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Monday, August 16th, 2010
You know, living in L.A. is really funny.
If you’re in New York City and ask someone what they do for a living, the answer will likely be either finance, banking or advertising. If you then ask someone what they do in banking (or finance or advertising), they will tell you exactly what they do and why they are passionate about doing it.
Conversely, if you run into someone in L.A. and ask what they do (or what brought them to L.A.), you will often have someone tell you that they are “in the business.” Really? They’re “in the business?” What business is that?
Are they in the gardening business? I mean, there are a lot of gardeners in L.A. since the weather is nice year-round. Are they in the parks & recreation business (because the parks are open all the time)? Really, about what business are they talking?
In L.A., when people are talking about being in “the business,” they mean the Hollywood business. It’s the ones who aren’t working, though, who will always say “I’m in the business.” What they’re really in the business of is waiting tables.
That’s the definition of a waiter in L.A. When you’re a waiter in LA, you’re actually not waiting tables. You’re waiting to get into “the business.”
So for all those who say they are in “the business,” what do you think they say when asked about exactly what it is they do in the business? They say, “Oh, you know, I’m doing the actor thing.” It’s never just acting – it’s always “the actor thing.”
They call it “the acting thing” because it’s not really something real to them yet. It’s just a thing in which they wish they were actually involved.
L.A. is a really fun town. So the next time you’re in L.A. on vacation and you ask someone what they do for a living, you’ll know how to interpret the answer. If they say they’re “in the business,” you’ll know they are really not in the business.
A lot of my friends are writers. If you ask them what they do for a living, they’ll tell you that they’re a writer. I have friends who are actors. If someone asks them what they do for a living, they will say that they are an actor. My friends who are directors will say they are a director when asked what they do for a living.
Not one of my friends say they do “the writing thing,” “the acting thing” or “the directing thing.” Not one of my friends who are actually “in the business” will ever use that term when referring to what they do for a living.
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Tags: acting, actors, Los Angeles, waiters
Posted in Humor & Just For Fun, Life Style 101 | 4 Comments »
Monday, August 9th, 2010
You guys have been asking me to come out with a diet and exercise plan. So I wanted to tell you all about what I call “The Dating Diet.” More about that in just a minute.
I’ve been working out my entire adult life, and I want to share a funny — but true — story with you about how I started working out. It’s going to sound goofy to a lot of you.
There was actually one movie that pushed me to want to start working out. It wasn’t Rocky. It wasn’t Dirty Dancing.
It was the movie Flashdance. Yes, I actually went to see the movie Flashdance when it came out.
I watched all the dancing scenes, noticed the way the bodies were totally toned and ripped, and it motivated me in a very bizarre way. Maybe it was all the booze I drank in college, but I remember arriving home after seeing that movie and suddenly started to pound the weights.
I haven’t stopped since. Give or take about five pounds, I’ve basically been the same weight my entire adult life.
I consistently work out. I do cardio four days a week. I lift weights three days a week.
I used to do yoga before I blew out my back. I have now found that being tighter actually keeps me together better.
A lot of people have trouble starting to work out. You gain five or ten (or twenty or thirty) pounds, and you look at yourself in the mirror not liking the way you look.
What a lot of people do in that situation is to head straight for the microwave and eat even more. Others will sit on the couch and say, “I’m going to start exercising next week.”
Here is the truth. If you don’t like the way you look and if you can’t embrace your own body, then nobody you date will either. That is why I call this “The Dating Diet,” because it is all about you feeling great about yourself and your body when you’re dating.
There’s nothing that turned me off more when I was dating, than when a woman insisted on making the room completely dark the first time she got naked with me. I would be looking forward to seeing her naked body, and all she wanted to do was leave the room completely dark because she felt insecure about her body.
How you feel about yourself is so important. So if you feel you’ve been slacking, you need to push yourself.
Start going to the gym, and do just 20 minutes of cardio in the beginning. Then the next week, move up to 25 minutes of cardio, and increase to 30 minutes of cardio the week after that.
Just get started. Whatever you choose to do, start slow and build up.
If you’re not feeling great about yourself and feel uncomfortable at the gym at first, then pick a time to go when there are fewer people there until you feel more comfortable.
Write down all of your excuses. “It’s too cold right now to go to the gym.” “I’m too comfortable on this sofa, and don’t want to miss my favorite shows.” “I didn’t get up early enough today.”
Write down your excuses, and realize that all of them are just that — excuses. You must be dedicated.
Now I’m going to ask you to do something that will really be a challenge for a lot of you, but I want to push you a little bit. Stop reading this blog, go to the bathroom, get undressed and look at yourself from all angles in the bathroom mirror.
What do you like about your body? What do you dislike about your body? What you change about your body? What do you need to accept about your body?
If there are parts of your body you don’t like that you can change through diet and exercise, it’s time to commit to work toward getting those body parts to look how you will love them. If there are other parts of your body that you don’t like that weights and cardio won’t change, then it’s really important to embrace and love who you are.
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Tags: advice, Date, dating, dating diet, david wygant, diet, excerise, Flashdance, tips, working out, workout
Posted in Goals & Aspirations, Life Style 101, Mindset | 8 Comments »
Thursday, August 5th, 2010
Not too long ago in the blog, we talked about guys who act like an ass in the bar. For any of you who didn’t catch that other blog, I talked about how to deal with the annoying guy (who we’ll call “Mr. Attitude”) who comes and starts talking to a woman you’re talking to in the bar — particularly the guys who try to get the woman to walk away with them.
In that blog, I gave some advice on how to handle that situation, including leaving the decision of whether to stay talking to you or to leave with Mr. Annoying up to her. A few days after I posted that blog, I got an email from a guy who told me he had tried what I said and that it had worked! This guy said what I recommended in that blog, and (not surprisingly) the woman chose to stay with him instead of leaving with Mr. Annoying.
This guy was not just writing to let me know how well this technique worked though. His email went on to say that after the woman rejected Mr. Annoying, he started to try to pick a fight with this guy right there in the bar.
Here’s a guy who just can’t handle that someone else talked to the girl to whom he wanted to be talking. So what do you do in that situation? Here’s exactly what you do.
You take the girl by the hand, look at her and say, “Let’s go sit down over there with some of my friends. I want to introduce you to my crew.” Then you take her by the hand and sit down with your friends, or grab a table if you’re not there with friends.
In other words, you walk away. Mr. Annoying is a bully. You walk away from bullies.
Mr. Annoying is so sexually frustrated in his life, that all he wants to do is fight. Bullies like that are so pissed off that they don’t get what they want, that they go out at night with aggression and ready to fight. So you walk away.
There is power in walking away, because real men will walk away from Mr. Annoying. Less powerful men will challenge Mr. Annoying. They will engage with him.
A powerful man doesn’t do this. You are not only being a powerful man when you do this, but you are also showing that woman that you are a powerful man who has restraint as part of your personality.
That woman is going to admire the fact that you don’t have a temper. Women don’t want to be with a guy like that, because it reminds her of so many other guys she has known in the past.
Men are very testosterone-laden and women don’t want to see that crazy hot-tempered side of you. Women want men who are very even-keeled and can handle all situations.
Do that, and she’s going to look at you as someone with strength. It’s actually probably going to turn her on. The fact that you walked away from the idiot will turn her on, because a lot of guys would have just gone ahead and engaged with him (and maybe even got into a fight with him).
Let me tell you something, if you get into that fight with Mr. Annoying then neither of you would end up with that woman. Both of you would have gone home alone.
The lesson here guys? Walk away.
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Tags: advice, attract women, attracting women, Date, dating, david wygant, how to attract women, how to be a better communicator, how to handle conflict, how to meet women, meet women, meeting women, meeting women in bars, tips, understanding women, when to walk away
Posted in College Dating, How To Be A Better Communicator, Life Style 101, Night Game, Understanding Female Psychology & Mindset | 13 Comments »
Monday, July 26th, 2010
Come to one of my Bootcamps and get coached by my coaches and I, and we will give you every skill you need to be successful. We will kick your ass. You will have every bit of information you need to create total success in your dating life.
That by itself, though, is not enough for you to actually become successful. You need to be persistent and you need to believe in yourself.
Look at the most successful professional sports teams, and you will see that each one has these two qualities. Take last year’s New York Jets as a great example. 52 players who all believed in their coach, believed in their team and believed in themselves, and they achieved so much more than anyone thought they ever could.
Mark Sanchez was a nervous rookie, but he is going to be a great quarterback because of the experience he gained playing in the playoffs during his first year. There were probably 25 quarterbacks who were better players than Mark Sanchez at the time he was playing in the playoffs, but there he was as one of only four quarterbacks playing in those playoffs.
It’s about being prepared and sticking with your plan. It’s called persistence. It’s called believing in yourself and the people with whom you surround yourself.
What do you want out of life? Write it down. Learn the skills to get it. Then be persistent and believe.
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Tags: advice, Date, dating, dating bootcamp, Dating coach, dating coaching, david wygant, mark sanchez, Mindset, new your jets, pua, pua bootcamp, tips
Posted in Goals & Aspirations, Life Style 101, Mindset | 14 Comments »
Saturday, July 24th, 2010
As I’m driving in my car right now, I’m thinking to myself how late for an appointment I am going to be. I have no excuse why I’m going to be late.
So far today I’ve been working in my office and I made some lunch. I really didn’t have much going on, and certainly nothing that couldn’t wait until later. Nevertheless, here I am driving 50 miles an hour through the streets of Los Angeles because I’m running late.
Then when you arrive late to the appointment, you always make up some excuse why you were unavoidably late. Very often you blame it on traffic. “Man, I tell ya. Traffic was just AWFUL today!”
Guess what? Traffic is awful every day in Los Angeles. So you always have a built-in excuse. While you can always blame your tardiness on traffic, though, it’s really your own fault that you’re late.
You didn’t leave early enough. You got caught up in something else in which you shouldn’t have let yourself get caught up. Whatever the reason is that you were late, the bottom line is that you didn’t get to where you needed to be on time.
Being late says something about you. It says that you don’t respect someone else’s time.
Say you agree to meet someone at 3:00 pm. If you show up at 3:20 pm and blame your tardiness on traffic, what you are really telling that person is “I didn’t respect your time enough to leave early enough to get here on time. My time was more valuable to me, so I really needed to send out those couple of emails I could have sent later on (or whatever it might be).”
Being on time says something about your character and who you are. It says that you have respect for other people and their time.
So the next time you have an appointment or a date, make sure you leave enough time so that you don’t arrive late. Save the personal stuff for when you get home later.
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Tags: advice, being late, david wygant, tips, what being late means
Posted in Life Style 101 | 5 Comments »
Thursday, July 22nd, 2010
Someone asked me the other day what I thought about manliness. Here is the truth about manliness.
A real man walks over to a woman in whom he is interested. He gets to know her. He realizes that he is a catch. If he finds something attractive about her, then he asks her out and gets her phone number.
A real man will call her up the very next day (or even maybe that night) and set up a date with her, because he wants to get to know her. A real man doesn’t hesitate.
A real man makes decisions. Even when a decision takes time to make, once a real man makes that decision he sticks to it and stands behind it. I know sometimes it takes me a month or two to make a decision on certain important issues in my life, but once I make a decision I never waiver backwards.
I never think to myself, did I make the right decision? Is this the right decision? Should I have gone the other direction?
Sometimes it takes me two months to just buy a car. Once I buy that car, though, I know I’ve made the right decision and I don’t look back.
Sometimes it takes me three months to process something personal that’s going on in my life. Once I make a decision about it , though, I move forward and stick with that decision. I don’t go back and think about the other options I was considering.
A real man walks into a room and smiles. A real man walks into that room and talks to people that he finds interesting.
A real man walks through life knowing that he’s a success. A real man takes risks — business, personal, and everything else. He realized that even when he fails, it’s a lesson that he needed to learn and he embraces it.
A real man does not blame anybody for anything that he’s done, and just accepts things as they come along. More importantly, a real man protects the people that he loves, and is loyal to everybody that he loves.
A real man is loyal to his family. A real man steps up for his kids, his wife, his friends. He never leaves them hanging.
A real man picks up the phone when a friend is in need. A real man picks a friend up when he is in need.
This is what I feel a real man is like. Are you a real man?
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Tags: advice, david wygant, how to be a real man, how to be manly, lifestyle, real man, tips
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, College Dating, High School Dating, Life Style 101, Mindset, Money & Success | 12 Comments »
Monday, July 19th, 2010
Let’s talk about Mr. Perfect today. I want everyone to know about Mr. Perfect.
Everyone who is out there trying to improve their dating life by meeting people in situations in which they normally don’t meet people is playing the role of Mr. Perfect. So let’s put Mr. Perfect in a situation so you can see what I mean.
Let’s put Mr. Perfect in a supermarket. What does Mr. Perfect do?
Well, Mr. Perfect knows that he needs to go out there and converse with people all day long to become more sociable and to open up his energy. So Mr. Perfect will see a woman looking at crackers, he will see an opportunity, he will walk over to her, and then the same thing will always happen.
He’ll walk over and make a comment like, “Man, I don’t really know what crackers are good here” or “Can you make a suggestion on what kind of crackers I should buy?” What happens to Mr. Perfect every time when he does this? She walks away.
Do you know why? It is because that is what happens to people who try to be perfect and don’t make the situation natural. When you act like Mr. Perfect, what you say never comes out sounding natural.
Why? Didn’t Mr. Perfect walk over and say something based on what she was doing in that moment like I always say to do?
Well, yes, but when he walked over to her he probably walked over all nervous. He didn’t walk over to her curious and confident, with a real question to ask her.
He walked over there thinking about the question he was going to ask her the whole time he was approaching her. He was thinking, “I’m going to ask her about crackers. I’m going to ask her to give me a cracker recommendation.”
Then when he actually asks her about the crackers, it doesn’t come out natural at all. So of course she is going to walk away. Of course she will start heading in another direction, because that is what happens to Mr. Perfect.
So what does Mr. Perfect do when that happens? Even though Mr. Perfect knows that this was just one encounter with one person, he will immediately think to himself “I can’t do this. This is too hard. This is not going to work. She didn’t respond to me.”
Then, all of a sudden, he’ll start manifesting those negative thoughts in every interaction he has after that. He will sabotage his ability to make each one of those interactions successful.
The truth is that none of those negative thoughts are true at all. Mr. Perfect is fully capable of successfully approaching women.
The reason that the “cracker situation” happens to Mr. Perfect is because he sabotaged the interaction before he said a word to her by trying to be perfect. There is no such thing as perfect. Nobody wants perfect.
What do we really want in a relationship with someone? We want someone who understands us, someone who is going to resonate with us, someone from whom we can learn and someone we can really experience.
We’re not perfect people. So when you walk over to anyone, there is no such thing as perfection.
If someone doesn’t respond to you, it could be because you ran into a mirror image of yourself — someone who is absolutely and completely nervous to talk to people and doesn’t know what to say. In other words, someone else who thinks they have to be perfect.
So what happens when a Mr. Perfect meets a Ms. Perfect, is that one of them will walk away from the encounter because they are so nervous and don’t know what to say. They get way too much inside their head. It’s a cycle that will keep repeating until they stop being a Mr. Perfect.
You don’t ever have to be perfect. There is no perfection in life. None.
Despite this, there seems to be so many people who feel the need to be perfect when they are trying to improve their dating lives. There is no need for this. If all the Mr. Perfects out there would change their mindset, they would experience a lot closer to “perfect” results.
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Tags: advice, approach women, approaching women, Date, dating, david wygant, Day Game, how to approach women, how to meet women, how to talk to women, meet women, meeting women, talk to women, talking to women, tips
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, College Dating, Day Game, How To Be A Better Communicator, Life Style 101, Mindset | 9 Comments »
Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
Here’s another reason why you need to journal. You need to journal so that you learn not to edit your thoughts.
When you speak, you speak from your heart. You can articulate your words without any judgment.
This is one reason I love Copytalk. You call them up, speak into your phone — talking to the air really — and speak your thoughts. This allows you to learn how to journal without editing your thoughts.
When you write, you’ll tend to re-read sentences. You’ll take something out because you’ll start thinking about what you wrote. You start editing your own thoughts.
What we are all really trying to do is to become better men and women. So we need to really try to stop editing ourselves and our thoughts.
We spend so much time editing ourselves every single day. When we see someone to whom we’re attracted, we know we want to go over and talk to them.
What we do, though, is talk to them based on edited conversation we’ve had in our heads before we ever spoke to them.
So being able to really just say what you feel, and to articulate it, is amazing. If you journaled using Copytalk and did this, then when you got the transcription back, you could read your thoughts out loud to yourself (which is very powerful) and add more thoughts to them.
When you start to read your thoughts, you’re going to realize that all the things you say are really beautiful. Yes, they are also vulnerable and they might scare you a little bit at times, but they’re amazing.
The most important thing to remember is that whatever they are, they are your thoughts. In order to be able to go out and meet people you will love, you need to be able to articulate your thoughts this way.
When you read back the dictation that you get from Copytalk, you need to read it back with no judgment. You need to look at what you said as being where you were in your life and in your mind just on that particular day. Think to yourself, “Wow, that was me on April 2nd. That’s cool that I felt that way.”
You will then start to own your thoughts and your feelings, and realize that you are an amazing person. You will realize that you are a gift to the world.
Not only that, but if you would send all of your transcriptions to friends and family members, I guarantee that they would get to know you in a whole different light. They would look at you and say, “Man, I can’t believe it. You’ve never expressed that to me. That’s a beautiful thing.”
Part of what I do whenever I coach a client, is to make them get a three month subscription to Copytalk. Then I make them send me all of their raw thoughts. Of course, I then get on Copytalk myself and send my raw thought reactions right back to them. All of this helps them to get raw with themselves.
The beauty of life is being able to say freely what you feel and what you desire without judgment. It’s funny how people are always looking for validation from other people.
Really you should never be looking for validation from others. When you seek validation from others it is based on your own insecurity.
Life is a mirror. We get exactly who we really are — the true person we are 24/7 and not the edited version of ourselves.
So get raw with yourself. Enjoy yourself and don’t be afraid of anything you have to say, because everything you say is beautiful — a beautiful thought or a beautiful emotion.
If any of you are ready to really get raw, get yourself a Copytalk membership and start exploring yourself. Start realizing that all of the things you say and do are there for you and everyone else to enjoy. And if you do get copytalk tell them that i referred you.
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Tags: advice, copytalk, david wygant, journaling, Mindset, tips
Posted in Goals & Aspirations, How To Be A Better Communicator, Life Style 101, Money & Success | 8 Comments »
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