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Monday, July 6th, 2009
As most of you know, I don’t really drink. So I didn’t wake up this morning with an alcohol-related hangover, but I did wake up this morning with a holiday weekend hangover.
You take six days off work, and when you wake up the first morning you’re going back to work you are pissed. You’re pissed not because you’re going back to work, but because you’re just not ready for the barrage of emails, that first stupid question of the day . . . or even for oatmeal. That is what I call the holiday weekend hangover.
All of us know exactly how this feels. It’s the worst kind of feeling in the world, especially for people in this country who don’t get enough vacation time. Can you imagine how it is in Europe? How does that holiday hangover feel after being off of work for the entire month of August?
It’s really not fun. I’ll tell you, though, at least you’re in one piece and an affair didn’t bite you in the ass.
When are professional athletes, actors and politicians going to get it? What do they need to get a wakeup call? How many more of them have to die with their dicks in their hand to finally realize, “Hmmm…I’m a high profile person, so maybe I shouldn’t be cheating on my wife with a hot-tempered 20 year old.”
I was a huge Steve McNair fan. He was a battler and a competitor. He did great things for the community. Hanging out with a woman from Dave & Busters when you have four kids, however, isn’t a great move.
They are calling his death a homicide. They are not calling Sahel Kazemi’s death a homicide. Hmmm, can we put the pieces together ourselves? We’ll wait for the Nashville Police Department to tell us it was a murder-suicide.
It just really bothers me, the idea of someone deciding they have the power to take someone’s life. I’m not going to sit here and talk about handgun control, when really it could be as simple as penis control.
Cheating can kill you. Forget smoking. I’ve said it before and I’ve said it many times: If you’re not happy in a relationship, man up before you go sticking your penis in another woman’s volatile vagina.
We’ve all heard about women being scorned and seen enough of them get even. How many penises need to be bitten off, and how many men need to be blackmailed or murdered, before you realize that cheating doesn’t pay.
Now, don’t even get me started this morning on prescription drugs. Gee, I think I’m going to take a drug so powerful that when most humans take it they have an anesthesiologist administer it. What are some people thinking?
The world lost two very unique people who made some stupid decisions. I believe everything has a lesson. Learn from these lessons.
Maybe you’re not popping highly addictive pharmaceutical drugs, but maybe you have some other vice that’s slowly killing you. Maybe you’re in a relationship that’s not working and you’re thinking about sticking your penis elsewhere.
Pay attention to the deaths of Michael Jackson and Steve McNair. So many people think these kind of things can never happen to them. I’m sure Michael Jackson and Steve McNair did not imagine their outcomes.
Today’s message, if you don’t already know what it is, is to pay attention to the warning signs and to stop thinking you’re invincible. It could be as simple as to stop texting while you’re driving, because let me assure you that you will eventually get into an accident if you don’t.
It could be your attitude toward alcohol. You might think, “It’s just wine” but have you ever heard the term “wino?” You might be cheating and think she’ll never find out, but you never know what kind of woman you’re cheating with and what she might do.
So, once again, this holiday weekend hangover is brutal! Does anyone got a prescription for it?
Tags: cheating on spouse, cheating on wife, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, david wygant, extramarital affairs, hangover, Michael Jackson, Nashville Police Department, Sahel Kazemi, Steve McNair, Steve McNair murder
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Thursday, July 2nd, 2009
Before I start today’s blog, I want to be sure to thank everyone for all the amazing blog comments and emails I received yesterday wishing me a happy birthday. I loved and appreciated them all!
Let’s talk a little about relationships today…
Anyone who has read me knows that there is something I say over and over again (because it is so important!): To be able to truly love yourself and to truly be able to love someone else, you must drop the ego. This is absolutely essential to finding an amazing relationship, but it’s equally critical to maintaining and continually improving a relationship once you’re already in it.
Nothing will kill a relationship (even the best of relationships) more quickly than ego. Here are 6 ways your ego can kill your relationship, and how to avoid having your ego ruin your relationship.
1.Resist The Temptation To Defend Yourself: Think about the number of times you’ve fought with a significant other, and whenever things get a little heated you start to defend yourself. All you hear is you being attacked, and you immediately go into “defending yourself” mode. Do you know that when you defend yourself in a fight, what’s really happening is your ego is defending itself.
It also means that you’ve stopped listening to the other person. If someone tells you that they don’t like the way you’ve been acting lately, why not hear them out instead of defending yourself? It will almost always create a MUCH better outcome.
2.To Love Yourself And Someone Else Completely You Must Separate The Ego: In order to truly love someone, you must separate your ego from yourself. This is also true if you want to be able to totally love yourself. Now, I know that in a perfect world, we would never be ego-driven. This is not a perfect world of course, so let’s get real. We are all ego-driven to some extent or another, so let’s acknowledge it and embrace that we need to separate the ego to cultivate and maintain a truly amazing relationship with someone.
3.Your Ego Can Ruin Any Conversation: The truth is that no matter how much you prepare, plan and hope for a good conversation with your significant other, your ego is the one thing that will consistently ruin any conversation you’re about to have if you let it.
Let’s say your significant other is frustrated with you in one way or another and really needs to express something about that to you. How do you respond? If you let your ego get involved and you defend yourself, it means that you’re not listening to them.
In order to really listen to somebody, it’s uncomfortable. Sometimes your significant other has things that are really bothering them about which they want to talk to you, but which you would rather not hear. To maintain a great relationship, however, you can’t let your ego keep you from really listening.
4.You Have To Be Willing To Drop The Ego And Learn To Have A Healthy Relationship: If you want to really be able to get deep with someone and take your relationship to a deep level, then you need to be able to take your ego out of the equation. You will always attract somebody who is just like yourself, because you really attract who you are as a person. Also, your significant other is going to do things that you don’t recognize. It may be voices, patterns, communication styles or other things with which you aren’t familiar.
You need to be open and able to learn these things about your significant other, and your ego will keep you from doing this every time. All of us need to learn things about our significant other every single day. We need to learn our significant other’s communication style, because many times your communication styles will be very different.
5.Dropping The Ego Doesn’t Mean You Need To Change Who You Are: It can take a lot for you to drop the ego, really listen to your significant other and realize that they need you say something in a different way or understand how the way you communicate may make them feel a certain way. A lot of people misunderstand these kind of requests as being their significant other’s attempt to change them. It’s not.
They’re not trying to change you, they are trying to improve the way you communicate with each other. They are trying to get the two of you to be able to communicate better than you ever have in the past. Don’t let your ego get in the way. Embrace this!
6.Ego Causes Those “Low Blowers” Which Are The Biggest Relationship Killers: Do you get frustrated when you’re having an argument with a significant other? Of course, we all do. When that happens, though, sometimes the ego will cause you to hurl what I call “low blowers” at the other person.
You’re feeling hurt, so you lash out and say something you know will make the other person hurt too. It was not only hurtful, but inevitably something stupid. By listening to your significant other, instead of lashing out from your ego, you can get through an argument without these low blows and they will be much more constructive (and not destructive to your relationship).
So the next time you see your ego getting involved in your relationship, get rid of it! If you find yourself defending yourself or not allowing you to really listen, then you need to take a step back. Listen carefully to what’s really being said, and use it to create the most amazing relationship.
Tags: communication in relationships, Dating Advice, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, david wygant, ego, Goals & Aspirations, how to communicate in relationships, relationship, relationship advice, relationship advice for men, relationship advice for women
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Tuesday, June 16th, 2009
Juicy…
It’s really funny because men don’t need any special reason to check out a woman’s ass . . . let alone women wearing something with the word “juicy” or “belief” written across it.
I was just in the grocery store and saw a woman wearing sweatpants that had the word “juicy” on it, and then saw another one in a different aisle with the word “belief.” Every time I see this, I always think how interesting it is how many women wear things like this.
Women get so annoyed that men check out their asses, but then they go out, buy and wear sweatpants with words like “juicy” on them all but putting a neon arrow pointing to their ass.
I mean, women know we’re curious and they know we don’t like a lot of text at one time. If women really wanted men not checking out their ass, then they would put a whole paragraph on the ass of their pants.
Anyway, I believe in juicy. Really, it’s true that if we’re looking at your ass we already think you’re ass is juicy.
So on to today’s juicy blog…
Let’s talk about sex. Let’s talk about the realities of good sex.
Sex should never get boring. The truth is that if you have good and open communication with your partner about what feels good and what you desire then sex should never get boring.
You and your partner should always be wanting and willing to please each other. So if you combine that with open and honest communication about what you each desire then you are going to have some amazing sex.
Let’s also talk about something else about good sex. Everyone is always talking about new sexual positions. They want something new to do other than 69. They’ll say, “I want to do 77. I want to do 48. I want to do 62.” The bottom line is that there are probably only four or five positions that really feel good to both of you or that allow both of you to orgasm really amazingly.
Let’s go even deeper into this. Let’s say you like five positions. Then let’s say you are really good at certain foreplay things, so that’s ten or fifteen more things you like to do. Finally let’s say there are ten different places in your house that you like to have sex.
There are then more than twenty different ways you can have sex that you both really enjoy. So if the average couple has sex two days a week (which, by the way isn’t enough for me), it is going to take you months to do everything you both like one time before you have to ever repeat things. Plus, by the time you get back to repeating something, it will seem new and exciting again.
Sex should never get boring with the person that you are with, because you should always be coming up with new and fun things to do and really enjoying each other’s bodies. It is amazing when someone knows everything you like. They know how to make you feel good, and they know how to make you orgasm in ways no one else does.
Granted, the newness does wear off. Everybody loves that newness. It is so great, and I love to have, new sex.
If you think about it, though, new sex is actually nerve-racking. When you’re having sex with someone you’ve only slept with once or twice, you don’t know what they like or what they are feeling.
Being with your lover and getting to know them in every which way, however, is the ultimate intimacy. Learning somebody, feeling them, experiencing things with them, and then making love to them, is beautiful. It is a beautiful thing to experience somebody and get to know everything about their body, because just when you think you know everything about their body you find out something new.
Tags: 69 position, amazing sex, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, david wygant, good sex, How To Be A Better Communicator, how to have good sex, improving intimacy, intimacy, Juicy brand, orgasms, relationship advice, sexual positions
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Saturday, May 30th, 2009
Today is Saturday, May 30th, and I will be celebrating the birthday of the woman I love. It’s funny about birthdays.
I really don’t like mine, due to the fact that I always have the attitude that it is just another day. When it comes to making birthdays special for someone you love, however, that’s when the fun starts.
You get to shop for some presents and scatter them around the house, so they will have things to open all day long. You get to plan a fun dinner, and plan some great birthday surprises for after dinner.
I like doing the surprising better than being the one surprised. So today I will be laying out the surprises.
As one of my first surprises for her, I’d like to write a little note here to Sonja…
Sonja — As you know this whole day was and is about spoiling you. So, look at this as my birthday blog to you. As you know, I never write a blog as an open letter to any one person, but how would it look if I did not wish the woman I love huge birthday wishes on my blog? 
Now, let’s not get all crazy. I am not making this into a “Tom Cruise jumps on Oprah’s couch” moment . . . but then again that moment gave him a ton of press publicity, so maybe I should give Oprah a ring and ask if I can jump on her couch and wish Sonja a happy birthday.
For now (and until I am able to arrange my couch jumping Oprah appearance), what I want to hear from all of you today is how you feel about birthdays.
Do you like your birthday, or do you just treat it like any other day?
What was your favorite birthday, and what did you do to celebrate it?
Which birthday made you think about something really deep and profound?
So Happy Birthday to Sonja, and to anyone else who shares a May 30th birthday with my girl!
Tags: birthday celebrations, birthday memories, birthday surprises, birthdays, celebrating birthdays, david wygant, favorite birthdays, happy birthday, how to celebrate your birthday, tom cruise
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Tuesday, May 26th, 2009
Today’s blog is going to be personal. Let’s talk about stubbornness. I know all of you are stubborn in your own way.
Let me tell you about a stubborn choice I made, and how I’m still paying for it today. About a year ago, I decided to go surfing. I had never been surfing before, but really wanted to try it (even though I knew it wasn’t the greatest activity for someone with a history of lower back issues).
So I went out and surfed during a vacation. I got up on the board with no problem, but I kept jumping off of it into the shallow water. By my final day of the trip, I was getting really sore . . . but still decided to surf one more time. Since that day, my back has never felt the same.
Now I’ve tried practically everything to fix it. I’ve done acupuncture. I’ve gone to chiropractors. I’ve gone to massage therapists. I’ve been to yoga. I’ve done everything exercise and stretching related. I’ve done it all . . . except gone to get an MRI.
It’s funny, but during all this time I’ve tried to heal myself I’ve never before sat around and just rested for a few days like I did during the Memorial Day weekend. I don’t like to do that because I get too into my own head.
When I sit around, I feel weak. I’m miserable. It borders on depression for me.
I’ve been sitting around my house the last several days doing nothing all day long. Some of you regularly just sit around and watch television all day long. I have no idea how you live that life.
To me, sitting and watching television all day long is just an emotional torture. I’m a doer.
I’ve also been an athlete my entire life. I work out daily. If I don’t work out for a few days, I feel terrible and I have to do something active to feel better.
Let’s talk about emotional torture, though, because for me there is nothing worse than being forced to rest. I’m really stubborn. My girlfriend has told me plenty of times to get an MRI, but I just wouldn’t do it.
Finally, last week, I decided to make an appointment. I’m going today to get it.
I want to go even deeper into this. I can’t get out of my own head when it comes down to having to rest. It really stems from the way I was brought up as a child.
My Mom has a bad back. My Mom has fought through it her whole life. My Mom also got depressed at times.
My Father died of MS. He got into his head so badly that he actually caused himself to get it. He didn’t want it so badly that he ended up getting it. Strange story. I’ll share that story another day.
So I’ve done nothing but practice mental toughness since I was a little kid. My whole life I’ve had to practice mental toughness. You get hurt, and you go out and do it anyway.
When I was in college, I separated my shoulder. At the time, I played on a competitive intramural league and I was also weightlifting. Two days after separating my shoulder, I was playing football again with my friends. I always believed you fight through pain, because nothing is worse than the mental anguish.
So as I layed around all Memorial Day weekend stiff as can be (and annoyed as can be), I realized what my lesson from this should be: If I had listened to my girlfriend months ago, I would have gotten an MRI and figured out what the problem is and what’s really wrong with me. Had I done that, I would have gotten the right treatment instead of doing 80% the wrong things.
I have never before sat around for a week to rest and just let my body heal. I don’t know how to let my body heal. When my back locks up or contracts, I will fight my way through it so I can start walking again.
Time seems to move so slowly when you’re resting. It’s ridiculous. This weekend was torture.
My girlfriend is in the Cayman Islands right now enjoying herself. She’s got a little vacation and a little business trip. Good for her.
I wouldn’t want to be around me anymore when I’m like this — stubborn, cantankerous and so in my own head. I would love for her to be here to help take care of me. I would never ask, even if I wanted her to stay.
There’s something about me that is so stubborn, telling myself that I can take care of myself and can make this go away on my own, that even if I really needed her I would never say a word. When I’m really hurting, I tend to push people away.
Admitting that fact, about that or anything else, is a big part of changing. I see the same issue in a lot of you when I read your posts.
A lot of you are still going through the same problems with the opposite sex over and over again. When are you going to reach out for help? When are you going to stop being so stubborn?
Tags: back pain, Cayman Islands, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, david wygant, depression, healing back pain, MRI, stubborn, stubborness
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Wednesday, April 29th, 2009
I’m not even going to write a long blog today, because I want all of you to download and listen to the podcast I just recorded. This audio is going to expose all your fears, all your terrors and all of the walls you put up from the moment you meet someone until the second you get naked in bed with them. Get ready…this one is really powerful!
Click the play button below to listen today’s podcast:
Also, yesterday I released a product that will have limited availability. No sales hype here . . . it’s just the plain truth.
It’s going to be limited because I and the man with whom I created this product want it that way. Why? The reason is that in this product, this man is allowing everyone who gets to hear it into his heart, his soul . . . and into his bedroom (literally!)
Curious? Click here to find out more about it.
Now you all know me pretty well. I’m not about being mysterious and I always “tell it like it is,” but today I want all of you to hear how raw, open and vulnerable my friend and I just got on this podcast and how we tear down all the walls people put up in life.
Enjoy…and happy Wednesday!
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Wednesday, April 8th, 2009
Today’s blog should be really interesting.
People are always saying to me, “I don’t want to be needy.” People don’t want to be needy.
The question is, though, what is your definition of being needy? What do you think neediness really is?
I’m not going to give you my definition of neediness here. I want to hear from you guys today.
What is needy behavior to you? Also, do you know the difference between unhealthy neediness and healthy neediness?
It’s perfectly okay to need somebody in a healthy way. As people, we are relational and we do need each other. We can satisfy each other’s needs in a healthy relationship. That is healthy neediness.
My question to you is this: What is your definition of unhealthy neediness?
I’m sure all of you have experienced some form of unhealthy neediness at some point in one of your relationships. I’m really curious to see what you all post on this!
Are you curious to know exactly how I feel about neediness? In today’s podcast, I really “let loose” and tell you EXACTLY how I feel about this. Check it out . . . this one will really blow you away!
If you want me to show you how to TRANSFORM your entire dating life step-by-step and how you can develop the true inner confidence that will allow you to effortlessly attract women every day and everywhere you go, then you should check out my Men’s Audio Mastery Series.
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Wednesday, April 1st, 2009
What do I think about cheaters . . . and cheating? People always ask me “David, how do you feel about cheaters?”
Well first we have to be clear about what kind of cheating (and cheater) we’re talking. If we are talking about people who cheat on tests, then I don’t feel anything about them because I was one of them.
I used to cheat on tests in college all the time because that was more of a challenge to me. Anyone can sit there, study and just memorize. To be good at cheating – to be able to walk into an exam with an extra bluebook filled with all the answers or to be able to use a copy machine to reduce a semester’s worth of notes onto a tiny page and put it where you can refer to it through the whole exam — now that’s a skill!
I can only imagine today how easy it would be to cheat nowadays with cell phones. You can text on the side of your desk. I can think of so many possibilities.
The kind of cheater I want to talk about in today’s blog, though, is not a cheater on tests. I want to talk about cheaters in relationships.
So how do I feel about cheaters in relationships? Let me tell you exactly how I feel.
First let me preface this by saying that I’m not exactly a “goodie two shoes.” I’m not saying I’ve been perfect my entire life or that I’ve never slipped up and found myself in someone bed who wasn’t my significant other. So before anyone and gets their panties in a knot thinking I’m about to preach about something I’ve never experienced, think again.
I can tell you something right now though. It took me a lifetime to find the person that I love. I honor her, I adore her, and I would never do anything to break the trust that we have. Then again, I’m also someone who has done a lot of work on himself so I knew exactly what I wanted in my partner.
For those of you who feel the need to cheat, I know you fall into a few different “categories” of why you feel you need to do this. I have friends who cheat on their wives, and they tell me they cheat because “it’s just what men do.” I also know people who rationalize cheating by saying “Men cheat, so I’m allowed to cheat.”
I know guys who have great sexual relationships with their significant other, but they still cheat because they just need a little extra “somethin’ somethin’” on the side. I also know people who are swingers who cheat together.
You know, I actually consider the swinger form of cheating to be pretty healthy. If you’re going to cheat, at least allow your partner to cheat too. You may as well cheat together.
So I’m actually all for the swinger lifestyle in that respect. It’s not the lifestyle for me, but I do think it’s a healthy lifestyle that works for certain people.
For people out there who are cheating and rationalizing it, however, you are the people for whom I have no respect.
I have no respect for people who cheat because they don’t have the balls to actually talk about their relationship with their partner.
I have no respect for people who cheat because they can’t admit that they might need to break off the relationship and be on their own again, and due to some weird co-dependency issue or “staying together for the kids” justification stay with their partner while they continue to cheat on them.
I have no respect for people who cheat and can’t admit that they made a mistake.
I have zero respect for any of these kind of people because they all are not being honest with their partners. You have got to be honest with your partner.
If it’s not working out, then you need to be honest about that. Cut your losses and move on instead of cheating.
Even if you have kids or even if you’re financially dependent on somebody, there are better ways to live your life. The kids always know when their parents are unhappy, so you’re not fooling them by staying together.
If you’re too cheap to get a divorce (which I know some people are) because some guys or some women have been the sole providers and you’re too cheap, then basically you’re living your life of hell.
In that situation, you’re basically more married to a bank account than to your partner. God forbid that your bank account should be cut in half! You’d rather just cheat on the side and be in a miserable marriage your whole life. You know what? That’s your own self-torture you’ve created for yourself.
Money can be remade, but you will never be able to make up all the time you lose being with someone you don’t love. Life is about finding love and not being miserable.
As far as I’m concerned, if you’re cheating for any of these reasons, you need to grow the hell up. You need to really look in the mirror and realize that this ride you’re on is not going to last forever.
Life is a one-shot deal. Granted, depending on what you believe, you could be reincarnated and come back as a dog, a cat, or another soul. You really don’t know what’s in store for you.
So if you are out there cheating because you’re not happy in your life, it’s time to look yourself in the mirror. It’s time to step up. It’s time to cut financial losses. It’s time to be honest with the kids.
Most of all, it’s time to be honest with yourself and go find true love. Let me tell you something. I have true love, and nothing feels better than it does. Nothing feels better than waking up every single morning with someone you think is the most amazing and incredible person you’ve ever met.
The rest of you are depriving yourself. If you still feel you need a bit of extra “somethin’ somethin’” then at least let your partner have it too. It’s only fair!
If you’re cheating, come clean. Let your partner cheat too. Maybe the two of you can actually develop a fun and different lifestyle for yourselves.
In today’s podcast, I go more in depth about the subject of cheating. No matter what you feel or think you know about cheating, this podcast is going to blow you away!
Click the play button below to listen:
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