She read all the comments and wanted to clarify that money is not what keeps her turned on, its all about a man that knows how to take charge. Here is her email to all of you.

Enjoy todays guest blogger.

Dear David, 

I have to share with you, about the what happened  to my relationship with the Very handsome, Rich guy from Boca, that got all the responses to last weeks pod cast.  It’s all about building Sexual Tension before the date, and keeping it going during the date. You have to take control. Send sexy text messages before the date. Dress the part of the woman you are looking to attract . This is so important, i can not tell you. Fyi…  You do not need a lot of money to look sharp !!  .   Women have no idea, where you shopped for your jeans or shirts. It is looking presentable, dressing in style,  and smelling great.  :)  Being well groomed . All over if you know what i mean  .  You do not need a lot of money to take a woman out on a fun date. !!  In my mind, if he took me to the beach, and bought a bottle of wine, and cheese, ect.. on a blanket, that  would have  been  so much more of an aphrodisiac then being in this Trendy Boca Restaurant with the A/C not working , noisy , and exchanging resume’s. Him telling me, he was an investment banker for Lehman Bros. Is not getting me ” wet ” between my legs. It was intriguing for a few minutes .  Him creating a very magical moment, that not many men do. Like kissing me on the beach, or sharing fun stories,  asking me questions about myself, or listening to his I pod. He happens to have great taste in Music. It is called building moments…  together.  Which he could have saved, not that he needed to watch his wallet, a good $ 150.00 that night. He would have ended up with the same results, or maybe even better.!!!.  It would have turned me on  sexually , so much more. 

What Women Want From A Man

I write this to help out men, who truly misinterpreted my blog, into thinking if you are not Very Handsome, Very Rich, and Have a Huge C-ock , You are not able to get a beautiful woman.  A man with these qualities i have to say , he does have an advantage point in ” Getting ” a beautiful woman.  But, it was the way he presented himself before the date, and how he took complete ” Control ” of the date . That was the Biggest turn on to me !!  I was impressed with the way he was the MAN..  and with him taking that role. It made me feel like a Woman. When i start to feel like the woman, and i am exuding  feminine energy. It makes me feel very sensual, and sexual. I think about wanting to have sex with him .  What it would be like to kiss him, and how would it feel when he touches my body.  How would he feel laying on top of me.  I start to get excited about, how can i turn him on sexually.  What can i do different, to please him. 

What this man does not have is the qualities to ” Keep ”  a quality, beautiful woman. !!   I will share with you, the ending to my magical weekend, in Palm Beach,FL . ,  with the last night of sensual, hot sex.  He did send the next day, when i returned to NYC, a dozen Red Roses, with a card, ” thinking of you ” ..  

He did send me e mails, and he did make 1 phone call. Expressing what a great time he had with me. i will quote what he wrote 

” So Glad you love the roses, not nearly as beautiful as you !!! had an amazing time with you Sunday evening: cant wait to see you next time. I’ll call you to say hello later today or tomorrow. ( Friday the latest ) . Miss you sexy !!! . 

Well, He never called, and the following week, he came to NYC for Fashion Week. Did not even let me know he was in town. We were texting each other, and he said, he was walking out of his last Fashion Show !!!!   WTF ?  I was hurt, and will never feel the same about him. All his Great Looks, His Huge Cock , and and Bank Roll.   All vanished, as fast as it rolled in.  We texted back and forth, and he said he was sorry a few times. He said, quote ” He did not have the time for a date with me ” …  It is all about being Real, and Genuine, and what ever you write and feel, it’s about  being in your reality. This man was so detached from reality. Follow through is ” KEY ” . 

  I deserve and want  to have a man who is kind and sincere. Honest and someone who loves themselves.  When you love yourself. You feel great about yourself everyday. You come clean with yourself, and you do not treat others or act this way.  Self love on my part is , I WANT MORE. !!!  

Hope this is helpful, and It is Not all about being Rich, Handsome, and Hung. It might open a door, and he did get to play with me for a night. 

 However, he will never have staying power. I never responded to his last text.  I,  no longer  have any desire for him anymore.  

Denise. 

A lot of you are probably in front of your computer or on your phone right now, texting, e-mailing, you’re at different stages of planning out what you’re going to be doing tonight. You’ve waited all week for Friday night. This is going to be the night that you’re going to go out and meet a cool new woman. If all goes right, everything is going to change by the weekend, you’ll have one or two or even three prospective new dates, and your lifestyle is going to be different. You’re finally going to approach the woman you’re most attracted to.

Then what happens? As the night progresses, all those fears and excuses start creeping in. You get paralyzed. You stand around the bar. You do nothing.

Some of you may not even be reading this blog until late night Friday night, and you’ll say to yourself, “David, you just described my night. I was all jazzed. I was all excited. You’re right, slowly but surely, all my fears and excuses crept in and the next thing I knew, I was home again. I was staring at the ceiling, reviewing the night, and I finally came up with something really great to say to the woman I was attracted to, but it’s too late now.”

Here’s what I want all of you who read this blog early today to do. For those of you who are reading it late, do this exercise tomorrow night.

I want you to go out. I don’t want you to talk to a single person tonight. Not one person. I want you to observe, and I want you to watch, and I want you to understand the dynamic of what makes one guy fearless and successful with women, and another guy who goes home and masturbates, dreaming of the woman he wishes he could be with. I want you to watch the guys that are successful with women.

It doesn’t matter what they say, because I’m about to launch a brand new program that’s going to give you everything you need to say in these situations. I want you to take a look at their body language. I want you to take a look at what real attraction is. I want you to look at these guys and I want you to basically see how much fun they’re having. How engaging they are, how they use their hand motions, how they smile, how they walk with confidence. I want you to notice everything about them.

Now what I want you to do is I want you to look at yourself. No, don’t look directly at yourself in the mirror, but look at a guy just like you. I want you to find the guy who’s in the corner with his hands in his pockets, a clueless or frustrated look on his face, the kind of guy you can feel is really thinking with all the monkey chatter going on in his head.

I want you to look at that guy, and I want you to ask yourself this question: if you were a woman, who would you rather talk to? The guy who’s going around talking to everybody and generally just having a great time, or the guy who’s paralyzed in the corner waiting for the woman to go to the bathroom so he can chase her down and find the right moment to talk to her? The guy with that nervous energy who kinda scares people a little?

How do you feel? What type of emotion do you feel when you look at the guys who are having fun versus the guys who are not having fun? This is a great exercise that I have every single client do, any guy who’s ever been successful with women going out and meeting them on a Friday or Saturday night. Every guy goes through this exercise, because you have got to learn how to enjoy yourself before you can start meeting people. If you approach with nervous energy, nothing will happen, but if you approach with a smile while having a good time, the words don’t make a difference.

Note To All Men: If you are already subscribed to my email list you are well aware that next week I’m releasing a new product that is going to empower you to get over the BIGGEST issue you guys have when it comes to meeting women… approach anxiety. I hear it time and time again, and it was confirmed by thousands of survey responses taken by my email subscribers that have been pouring in the past couple of weeks.

I put together a video to help you learn how to kill approach anxiety to become natural with women, simply by using the power of observation!“

You know, when you’re dating someone and all of a sudden the shit hits the fan, suddenly you’re alone. The person you were really jazzed about blows you off, the relationship is over and done with, and you’re back to the starting line again.

Hmm, for a lot of you guys, the starting line means you’ve got to do it all over again. That means you’ve got to go back to the days of jerking off, the days of going into the Walgreen’s looking all dejected as you reach for that KY Jelly. Isn’t it amazing how when you’re in a relationship you strut into Walgreen’s and you look at the guy and go, “I’ll take the KY Jelly,” and you say it in this booming American Idol voice. But yet when you’re home alone whacking it constantly, you crawl into Walgreen’s with your shoulders rolled forward, thinking to yourself, “God, I hope no one I know sees me buying the KY because they know I’m just jerking it every single night…”

The reason why you’re jerking it (or if you’re a woman you’re riding Bob, your Battery Operated Boyfriend) so much is because you got rid of your backup person. You burned your bridges. Backup person is that cool person that you can be with sexually, but you both know you’ll never get involved in a relationship because you just aren’t relationship material for each other. But damn, they are good in bed and they’re a lot of fun! It’s easy and it’s great, and you both have a good time, and you know exactly how to get each other off.

Bob The Vibrator Lover

So when you start dating someone you really like, never tell another person you’re seeing that they can go to hell because now you’ve found somebody you want to be with. Because you never can predict the future. Say, “Hey Backup person, I’ve started seeing someone who I really enjoy right now, someone I can actually see myself being in a relationship with. I’m going to give it a shot with them, but let’s not completely forget about each other, let’s stay cool with each other because you never know what could happen.”

When I was single, I always had that backup person just in case. Of course we were completely open with each other about where we stood and I never had her hoping it was anything more than it was. And you know what, I was also somebody else’s backup person. I had no problem being used and abused in that way, because it was far better than walking with that dejected look into Walgreen’s to go get a bottle of KY, or when you’re in a hotel you get all pissed off because there’s no hair conditioner or lotion sample for you to use so you can jerk off in a hotel bed.

Bottom line is: backup girl and backup boy. They’re fun. They’re available. And they’re always free and ready until they’re in a relationship of their own. So today I’d like you to share your backup stories. No, I don’t want to know about your jerk-off sessions alone in the Holiday Inn on Route 46 when you went to that convention in New Jersey a few years ago.

I want to know about backup boy and backup girl today.

So Shogo and I were in a beer garden today in Munich near the English Garden, and we sat and had a great conversation with a couple of German men and women we had just met. Beer gardens are so funny because it’s such a bright open space so everybody can see everybody else, everybody is kind of on display and can check each other out. As you know, I teach you guys to talk about what is going on in the moment, to observe the things that are going on around you and will never run out of things to talk about.

So the six of us, we all started talking about how in beer gardens there are so many people and everyone can check each other out. I introduced them to a new English term, “googley eyes,” and they couldn’t stop saying the word.

“So what are googley eyes?” they asked me. Googley eyes is not getting on Google.com and punching in a search for the best optometrist in Munich, real googley eyes is when somebody looks at you and they have that certain look. That look that makes you kind of gaga, that makes you weak in the knees. That look that sends the message that they just like they want to eat you for lunch (and they’re probably thinking that way too).

Googley Eyes

For men, when a woman shoots a set of googley eyes at us, all we think is, “Oh my God!” We immediately go right into our head, and then our thoughts shoot right to our groin. We read that sexuality, because real googley eyes is just pure sexual energy. It is uninhibited sexual energy, that look that drives us crazy. All of the sudden when you get shot that look, that person becomes the sexiest most erotic passionate person that you’ve seen in ages. Googley eyes, gotta love it.

I’ll tell you, used to be my favorite thing when I was single when I would meet somebody and get those googley eyes from her, because I would just googley eye her right back. I know all of you know Google as the search engine term, and it’s really time to set the search engine as yourself. Your own personal search engine is now going to find other people, because what do search engines do? They search for that perfect match right then and there for them to keep riding down the road and see what pops up.

So today’s message applies to my female readers just as much as to my male readers. The next time you see somebody and you really want to get their attention, what do you do? You shoot them the hottest set of googley eyes and you give them a look that they will never forget. You be completely uninhibited with your energy, make them feel you, you make them notice you, and you get them so intrigued that you make them want to get to know you more.

So that’s what the real “google” is all about. Well, I that was a pretty good analogy at least. What do you guys think about that? Googley eyes…

So what am I talking about here? What is the power of the penis?

I have a question for all the guys reading this — and I want you to be 100% honest with yourself as you answer it. How many of you guys get rock hard the second you start making out with a girl? How many of you get rock hard the minute you see a woman naked?

How many of you get hard at the drop of a hat? You might thing that is the power of the penis, i.e., the power to get hard right away. In reality, I don’t think it is.

I think the fact that a lot of guys get hard right away makes women lazy. It really does, because women get used to that and used to the fact that they don’t have to do much of anything.

A woman doesn’t really have to worry about foreplay, because technically you are ramped, amped, and ready. So now you’re spending the majority of time getting her ramped up, and you are remaining hard the entire time because you lack the power of the penis.

I have talked to a lot of women, and I’ve found that they have no issues with men being able to get hard. They even admit that this makes them a bit lazy.

The Power Of The Penis

So you need to learn how to turn the tables. Just as a woman makes you work — and a woman does make you work building up her level of passion — it is perfectly okay to make the woman do a little work as well. Women require slow foreplay and building up their desire before you even go for the clit.

It’s called the power of the clit. If you go directly for the clit, a woman doesn’t like it because she’s not ready yet for that.

It’s funny when the roles are reversed, and the man possesses what I consider to be the power of the penis. Having the power of the penis means that your penis doesn’t stand at attention for just any little boob or kiss.

You are going to have to work him. You are going to have to earn it.

Make a woman earn your erection. Make her work for it just like you work to get her turned on and wet.

Make her kiss your neck. Make her kiss your body. Make her tease you. Make her earn your erection.

It is going to make her a far better lover. It’s also going to turn her on more in the long run than having you just stand there erect 24/7 like an American Flag.

So make her earn it. Learn to have the power of the penis.

Learn to control your erection. Learn to give her centimeter by centimeter, millimeter by millimeter, and inch by inch.

Make her earn your penis and work hard at it, because a lot of women are very lazy and they don’t want to work. By doing that you are going to have longer, more erotic and more enjoyable sex.

Granted, quickies are fine. Even for a quickie, though, make her earn it just a little bit.

Make her tell you how badly she wants you instead of just being erect and ready 24/7. That is understanding the power of the penis.

Did you have toe gripping mind blowing sex?

Or did you spend the weekend thinking of what could have or should have been?

Most men spend there lives trying to get lucky. They get drunk they met a woman and one night it happens they get lucky and have sex and at the same time they think it was some new found rap that they learned or some skill after all these years that surfaced for that night.

But in reality they met a woman that was in need of some sex and they happened to not ruin it by saying anything stupid that night.

Yes, most men tend to talk themselves out of the bedroom. They spend the whole night pushing her away instead of pulling her in.

Sex is only great with a woman when it is her idea! You need to learn the art of teasing in order to have a great sex with a woman.

Here are 5 quick tips that will get her excited to jump into bed with you:

1. Listen to what she has to say. You need to stop thinking about what to say next and spend some time listening to her so you can form an emotional attachment.

2. Sex starts in her mind. By listening to her and having an amazing conversation with her you will be different than 95% of the other guys who she has spoken to. The more she talks the more you listen and react the greater chance of you having great sex with her.

3. Be a gentleman and don’t act like you have not had sex in 10 years. Sex for women is all about being connected to you in an emotional way. Women get all turned off by men that come on way too strong so be a bit mysterious and she will be wanting to explore more of you.

4. Don’t get her drunk and invite her back to your place. Have a drink or two with her and send her home and give her a slow sweet tender kiss. Don’t plunge the tongue deep inside her mouth. You need to always do the opposite of what most men do and learning some self-control will allow her mood to percolate and get turned on to you.

5. Send her a hot text in the middle of the day. Something simple but something that brings her back to the moment from the night before.

Last night was fun….looking forward to our next conversation…..oh and the kiss was not bad either:)

It needs to be something that is playful and fun.

You need to learn how to take control of the situation and really intrigue and turn on her mind.

Let me know if you want more details and we can talk about this and how to have great sex in other postings.

Since Sonja is from New Orleans, I of course not only get to watch the show but also get full-blown commentary during the entire time. I not only get to learn about these new characters. I get background information, history of the streets and what happened during Katrina. It’s like getting two shows for the price of one — one on television and one in my living room.

Anyway, there was a really funny episode about a guy celebrating his girlfriend’s birthday. They are both musicians. He buys her a great bottle of wine for her birthday, and wants to drink it in the morning.

You’ve got to love a musician’s life. The minute they wake up, he looks at her and says “I got you a birthday present.” Then he hands her the bottle of wine. She says, “No, let’s drink it later.”

I love the 20′s. I mean, people in their 20′s are just great.

So of course what happens next is that they start fooling around. The 20′s are so great because they are in that time when they can get drunk or screw all morning long.

Later they were on the street, and a musician comes over and tells the girl that he really wants her to play with his band that night at a private event. She then asks the musician if the boyfriend can play with them too. The musician says he already has someone playing the piano (the instrument the boyfriend plays), but says the boyfriend is welcome to come and enjoy the food and the music.

What happens next is so typical of people in their 20′s. The boyfriend of course goes to the show. He has conversations and eats all the food.

Eventually, and even though the girlfriend was keeping watch as to where he was, the boyfriend leaves the show pissed off. Leaving like that is something you do in your 20′s. He left because he was jealous and pissed off that his girlfriend had a gig and he didn’t, and because he saw her talking to some guy of which he didn’t approve.

So the next scene shows him drinking the bottle of wine he gave her for her birthday alone in their apartment. It’s such a douchebag 20-something guy move to do.

How do I know? I’m sure I probably did that when I was in my 20′s. So I laughed during that whole scene.

Let me tell you something. If it’s your significant other’s birthday and they invite you to something that is really special to them, then you celebrate the fact that they were recognized. I don’t care what you had otherwise planned — taking them out for a really nice dinner or to the top of the Empire State Building or whatever.

You can do your special celebration afterwards or even on another day. What I teach over and over again is to be present in the moment. Realize in that situation that the “new thing” that came up is actually another special celebration and just enjoy it.

It’s amazing how many guys in their 20′s act like the guy in this show acted. Actually, it’s not just guys. I know a lot of girls are reading this and snickering as you are thinking that you never act like this, but I have seen a lot of women in their 20′s act this way too.

This is a 20′s disease. It’s called “if things don’t go according to plan I am going to throw a temper tantrum like I’m five years old.”

For any of you who acted like this in your 20′s, I hope you are not doing it in your 30′s and 40′s. If you are, you really are just a man-child or a woman-child

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When it comes to one-night stands for women, I say go for it! Go have a one-night stand.

They’re amazing for your sexuality. They’ll make you feel free. You’ll have a blast, and I want you to do it with no guilt.

If you choose to have a one-night stand, just pick a guy and have fun. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t allow your friends to judge you.

Sex is something about which we need to be free and open. We need to stop judging ourselves, and start experiencing ourselves.

To the men, if you have a one-night stand with a woman — if she allows you to have a one-night stand with her — don’t judge her. Just thank her for sharing an amazing night with you.

Give her the option of whether or not to do it again with you. If she chooses you to have a one-night stand, just say “That was a great night. I don’t know if you want to move forward and do this again, but I’d like to.” If she declines, thank her for a great night and make her feel wonderful.

So, if you have a one-night stand with somebody, let the other person feel great about it. They chose you for that one-night stand because they thought you weren’t going to be an asshole at the end of it.

The next time you have a one-night stand, thank the person for a wonderful evening. You never know. You might get another one-night stand with that person a few days later.

Sonja looked at me and said, “Oh my God, a Siamese cat. I love them!” I said, “Me too.”

So we both got down on the ground and looked into each other’s eyes. We had that really great gaze that only lovers can have.

All of a sudden, we got involved in this heavy petting session — right there at the end of the driveway. It was really heavy petting.

That cat kept pushing up against us really hard as we were petting it. It kept raising its ass up in the air because it was loving the heavy petting so much. It kept banging its head against us, to encourage us to continue the heavy petting.

When we left, we were hoping the cat wouldn’t follow us since we had to cross the street. I know after an intense heavy petting session, cats tend to follow you because they are so satisfied.

So why this whole cat story? Well it was inspired by an email I just received.

The email said, “I met up and took a trip with a guy. At the end of the trip, we kissed and had some heavy petting, but no sex. Then he went back to his country. . .”

Heavy petting? Really?

Are we rubbing each other’s heads like cats? Are we touching each other on that certain spot above the ass, resulting in us sticking our butts up in the air? Are we getting down on all fours and saying stupid things to one another so that the other person will touch us with heavier hands?

Heavy petting just sounds so hot. “God, Sonja and I made out the other night. It was so hot. Then, all of the sudden, we were heavy petting . . . ” Come on now.

Heavy petting is the weirdest term in the world. Who came up with that term?

What ever happened to the term “fooling around?” How about saying that you were caressing each other’s bodies? How about saying that you were sexually touching each other? How about just saying kissing and some great foreplay?

When did we become animals? When did “heavy petting” become a term in our common vocabulary? Let’s talk about that today.

In the meantime, I have to go because my girl is looking at me right now wagging her tail and I need to take her for a walk. Wait, actually I am going to do some heavy petting on Daphne my dog, so that she will be extra satisfied when she pees.