I got a question from somebody the other day, and I really want to share it with you:

How good are you on the phone? So you’ve got her phone number. Now closing and sealing the deal, getting them to go out with you-that’s only part of the picture.

Have you ever met a person who, from the second they meet you, they tend to really talk your ear off?

You pace. You bite your nails. You call all your friends before a date. You suffer from first-date jitters. You spend the day thinking about what you’re going to talk about, what you may be wearing, where you might be going. Trust me, you’re not alone. A lot of people suffer from first date jitters, and I tell you: That’s crazy.

Think about this: 95 percent of first dates never materialize, never ever get past the first date

“Oh my god, my ex is such an a-hole!”

“My ex just texted me…look at this text.”

“Oh, that totally reminds me of this time I was with my ex…”

Is the topic of talking about exes a big no-no for you? Does it make you feel uncomfortable?

Maybe you have a friend who — no matter what happens — will always try to want to hear about your life, listen to you for two seconds and then go off on whatever topic of that person’s life at the time.

We all have a friend like that. We all have those types of friends that are constantly bitching and complaining about their life bitching and complaining about their situation, but they never really listen to you.

The question I always get all the time is where do you go on a first date.
I’ll tell you where you don’t go. You don’t go to a movie, you don’t sit there in silence, wondering what she’s thinking, who she is, and feeling all uncomfortable wondering what to say after the movie.

So your sitting across the table from your fantasy woman, and all of a sudden you think. “Wow I need to get sexual with her right now so she gets turned onto me” So you space out for a second and you stop listening to what she is saying. You then go into deep thought [...]

When we get involved in a relationship, why are we always searching for that perpetual carrot?
It’s amazing that when we’re unsatisfied in a relationship — feeling like our partner is not satisfying our needs, wants and desires — that we feel afraid to tell them. It’s amazing that we are afraid to be that open, honest, raw and vulnerable with our partner.

Here’s the situation, and this applies equally to men and women today:
You’ve met somebody you’re really jazzed about. You’ve exchanged phone numbers. You notice the area code is different than yours, so you ask them with some hesitation, “Where do you live?” They immediately tell you, “Oh, I’m just in town for the weekend.” BUT–they visit often, and still they’d still like to get together the next time they’re in town.