with strippers and who pay strippers to hang out with them.
We had friends in town this past weekend who stayed at the 4 Seasons Hotel. We went there last night to hang out in the hotel’s hot tub.
There was a middle-aged man alone in the hot tub when we arrived. He seemed like a nice man. About three minutes later, though, three bimbos with long nails came bearing drinks and speaking in Paris Hilton-like sentences.
The man started talking about his hotel room and other such things. The women immediately started “wow-ing” about his big balcony. Then they got on the phone with their friends and started going on and on about how they got their nails done at the 4 Seasons and about the guy’s huge balcony.
You know, anyone can open their wallet and invite three bimbo strippers to their room. Unless you’re going to have the sex of your life, though, being forced to sit and listen to these women is just painful. I swear, Daphne had more to say than these women did.
Why is this such a thrill for guys? Here is this guy hanging out with a group of women who can only manage to speak in Paris Hilton type half-sentences. I never understand this.
Of course I get a guy liking younger women, but there’s certainly younger intelligent women he could find who would like him. The conversations they were having were so boring. No one was listening to each other. All I can think is, “Why?”
I know men, and I have coached men, who have done this. The sex is never any good, because the women aren’t into it. They just want the cash or the fringe benefits (like getting their nails done at the 4 Seasons).
What really happens is that the women just try to get the guy to come as quickly as possible. So who is winning here? It’s just so gross.
I’ve had casual sex, but I’ve never paid for sex. Maybe I’m just more evolved and maybe there are just less evolved people in this world . . . and that’s fine.
It’s fine if you’re the type of guy who looks at women like a piece of meat, is only interested in getting his dick stroked, and couldn’t care less about an emotional connection. That’s not the life I want. That’s not the life I teach.
When we were sitting in the hot tub, the man kept looking at me and smiling. It was like validation for him, as if he was saying with his smile “Look, I have three hot bimbos with me in the hot tub!” I ignored his smiles.
If you want to impress me, impress me with who you are as a person. I’m not impressed that you can get three strippers into a hot tub. That doesn’t impress me in the least.
While he was sharing a second grade-level conversation with those women, we were having a deep conversation about life. So why does he think I’d be impressed that he has three bimbos with him? Sometimes I’m embarrassed by my own gender.
So this kind of guy doesn’t impress me, nor does the guy who whips out the black American Express card at dinner. Why should I pay a couple thousand dollars a year to have a credit card that does the exact same thing as my free one?
I’m also not impressed by the guy who pulls in front of the coffee house in his Lamborghini but doesn’t bother to put money in the meter because he doesn’t care about getting a ticket. He figures, what’s a measly $60 to him.
If you want to impress me, get deep and tell me who you really are. I couldn’t care less about all this surface stuff.
Oh, and by the way Mr. Hot Tub from last night, I know you’re reading this today because I dropped my business card on your towel (and human intuition definitely wins out every time). This blog is dedicated to you.
I guarantee you got nothing out of last night, except a thinner wallet and maybe an orgasm. In reality, though, you are just as lonely today as you were yesterday.
So how do all of you feel about men who use their wallets on prostitutes and fancy cars just to prove how successful they are?
If you want to know know how to meet women who want to hang out with you, check out this video:
