You need to get your lover to succumb to you. Do you have any idea how to do that?
You have this amazing chemistry with this person. You’ve let that amazing chemistry go and take off on its own, but do you really communicate with your lover all your desires? Do you share your innermost desires with your lover?
What turns most of us on the most, is when our lover tells us what they need, how they feel and what kind of lover they desire us to be. Those things make you feel good.
If you think about it, we go into any sexual relationship with a certain skill set. Each person with whom you have sex, though, is a different person. You want each person who becomes your lover to be your unique lover.
If you are progressing and growing in life, then your current lover should be the most incredible lover you’ve ever had. If you’ve learned from each of your relationships and embraced the lessons from each of those relationships, then each lover should be the most amazing lover you’ve ever had.
As you’re embracing the lessons, you need to express yourself more with each person. It’s so important to express yourself with your lover, because in order to have things get better and better with your lover, you need to tell each other things.
Maybe you are not the kind of person who talks about how you feel about your lover all the time, but maybe hearing how much you desire them is exactly what your lover wants to hear. This is the kind of thing you need to know.
Maybe you’re someone who is not very adventurous in bed. If your lover is very adventurous in bed, then you’ve got to become more adventurous so you can play with each other.
You’ve got to learn each other’s needs — physical, mental and emotional — and be fully aware of them. That is how you will get to new levels of intimacy with your lover.
In life, we crave incredible levels of intimacy. We crave levels of intimacy we’ve never before experienced.
Are you someone who controls yourself if your lover goes down on you? Are you always in control of yourself in bed? Do you think too much?
Express all of that to your lover. Talk about all of that with them so the two of you can get you past that, and so you can bring each other even more pleasure.
We all do this in one way or another. So we all have to learn how to really get closer with each other and how to touch each other’s heart even more.
If you’re not doing these things with your lover, you may start to get frustrated and then your confidence in the bedroom is going to start to dissipate. If you don’t know how to make your lover come or if you don’t know what your lover likes the most, you need to learn.
It might be as simple as changing the way you move your hips or a small change in the way you touch them. Whatever it is, learn it! So if you really want sex with your lover to be amazing, it’s time you really succumbed to each other.
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Let’s talk today about “sexting.” This is something we’ve discussed before here in the blog, but I want to talk about it a little differently today.
Sexting is really all about escalating. I am not trying to sound like a pickup artist (as most of you well know!), but when you’re dirty texting back and forth you really want to take the woman on a journey.
Think of sexting like a road heading into the mountains. The road starts out nice and flat, but you want to test things out ahead of time. You want to make sure your tires are sound and that the brakes will work.
So to do that, you will send something very simple like, “I had a thought . . . ” If she takes the bait, she’ll text you back asking you what that thought was.
Then you can write, “Well, last night I had this dream about you . . .” When you do that, you’re testing a little bit to see if she goes for it. This is good, because if you really had a dream about someone, you would probably share it with that person in bursts (and not all at once).
You want to be able to take it slowly. Really, this is mental masturbation! If you can get her to mentally masturbate about the thought of you having sex with her, she’s going to want to sleep with you when you meet up. So you’re really just testing the road.
It’s also about being 100% in control. For instance, you can say something like, “Yeah, last night I learned about this new position, and it was really hot. So, how’s your trip to D.C.?”
It’s a giveaway-takeaway. You want to constantly give and take away from her.
The more you do that, the hotter she will become. You’re teasing her.
It’s really the same thing with sex. The guy who goes straight for the vagina and pounds away is not going to please the woman. The guy who massages, loves and cherishes the woman is the one who is going to get that woman totally hot.
It’s the same thing for sexting and for sex. Everything is about foreplay. Life is about foreplay.
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Yesterday’s topic was definitely controversial. About yesterday’s topic, I think that when you’re in a relationship there will be less chance of you seeking out opposite sex friends if you can let go sexually.
Now when I say “let go,” I am talking about you being able to be open about your needs, asking for what you want, and being that crazy person in bed you’ve always wanted to be. This goes right into today’s blog topic.
So let’s get right into this topic and see if we can get the controversy going again…
I was thinking today about sex. It’s not like I don’t ever think about sex. I actually enjoy thinking about sex. There was one thing I was thinking about that was really interesting.
I want you to ask yourself this question: In your sex life, how easy is it for you to let go?
When your lover goes down on you, how is easy is it for you to let go? How easy is it for you to totally give into them, and to let them do whatever they want?
Can you just “go with it” and really just enjoy it? Can you accept that they get pleasure and enjoyment from bringing intense pleasure to your body? Are you able to do these things?
You know what’s funny, is that so many of us (men included) have trouble having an orgasm from oral sex. It’s true. There are men out there that just will not cum from a blow job.
I think it’s all about self-control. Think about it.
If you know how to please your lover, you should really be pleasing your lover on a regular basis. I mean, who doesn’t want to be pleased? Who doesn’t want to experience the beauty of an orgasm (and the beauty of an orgasm from your lover’s mouth)?
So if you’re having trouble climaxing with your partner, you need to think about the reason why that is so. What do you think about when your partner goes down on you?
Are you releasing everything? Are you holding anything back? Are you in control of yourself? Are you over-thinking it or do you just go with it?
In order to really be able to orgasm with your partner — especially during oral sex — you really need to be able to totally let go. If it takes an extra ten minutes one night, who cares? If it take an hour to cum and you’re enjoying it, who cares?
It’s all about having that intimacy, and the greatest thing about intimacy is letting go. Each day you can get more intimate with your partner. You can get more intimate in every way.
So why hold back? There is no reason to ever hold back sexually from your partner. It’s a lesson that I think all of us need to learn.
Labor Day weekend was amazing! I got to spend three days at a spa just relaxing, hanging out and really doing nothing. I suggest that everyone needs to do nothing sometimes. Doing nothing can be great, and it really can regenerate your mind and body.
The place that we stayed was chock full of celebrities. I did a spin class with Hilary Swank, and ran into Shannon Doherty there as well. The only one missing was Steve Sanders. If he was there, we could have called it a 90210 reunion. Last night at Dinner I ran into Ted Danson and his crew at a restaurant. (more…)
Today is Wednesday. It’s Hump Day. Hump Day, now there’s a myth.
How many people really hump on Hump Day? How many people are going to get humped on Hump Day?
Today I want to talk about sexual myths. You know all the classic ones. Men can always get off fast, or why do all women take so long to cum.
How about the myth that there’s one method to please every woman? I love when I read the articles with titles like, “The Surefire Way To Get Your Woman To Orgasm Tonight.”
I also love the articles in Cosmopolitan telling women about “The 3 Ways To Drive All Men Wild In Bed.” More often than not when I read those I think that at least one of those things is something I’d never want done to me (and might even drive me away).
It’s amazing how many myths there are out there about sex. Recently one of my competitors was charging $1,500.00 for a program which claimed to teach men how to get any woman to orgasm in thirty seconds or less.
I don’t need to spend $1,500.00 for someone to tell me to buy a vibrator. I mean, a Hitachi Magic Wand is many women’s best friend. I’ve seen some women pray to that thing.
There really are so many myths and misconceptions about sex . . . and about women’s sexuality in particular. Today’s podcast is going to tantalize and tickle you in different ways. You may learn new things or you may not.
You may learn a surefire method to have great sex on Hump Day, and you may laugh and realize that so much of what you hear is, well, the answer to that lies in today’s podcast. So click here and listen now!
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I’d like to share with you an email I received from one of my readers named Ryan. Ryan writes:
“Dear David,
I just got into the biggest fight with my girlfriend, because I was really curious about how many guys she’s slept with. I’ve only slept with three women – I’m 29 years old. I lost my virginity at 19, and I’ve had three relationships, so I’ve never really had casual sex. I’ve been honest with my girlfriend about that. When I asked her how many guys she’s slept with, she told me about 40! I freaked out and started screaming at her. She ran out of the room crying, and now she won’t return my phone calls. What do I do?”
Here was my answer to Ryan:
Ryan (aka Mr. Double Standard),
How disgraceful are you? My God, I can’t believe how many men do this over and over again. How many men judge women based on the number of men with whom they’ve slept? Who cares!
So she’s slept with 40 people. What difference does that make? She’s not sleeping with all 40 of them right now. When you come home at night, you don’t find 40 men in your bedroom waiting to have sex with your girlfriend.
Do you think she’s promiscuous now that you know she has slept with 40 men? She was just expressing her sexuality.
It’s amazing how many men think that it’s perfectly okay for them to sleep with 40 women . . . and even congratulate themselves for it. When a woman sleeps with 40 men, though, men consider her to be a slut.
I can’t stand guys who have double standards. I don’t care at all with how many men a woman has slept. All I care about is that she enjoyed herself, and that she grew throughout her sexual journey.
It’s not the number of people you sleep with that’s important. It’s what you do with them. It’s how you evolve as a person through those relationships. It’s what you learn about yourself from them.
Some of us may sleep with hundreds of people along the way. Why people do that will vary, but the reasons really don’t matter.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, it doesn’t matter with how many people you’ve slept. You should never judge your partner based on the number of people with whom they’ve slept.
Does your partner enjoy being with you? Are they loyal to you? Do they love being with you? Do they love having sex with you? If the answer to these questions is yes, then what does it matter how many people they’ve slept with before you?
You have to accept that being their partner now means accepting everything they’ve done before they were with you. You have to respect their journey and the things they’ve done. If you can respect all that they’ve done, then you are honoring who they truly are.
The minute you judge somebody like you did, Ryan, you probably deserve to have her walk out on you. You were practicing a double standard. Remember that no one is a slut or a stud when you don’t judge.
Today’s video will help you turn off the negative thinking and really help you embrace each persons unique journey in life.
Did you ever have a day where you’d swear that everyone is against you? You’d swear that person who cut you off in traffic knew you were having a bad day and wanted to make it worse. You just feel like you can’t do anything right.
It’s one of those days where the mail comes and you receive a huge medical bill for treatment you got three years ago (about which you thought they forgot). You think to yourself, “Wow, am I ever having a crappy day!”
In reality, though, you are not having a crappy day. You are having a crappy moment.
The whole day isn’t ruined, just that moment is ruined. That’s it. It’s just a bad moment in the day.
So you need to be able to look at that bad moment as just that — a bad moment. Nothing more and nothing less. A lot of us think too much about the bad day we’re having.
You need to realize that it’s just a bad moment, and be able to say “Who Cares?” to yourself about it. It’s about having an abundance mindset (which so many people don’t have).
So many people’s mindset is the very definition of a scarcity mindset. I hear people tell me all the time, “David, I just can’t find someone to date.” The truth is that you can go online anytime and find an abundance of people to date.
I mean, really, pick any website — ANY one — and there’s a ton of people you can meet and date. A ton. It’s about having the right mindset.
It’s understanding what online dating is all about. It’s understanding who you are so you can find the right people to date. It’s being able to write a good profile.
It’s knowing that you can go online at any time of the day and there are people to date. It’s having an abundance mentality.
Whenever you get online, it’s like a being in a giant bar in the sky. There’s just so many people you can meet.
To meet them, however, requires an understanding of how to work the online world. You have to understand how to meet people online. You have to understand the hot buttons and how to flirt.
It’s generally no different than meeting people in the real world. The one big perk, though, is that you can do it from the comfort of your own home. Have a bad interaction with someone online? You can just go to another website and meet someone else.
It’s actually quite fun . . . IF you know what you’re doing. So I’m really proud to have just launched my first video product, which is an online dating guide for men. If you want to learn more about it, then click here. (There’s great video preview clips on here too!)
Today’s podcast is all about how to deal with the mindset of a crappy day. Are you really having a crappy day . . . or is it really just a crappy moment you are letting affect your whole day? I will tell you exactly how to deal with these kind of days, and how to adjust your mindset so you will never again let a crappy moment become a crappy day.
I’m sitting here right now deleting 219 unopened emails from my Facebook page. As I’m sitting here doing that, the IM box keeps popping up with all sorts of “friends” (whom I don’t really know) wanting to chat with me.
“Hey David! Are you there?”
“Hey David, Can I ask you a question?”
“Hey David – I have a situation with a woman right now … ”
Things like that are popping up nonstop on my screen. It’s really funny that there are all these ways to contact me in ways I don’t want to be contacted.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I love hearing from people, but I have one email address — david@davidwygant.com — that I want people to use to contact me.
People will be on my website, but for some reason or other decide to contact me via Facebook.
It’s not just Facebook. I get things from MySpace. I get things from Twitter. I get them from all over the place. I get people who just randomly text me nonstop saying things like “Hey, how are you?”
What is so funny is that in this age of communication where people are so good at communicating via all these different methods — Facebook, Twitter, MySpace etc — that people still can’t say hello to each other in a store. Pretty wild, isn’t it?
Can you imagine us all walking around with laptops around our necks? Every time we’d pass someone, their Facebook page immediately shows up on our laptop screen. So instead of actually talking to them, you can just send them an IM as they’re shopping in the grocery store aisles.
You could be sitting in traffic and, all of a sudden, you notice you’re attracted to the person driving in the car next to you. You could then immediately jump on their MySpace page, IM them and say “Hey you! I’m in the car next to you. Want to chat?”
People don’t do this in real life. Seems like everyone is good in the cyberworld, but lousy in reality, and the fact is that reality is the only thing that matters.
The other day I was walking near these two kids who were about ten or twelve years old. They were texting their friends and ignoring each other.
I remember when I was a kid, we used to go on roadtrips all the time. We actually used to look out the window and see what was going on around us. Now, kids stare at DVD screens in the car and text their friends.
It’s amazing how many people complain nonstop about how they’re not meeting anyone. The reason a lot of people aren’t meeting anyone is because they have their head up their electronic ass all day long!
As most of you know, I’ve been looking for an iPhone. One guy said to me that if I get the 3G iPhone, that it may not be compatible with the T-Mobile network making the mobile web service work a lot more slowly. I told him I didn’t really care because I don’t need the mobile web nonstop.
I like to connect with people, say hello to my friends and neighbors, and get to know new people. Also, what ever happened to learning what someone is all about as a person? I don’t need to read it on a Facebook page or a MySpace page. I can actually walk up to people and find out more information in five minutes than I ever would on their Facebook page or MySpace page.
When people write in cyberspace, it is often a bunch of lies. Everyone writes as the person they want to be, not the person they really are. Everybody makes themselves sound so perfect, and they do it on dating sites as well too.
So, really, think about the amount of hours you spend IMing people, texting people and trying to get in touch with old friends. Think about all the time you spend reconnecting with people whom you really haven’t connected with in so long.
We’re all looking for those great friendships or that great love, and we’re doing everything we possibly can to find them. We’re reconnecting on Facebook with people we dated twenty years ago to see if there’s anything to be rekindled with that old flame.
In reality, though, how much time are you spending every day actually going out and meeting people? This is what I’m teaching you here. It’s about the spark you can find in everyday life. It’s about living life and not spending so much time in cyberspace.
As I sit here wasting time not only checking out all the useless emails on Facebook, I want to also tell people to stop tagging people, hitting them with water guns, and all the other stupid applications that Facebook offers. Who cares if someone wants to squirt you with a water gun?
Great! Come to my house, talk to me, and then let’s get into an old-fashioned water gun fight instead of you tagging me with an imaginary water gun in this imaginary world called Facebook.
Are you ready to put down the Facebook pages and meet women out and about in the real world? Summer is a great time to meet people at street fairs.
