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Wednesday, November 18th, 2009
In over 14 years of doing this, I think I have heard it all. I think I have heard every fear imaginable — fear of approaching, fear of getting intimate, fear of saying what’s on your mind and even fear of initiating that first kiss.
You guys have labeled all these things in so many different and creative ways, from monkey chatter to approach anxiety. I mean, if you Google “fear,” it is amazing how many different versions of it will pop up in the search results.
What I am about to share with you in today’s podcast is going to blow you away. I know that every week I tell you that the podcast is the most powerful one ever, but that is because every week I come up with something more powerful than the week before.
In this podcast, I am going to tell you why there are only two emotions in this world: one is love and the other is fear. Hate is fear. Approach anxiety is fear.
Love and fear really are the only two emotions, and in this podcast I explain to you how to really embrace loving everything and fearing nothing. Click here to listen now:
Also, if you want to learn how to truly embrace love in your life and also how to truly erase fear, then you need to check out my Men’s “What’s Your Excuse?” and my Women’s “No Excuses” programs.
Tags: advice, approach anxiety, Date, dating, Dating Advice, dating tips, david wygant, fear, fear and love, fear of approaching, fear of love, google, how to kiss, kiss, kissing, love, monkey chatter, podcast, tips
Posted in Dave's Faves, Life Style 101, Love, Mindset | 34 Comments »
Monday, August 24th, 2009
What is it about men and being very quiet about their personal lives? Men will be dating somebody, and when they’re out with their friends they’ll say something stupid like, “Yeah, I got to get home to the ‘ol ball and chain.” They always make it look like they don’t care.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned about men, however, it is that when they finally find that one woman with whom they want to be, they want to declare their love to the world.
It’s like they just want to tell everyone. They want to tell anyone who will listen.
They want to get up on a podium and announce, “I met this great girl and I’m in love!”
It’s almost like they’ve never felt that way before. I don’t understand it, but virtually all men seem to act this way.
So I think that a lot of men never fully feel complete until they figure everything out in their life. They want to figure out their whole life. They figure out their work. They figure out their place in the world.
A lot of guys don’t want to fall in love. 23 year old guys will say things like, “I really want to be with this person, but I’ve got to figure my career out first.”
As a man, I think you need to go through a lot of life lessons and understand yourself. I’m not saying that women don’t also need to do this, and I’m not excluding women from this discussion. Men, however, just seem like they need to figure everything out before they put the pieces into place.
The thing is, though, that sometimes in life those “pieces” might come into your life before you have figured everything out. When that happens, you still need to embrace them.
It seems like when men finally do find their true love, they love to declare it. It’s like they want their friends to say, “Wow!” They want the confirmation of hearing, “Really, Dude, that’s so great!”
When a lot of guys are in the beginning stages of learning how to meet women, they tend to have a lot of the same conversations. When they sleep with a woman, they’re going to tell their friends “Man, I slept with this hot girl last night!” It’s all about confirmation.
Men are always about confirmation. They’ve always been about confirmation.
Guys will say things like, “Look at that hot babe over there. She really likes me!” That guy says that because he wants his friends to agree that the girl really likes him.
So men are always looking for confirmation when it comes to women, and that doesn’t change when men find love. When a man finds that woman he know he wants to be with for the long haul, he will make a declaration of love . . . to everyone he can find.
Think about it. Men like to blow their friends away (regardless of the what it is). Men first like to impress their friends, and then they want to blow them away.
It’s funny, too, in how many different places now a days you can make such declarations of love. You can go on Facebook and declare your love to someone. I’ve seen almost all my friends do that.
A friend of mine from college declared his love for someone on Facebook. This is a guy who probably slept with half of the women at that University when we were there, and I’ve never seen him declare his love. When I spoke to him recently, though, he declared his love for her to me. I thought he was crazy.
I’ve seen a lot of my friends declare the love, but I’m just not as public about declaring mine. That’s just not me. It’s not my personality. Why should I declare love? I have a relationship that’s amazing, and nobody needs to know. The reason I’ve probably never declared love, though, is because I never truly felt in love until now.
Now, am I going to declare my love to all of you in the blog today? Nah . . . I’m not going to do that. I’m not going to declare my love for the woman I love either. I know how I feel. I will, of course, declare that love to all my friends though!
Men are very funny and very stubborn, but when a men truly falls in love he’ll declare it and shout it from the top of the Empire State Building. So if any of you guys have ever felt this way, I’d like to hear it.
For those of you who think this blog is too sappy, I don’t really care because sometimes nothing feels better than a declaration of love. If you’ve not declared your love for somebody — including yourself — recently, it’s time you started because real love for yourself and for someone else doesn’t happen often. You should be declaring your love every single day.
Tags: david wygant, declarations of love, i love you, love, men i love you, men saying i love you to women, saying i love you, when to say i love you
Posted in Love, Understanding Male Psychology & Mindset | 25 Comments »
Sunday, August 16th, 2009
Have you ever met someone who absolutely blows you away in every way? When you meet them, you know there’s something different about them . . . even if you can’t put your finger on exactly what it is.
 Love At First Sight!
You don’t spend a lot of time thinking about it or talking about it. You’re not really going to talk about it with them, because you don’t know what they’re feeling. You don’t really spend time talking about it with other people, because you don’t really know what you’re thinking. It just doesn’t make much sense, except that you know you are supposed to be with that person.
I’ve heard so many people describe the time they met their husband or wife, and have said they knew that person was “the one” the second that person walked in the room. I’ve had people say to me things like this all the time: “David, I just knew. I just knew when they walked in the room. I don’t know if it was the way they smiled or the way they talked, but I just knew.”
Have you ever held someone so close at that that you feel like you want to jump inside their body and inside their soul? Do you ever feel your soul communicating with somebody else? You’re just laying there next to them, and you feel yourself talking to each other without saying a word.
It doesn’t take words sometimes to describe what you really feel, because sometimes in life words just can’t adequately describe it. Words can’t fully describe what you’re really thinking, what your emotions are and what you’re feeling.
Have you ever met someone of whom you just can’t get enough? Time just flies by every time you’re with them. When you meet them, you want to remember everything they say. You want to show them your life. You want to remember everything that happens between the two of you, because you know everything that’s happening is a memory you are going to want to be able to talk about in the future.
Have you ever had that amazing feeling all over that you just can’t put into words? It’s almost an overwhelming emotion.
Have you ever been able to look at someone and know exactly what they’re feeling at all times because they communicate it with their eyes? Sometimes words are overused.
I can tell you one thing for sure. When you find someone for whom you have these kind of feelings, you’ve got to go with it because there’s not too many times that it’s going to happen to you in your life. When you’ve found this person, you just know in your heart that you’ve found something magical.
Tags: dating advice for men, dating advice for women, david wygant, falling in love, finding the one, finding true love, love
Posted in How To Start A Relationship, Love, Relationships | 15 Comments »
Friday, August 7th, 2009
Do you know what one of my favorite things is to do? It’s when you’re in a relationship and you stay up late at night into the wee hours talking. You guys thought I was going to say something else, right?
Do you know what I like about getting deep and really talking like this? You learn so much about yourself, about your lover and about how to get closer to each other.
I truly believe that in order to make things amazing in your relationship, you need to get down to the core of your behaviors. I’m going to share more about this a future blog.
Right now, though, let’s talk about another conversation. One that is needed for all lovers to share…
You know, it’s really interesting. I was recently talking to a female client who said to me, “David, I’m having this great sexual relationship with a man but I don’t really know how to communicate things. I love what he does to me, but I don’t know how to communicate more with him in bed.”
Then I asked her a list of things to find out what she likes that he does to her, and also told me what he likes to do and the kind of sex they have together. She also told me what she likes that he does.
So I asked her, “Do you tell him this? Do you tell him that you love when he has sex with you in certain ways? Do you tell him that you love when he goes down on you in a certain way? Do you tell him that you love the way he massages your body? Do you tell him any of that?”
She said, “No I don’t.” I told her that as a man, I want to be told those kind of things.
Let’s say I have great sex with a woman or try a new position or something and the next day she tells me how much she loved what I did to her with that new position. What am I going to want to do? I’m going to want to do it again and again in that position. Even if it wasn’t my favorite position in the world, I’m going to want to do it again and again and again.
Why? I want to do that because in these situations I’m fully embracing their wishes and desires. I’m putting it in my memory bank.
Every time each of you put something in your memory bank, what you’re doing is programming each other. I think everyone needs to reprogram their lover in every which way.
You need to forget about the past, and you need to look at your lover and start finding new ways to make love to each other. So, every single time your lover tells you something that they loved sexually that you did, put it in that memory bank and remember it.
You need to encourage the other person. If the other person does something to you one night and it feels great, encourage them. Say, “I love the way you do that…” What happens when you start doing that, is they are going to want to do those things to you over and over again.
Thank that person for giving themselves to you. Don’t expect, but thank that person. Start doing thiss and your sex life is going to go off the charts.
Tags: communication during sex, communication in relationships, david wygant, dirty talking in bed, how to be a better communicator, how to have great sex, how to talk to your lover, sex in relationships
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Goals & Aspirations, How To Ask For A Date, How To Be A Better Communicator, Love, Marriage, Masturbation | 5 Comments »
Wednesday, March 25th, 2009
Hey, it’s funny. I just got this email from a reader:
David,
Hear you have a private member site that you’re charging like $37 a month for. I’m sure it’s great and all, but $37 bucks a month is really too much money for me to spend at this time in my life. Don’t know how I can justify spending that much or if I even have that much extra every month to spend.
Donny, NY
Donny’s email along with some great news for you (which I’ll fill you in on in a minute) inspired me to write this blog.
I do have a membership site that costs $37.42 per month. For that $37.42 per month, members get access to a load of member-only things including a killer forum, five podcasts per week, four long videos per week, a weekly teleconference, and member-only discounts and promotions.
In addition, all members have 24/7 access to my coaches and individualized coaching. One of the favorite features are my video breakdowns. Four times a week a week I post a 30 minute video me breaking down an audio or video submitted by one of the members. These are like being with me live as I’m coaching a client.
So when Donny wrote me to say that $37.42 a month for all of this was way too much for him to spend at this time in his life, I felt compelled to respond. Let’s talk about $37 a month.
I just had lunch with somebody, and it cost me $37. So $37 is basically like eliminating one lunch. It’s eliminating one night of drinking in a bar. I mean, if you are serious about wanting to go out and meet women, why are you going to deprive yourself of that? This site gives you that opportunity and so much more.
So to Donny and any who have a similar mindset that $37.42 is too much to spend to invest in yourself and for this, I’m calling you out on your shit. The fact of the matter is that if Donny was really serious about meeting women, he could find a way to make the $37 happen. It’s just another excuse, and I’m tired of excuses.
So anybody who’s serious about learning to meet and connect with women can join me on my membership site. The rest of you can just continue to learn from the blog. For those of you who do and give me attitude about wanting something more for free than I already give, though, I don’t have the time or patience to care about those who don’t respect my time.
In today’s podcast, I am going to issue a challenge you like none other . . . and you will look at yourself in a way you never have before. I also reveal a SPECIAL OFFER in this podcast, so be sure to check it out!
Click the play button below to listen now:
Now for that great news I referenced earlier…
==>Big Announcement<==
As some of you already know, my membership maxed out and has been full since soon after it launched. In fact, we had to put everyone who wasn't able to get a slot on a waiting list.
Well, due to me hiring an additional coach I am now able to accept an additional 125 Members on the membership site! (Because of all the individual coaching and personalized attention that members receive on the site, I strictly limit the number of members in proportion to the number of coaches)
If you want one of those slots, click here:
Once those 125 slots have been snatched up, the site will once again close and I will once again have to put everyone else on a waiting list. So if you want one of these slots, I wouldn’t wait too long to click on the link!
Tags: david deangelo, david shade, How To Start A Relationship, members, Mystery Method, rsd
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Divorce, Foreplay & Sexual Communication, Goals & Aspirations, How To Ask For A Date, How To Be A Better Communicator, How To Start A Relationship, Love, Masturbation | 42 Comments »
Wednesday, March 4th, 2009
There is a tough thing that I’ve realized more and more as I go through my life. My journey is no different than your journey. As you guys embark on meeting men or meeting women, you need to realize that it is a process. It’s just a series of things through which you need to work and from which you need to learn.
Understanding this is why I’ve been able to do it, and it is why I am so passionate about this business. I started putting out my products because I know that without doing the foundational work, that you guys will never be truly successful in your dating lives.
Do you know how I know that? I know that because I tried to find shortcuts for things for much of my life. I’ve tried to find a shortcut for almost everything I’ve ever done in life. I tried to find a shortcut for meeting women, I tried to find shortcuts in business and I tried to find shortcuts in my relationships. What I learned, and what you need to learn, is that there are no shortcuts.
Recently, Esquire Magazine asked me for a quote to put in their May issue. While I won’t know until the issue comes out whether it will actually appear in it, the quote I gave them was “Life is a marathon, not a sprint.” Keep your pace slow, and eventually you will find yourself in front of the right path.
It’s unbelievable how many of you are all about shortcuts. You put time limits on everything. You want one certain thing to happen within one month, when in reality it may take for four or five months because there are lessons to be learned along the way.
Being willing to let things take the time needed to really learn what you need to get there is, to me, about being authentic. It’s being authentic in your life and authentic in who you are. It’s not looking for the shortcut.
I won’t sell you a shortcut. I will never sell you a shortcut because there are no shortcuts in life.
For any of you who approach life thinking there are shortcuts, I say go ahead and spend your money on those shortcuts. What will happen, though, is that you will keep spending and wasting money until you finally realize you have to be authentic and real to get what you really want. The real “shortcut” is to not be detoured by any so-called shortcut in the first place.
If you want to stop playing it safe in your dating life, and want to create your ideal dating life from the ground up so you will NEVER live in dating regret EVER, then click here to read more:
Today’s PODCAST is must listen for anyone who wants to not take a shortcut and REALLY learn how to approach and open up women. Listen to my London coach, Adam, tell you all about it! Check it out here:
P.S.: If you’re having trouble downloading this Podcast from my podcast page, you can download it directly to your computer by clicking on this link
Tags: dating advice for men, dating advice for women, love advice, shortcuts
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce, Fashion & Style (Women), Foreplay & Sexual Communication, Goals & Aspirations, How To Ask For A Date, How To Be A Better Communicator, Love, Marriage, Masturbation | 12 Comments »
Sunday, November 16th, 2008
I’m going to start out this Sunday’s blog with a confession (even though I’m not a church-goer as many of you know…)
I had every intention of getting this blog out to you on Friday – but between moving and being in constant meetings with my team brainstorming, creating and … let’s say gently critiquing each other’s ideas for the early 2009 launch of my new community site that I’m designing for my members — I don’t know if I’m coming or going half the time!
So my apologies on the tardiness of this blog, but hopefully ‘better late than never’ applies here …
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Tags: attract women, football, meet women, members, nfl
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, College Dating, Dating Etiquette, Divorce, How To Be A Better Communicator, Love, Marriage, Masturbation | 4 Comments »
Friday, August 15th, 2008
Do you really wish that there were a shortcut in life for everything?
The other day someone told me that he wanted to get into my business after he listened to me talk about how I struggled for the first few years of my career. He told me he wanted to get into the business, and I asked him why.
He answered, “because I need to make money.” This is hardly the business to get into if you want to make money. You’re a nobody. What’s your platform? What do you stand for? Who are you?
That’s the funny thing about it – so many of us are all about instant gratification. You need to make money right away? Are you that short on cash? Well, get a job! Rob a bank!
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Tags: Divorce, Get Rich Quick, How To Be A Better Communicator, intstant, life, money, shortcuts, success, Women
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce, How To Be A Better Communicator, Love, Marriage, Masturbation | 8 Comments »
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