You know, I’ve gone into many people’s homes, and immediately I can figure out who they are and how they care about themselves. If I go into their bathroom and it’s absolutely disgusting, I think to myself, this person could care less about hygiene. They probably don’t brush their teeth and probably wear the same underwear three days in a row.

I go in their kitchen and I see nothing in the refrigerator, and I think to myself: they must really like to starve themselves. If I go into their bedroom and their bed is unmade, I think now that’s cool, they must think to themselves every morning, “Why the hell make a bed?” I’ve never understood that point, where you don’t make the bed because “you’re just getting in it to unmake it again anyway.” Right.

Dating And Clean Homes

You get the point. Your home says so many things about you, especially if you’re dating. Your furniture will say a lot about who you are. The way you decorate will say a lot about who you are. If you have pictures on the wall it will say a lot about who you are.

Look around your house as you read this blog, and if you’re reading this blog at work, look around your desk. Does the condition of your desk actually describe who you are as a person? Look around your house tonight when you go home, and take a look at it, and ask yourself, if I came into this home, would I feel homey? Does it give off the character — does it give off who I am? Is it warm? Is it fuzzy? Is it new? Is it modern? Is it hip? Is it cool?

So many people don’t spend enough time on their house. I think it’s time you really started figuring it out because when someone comes over to your house for the very first time, you want them to have a certain feeling about you. What’s that feeling that you get about your house when you go in there?

Do you desire more of an edge when it comes to your personal style?

Don’t have time to go out shopping and try on new clothes?

Do you crave cool designer clothes at discount prices, but just don’t know where to find them where you live?

Well then listen up because today’s podcast is for you!

In it, Shogo and I share with you our knowledge on great online stores and hidden sales to get your wardrobe kicked up a notch just in time for summer! You’ll get some of our insider tips on where to find some of the top names in men’s and women’s fashion that are marked down to affordable prices. We’ll tell you some of the best websites to go to, many of which are by invitation only.

It’s all about lifestyle when it comes to kickstarting your dating life, and today’s podcast is for all of you guys who’ve been curious about fashion but don’t really know where to start looking!

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I smelled something that almost smelled like the duty free shop at JFK. It stunk!

I wasn’t sure what it was. Was it hand lotion? Perfume? Cologne?

Then out of the corner of my eye, I saw the source of this awful smell. Four guys attached at the hip were walking through the bar. As they got closer, and as the smell got closer, I knew I was dealing with “cologne man.”

That’s right, cologne man. Cologne man is the guy who jumps into the bottle of cologne before he goes out at night, thinking that is the way to turn people on.

I literally smelled those cologne men who were walking in the bar from forty feet away. So here’s a tip for those guys out there who like to bathe in cologne: Don’t do it!

Don’t bathe in your cologne. Dab it on.

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For those of you who think a fragrance smells really good, being subtle is always better than being overwhelming. How do you know your fragrance is overwhelming?

Smell you phone. If your phone stinks like cologne, then you’re putting too much on.

Go in your car and smell. If you car stinks, then you’re putting on too much cologne.

Smell the jacket you go out in at night. Does it smell like the duty-free shop at JFK? If so, then you’re putting on too much cologne.

Nobody wants to hang with somebody who has bathed in cologne. This goes not just for men, but for women too.

If you are a woman who bathes yourself in perfume, a man is not going to be intrigued by that. He is going to think he’s hanging out with his grandmother.

When it comes to fragrance, less is always more.

Now before you jam my in-box with emails for next week. I want to set the record straight.

If you want your email to be the one that is turned into the podcast, it would make my life easier if you posted on the blog.

That way everyone can see the posting and get involved in the conversation as well.

Here is today’s winning email.

“I have been listening to your podcasts and I wanted to bring up something that has hurt my dating life for years. I was raised by a overprotective mother and I was a chunky little girl as a child with very little fashion sense. I didn’t know how to talk back to people and defend myself and I was subsequently harrassed and bullied for much of my childhood up to high school. Safe to say that this took a huge toll on my self esteem and self image. Much of the problem today stems from the fact that the ones who teased me the most were the handsome jock types. While I find these men very attractive today I have the hardest time making eye contact with them. If I see a attractive man walking towards me it takes a extreme amount of will power and mental proding to look at them and attempt to smile. I know this is a defense mechanism from when I wanted to avoid the bullies attention when I was little but this has stuck with me today and it is extremely hard to stop doing it.

I am almost 27 now and in better physical shape than when I was 16, I figure skate and attend regular exercise classes but I still have a hard time thinking that I am attractive. I can still hear the bullies voices in my head sometimes and it is extremely difficult to overcome. I know I am much older and have a very thick skin because of my childhood but after awhile the behavior of looking away became so ingrained I don’t know if I will really ever get rid of it. I know body language is extremely important when trying to talk to someone you find attractive but aside from tripping and falling on the person I find attractive I am not sure how to break this habit and show that I want to talk to them. I am not sure I can manage to smile at them once let alone 3 times. Is there any advice you could give me to break this lifelong habit?

Erin, Cleveland, Ohio”

Are you ready for my answer?

Just listen in now below:

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As we’re talking, I turn around and there is a guy standing there wearing a wizard hat. Here is this 30-something year old man standing there wearing a gigantic wizard hat. It’s not even close to Halloween.

I looked at the checkout girl and said, “Have you seen the wizard?” She started laughing. It’s funny when people wear outrageous, over-the-top things.

I am all about individuality. I’m all about being yourself and dressing in a unique way.

This guy, though, was in his own league of unique. He was wearing a t-shirt and a pair of sweatpants along with his wizard hat.

When you see someone being so over-the-top, it makes you wonder what they are trying to get out of dressing that way. What did this guy want from wearing that wizard hat?

Was he seeking attention, or was he someone who just loves being eccentric (and kind of a freak)? Was he someone who just likes to create a reaction in others?
I always wonder these things when I see someone like that guy in Whole Foods.

I truly believe in individuality, as you all know. I talk about this in all my products, and my coaching is all geared toward helping you become the most powerful and confident version of yourself with the opposite sex.

I think, however, that someone who goes out wearing a wizard hat is really starving for attention. I think that person is not only looking for attention, but is also looking to get a rise out of people.

I mean, it’s really not a natural look. You don’t want to look like Harry Potter when you’re 30 years old. You don’t want to wear a wizard hat or walk around holding a broomstick at age 30.

So for all of you who feel the need to dress in outrageous things just to get attention, you need to realize that you can actually get attention in other ways. You can get attention based on what’s inside you — allowing what’s inside you come out and by expressing yourself.

It’s a beautiful thing to express yourself. Saying what you want. Being able to express what you feel. Being true to yourself and who you are as a person.

Those things will get you lots of attention. Trust me, you don’t need a wizard hat to get attention. You just need to allow yourself to be free, and realize what a great person you are deep inside.

What you’re about to watch is a woman who’s very cute on her own, but goes through Photoshop and the end result you see is what turns men into crazed perfection seeking horn dogs and women into insecure fearful human beings.

Most Men believe that they should be dating the type of women that they see in this type of video. Even men in bad shape only see themselves dating the hot sexy toned women. Their version of perfection is based on the air brushed women they see on tv and in magazines.

And lets not mention a mans view about sex is based on crazy porno sex. Sex that really does not exist nor turn on the average woman.

Women, on the other hand, feel really pressured to look great, because they are always looking at themselves under a microscope.

Women are super critical of themselves more than any man could ever be.

Check this out it shows you the distortions of the way things are and the way people think things should be.

Women after the watching the video how do you feel about the way life and beauty is distorted?

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Sometimes I’ll see a guy on a date who really . . . stands out. The woman he’s on the date with looks hot and sexy.

The man, however, looks like he was just at a Microsoft convention — he’s wearing a Microsoft t-shirt, and worn stretched out jeans up as high on his body as his grandfather’s pants. Then he wonders why he doesn’t get a second chance to go out with this woman.

There is a famous saying that goes, “First impressions are everything.” Make a great first impression, and it could last forever.

Today’s video talks about first impressions, and what women really desire from a man in terms of fashion.

Enjoy . . . and have a great Saturday!

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So last night we decided to create our own summer memory. You remember the blog I recently wrote about summer memories? If not, then click here.

We were going to go to Europe for three weeks in August, but decided to hold off on that trip until October. Anyway, in the spirit of summer memories I am going back home to New York in August, renting a house in the Hamptons for a week and doing all the things I loved to do as a kid in the summer.

I actually can’t wait. Going to old miniature golf places and the old beaches I love is going to be a blast!

I decided to take my own advice and create some summer memories. So, for any of you who think I can’t take my own advice, you’re wrong! It’s really going to be fun.

By the way, this part of the advice in this blog is being sponsored by the self-help section at Barnes & Noble. Well, that sounds good anyway. See, all you advertising people, how easy this is?

Also, if you have nothing to do this weekend, you’ve got to rent one of the best all-time summer movies of all time: “Summer Rental.” Speaking of summer rentals, if any of you know of a great one in the Hamptons please let me know . . . that is, of course, as long as it doesn’t look like this:

Speaking of Sponsors, today’s blog could be sponsored by John Deere . . .

Do women come over to your house and are jealous of all the products in your bathroom?

Is your collection of denim more extensive than any woman’s?

Do you have denim that makes your ass look different depending on what time of the month it is?

Do you wonder if certain clothes make your ass look fat?

Do you have bad hair days?

Do you spend more time looking in the bathroom mirror than you do in the rear-view mirror?

Do you change outfits several times before going out on a date?

Do you actually shop and get a new outfit before going on a date?

Do you call friends and go over what everyone is wearing to be sure that two of you aren’t wearing the same thing?

Are you so obsessive , that you will actually not wear one shade darker brown in your belt than the shade of your shoes because it won’t match?

If you think I’ve been talking about you, MISS thang, I’m actually not. I’m talking about you, Mr. Manscaper. I’m talking about the overprimping, ridiculously obsessed metrosexual man.

Laugh all you want, but if this was a Cosmo quiz with a point system and you scored 100%, then you better learn how to dial back to the manliness of our species. Granted, we all do some form or another of manscaping but it’s actually only a problem when straight men embrace ALL of these diseases.

In reality, even when women say they want to date someone like them, they actually don’t want to have to compete for space on the medicine cabinet shelves. You shouldn’t own more tweezers than your woman does, and you should not be tweezing your eyebrows together.

Her denim should outnumber yours, and you should definitely have more ballcaps than she does.

Let’s not even talk about murses and manbags . . . Granted, one is fine but you should not have one to go with every outfit.

Men have become overprimped over the last ten years. I think it’s time to bring back the manliness of men because, as ugly as it might be, men are meant to pass gas, belch, scratch their balls and have women reprimand them for having poor manners. I just can’t picture one of these overprimpers passing gas . . .

You take six days off work, and when you wake up the first morning you’re going back to work you are pissed. You’re pissed not because you’re going back to work, but because you’re just not ready for the barrage of emails, that first stupid question of the day . . . or even for oatmeal. That is what I call the holiday weekend hangover.

All of us know exactly how this feels. It’s the worst kind of feeling in the world, especially for people in this country who don’t get enough vacation time. Can you imagine how it is in Europe? How does that holiday hangover feel after being off of work for the entire month of August?

It’s really not fun. I’ll tell you, though, at least you’re in one piece and an affair didn’t bite you in the ass.

When are professional athletes, actors and politicians going to get it? What do they need to get a wakeup call? How many more of them have to die with their dicks in their hand to finally realize, “Hmmm…I’m a high profile person, so maybe I shouldn’t be cheating on my wife with a hot-tempered 20 year old.”

I was a huge Steve McNair fan. He was a battler and a competitor. He did great things for the community. Hanging out with a woman from Dave & Busters when you have four kids, however, isn’t a great move.

They are calling his death a homicide. They are not calling Sahel Kazemi’s death a homicide. Hmmm, can we put the pieces together ourselves? We’ll wait for the Nashville Police Department to tell us it was a murder-suicide.

It just really bothers me, the idea of someone deciding they have the power to take someone’s life. I’m not going to sit here and talk about handgun control, when really it could be as simple as penis control.

Cheating can kill you. Forget smoking. I’ve said it before and I’ve said it many times: If you’re not happy in a relationship, man up before you go sticking your penis in another woman’s volatile vagina.

We’ve all heard about women being scorned and seen enough of them get even. How many penises need to be bitten off, and how many men need to be blackmailed or murdered, before you realize that cheating doesn’t pay.

Now, don’t even get me started this morning on prescription drugs. Gee, I think I’m going to take a drug so powerful that when most humans take it they have an anesthesiologist administer it. What are some people thinking?

The world lost two very unique people who made some stupid decisions. I believe everything has a lesson. Learn from these lessons.

Maybe you’re not popping highly addictive pharmaceutical drugs, but maybe you have some other vice that’s slowly killing you. Maybe you’re in a relationship that’s not working and you’re thinking about sticking your penis elsewhere.

Pay attention to the deaths of Michael Jackson and Steve McNair. So many people think these kind of things can never happen to them. I’m sure Michael Jackson and Steve McNair did not imagine their outcomes.

Today’s message, if you don’t already know what it is, is to pay attention to the warning signs and to stop thinking you’re invincible. It could be as simple as to stop texting while you’re driving, because let me assure you that you will eventually get into an accident if you don’t.

It could be your attitude toward alcohol. You might think, “It’s just wine” but have you ever heard the term “wino?” You might be cheating and think she’ll never find out, but you never know what kind of woman you’re cheating with and what she might do.

So, once again, this holiday weekend hangover is brutal! Does anyone got a prescription for it?