When we get involved in a relationship, why are we always searching for that perpetual carrot?
It’s amazing that when we’re unsatisfied in a relationship — feeling like our partner is not satisfying our needs, wants and desires — that we feel afraid to tell them. It’s amazing that we are afraid to be that open, honest, raw and vulnerable with our partner.

Here’s the situation, and this applies equally to men and women today:
You’ve met somebody you’re really jazzed about. You’ve exchanged phone numbers. You notice the area code is different than yours, so you ask them with some hesitation, “Where do you live?” They immediately tell you, “Oh, I’m just in town for the weekend.” BUT–they visit often, and still they’d still like to get together the next time they’re in town.

I can’t tell you how many clients have come to me and said, “David, you’re my last resort. I’ve done the right things. I’ve been a good person. Yet, nothing ever happens to me. I never get asked out. I’m alone and I’m tired of being alone. Aren’t I entitled to a little happiness?” My response to them is a resounding, “No.”

Living in Los Angeles has made me ultra alert to the dreamers who are out there. It seems like everyone in Los Angeles lives in dreamland.

So, you find yourself growing up and all your friends are married. You go to wedding after wedding and, of course, your friends’ wives come up to you and say, “When are YOU going to get married?”

Are long distance relationships really realistic? To tell you the truth, I think long distance relationships are fantasies.

Have you ever been in a relationship in which you keep having the same conversation over and over again? You’ve explained your situation, or a need or desire you have, or something that might bother you about your partner. You’ve talked about it with them over and over and over again. You feel good after each conversation.

Why don’t they act the way they did the first six months? What happened? Why don’t they do the things they used to do during the first six months, like write me love letters? Why don’t they light candles like they used to do? Why aren’t they attacking me sexually in the same way? Are they just bored with me? Do they no longer want these things?

In a time far far away in a time when things were more mellow.

A woman by the name of Helene Wygant gave birth to this lucky fellow.

Today this fellow is celebrating that once a year ritual called post pardum day or in laymens terms a birthday.

I recorded something very personal for all of you today!

One thing you notice when you get to the breakup point is that you actually fight less with your partner. You fight less because in your mind and in your heart you start detaching yourself from the other person, and you don’t care as much anymore. You have already made a determination that they don’t understand you, that they will never understand you and that the relationship just won’t work out with them. So, all of a sudden…