Do you remember when you were a kid and you used to count down the days until school was out for summer vacation? It started to get warm, and you would start to get excited.
You had all these big plans for summer, whether you were a young kid looking forward to day camp or whether you were a teenager looking forward to summer camp or to college. Whether you were going to work as a lifeguard at the neighborhood pool or you were just going have so much fun hanging out with your friends, you just couldn’t wait for that three-and-a-half-month summer vacation.
Summer used to be such magic. The anticipation and the feeling that you felt every day was special. No school. Going to bed later. All of it.
When I was in the third grade, we spent the summer out in The Hamptons. It was beautiful. I remember Gregory Seltzer and I running around and swimming all day long. We used to go deep into the ocean. I remember what it felt like deep into the ocean at that stage in my life.
I remember swimming out there, and then running back on the beach to make a beard in the sand. Then I’d shave my sand beard with a clamshell. Now, as an adult, I can’t stand shaving. I wish I never had to shave.
I remember all the magic. I remember all the traditions we had.
I would also go away to summer camp and spend almost the whole summer with friends there. It was so much fun. Then I’d come back, and we’d spend time as a family in The Hamptons.
My Grandmother had a house out in Hamptons Bay. It was on the water and absolutely beautiful. At the end of the summer, we used to go to go there.
The very last night we would have a lobster dinner. I remember picking up the lobsters at Tully’s, a seafood store in Hampton Bays, and all the anticipation about that dinner — cracking them open and sitting down to that last big dinner before going back to school.
I would sit there and wonder (now, please don’t laugh) if I would be the tannest or blondest kid in school on the first day. I was always working on my tan or letting my hair bleach out from the sun.
Summers used to be so carefree. Now as adults, what do we do?
We take a week off — maybe two — and that’s it. The rest of the time, we work.
Summer nights aren’t magic anymore. We need to recapture that feeling that we had as a kid.
What is your favorite summer memory? What is your most incredible summer memory? How can you get back that magic?
Wouldn’t it be great if your boss let you out of work every single day at 3:00pm just because it was summertime? What if everyone’s boss let them out of work at 3:00pm every day of summer, and everyone could go out and play tag? Maybe you could go out and have a color war like you did at camp, or go to the neighborhood pool and play Marco Polo.
Maybe we should institute that. Maybe I should ask President Obama and Congress to make that a law, i.e., that in July and August all businesses must close at 3:00 pm so that all adults can act like kids again.
Why do we need to be so old? Why do we need to act like adults? Why can’t summer be magical like it once was?
As I’m writing this blog on a Monday sitting with my wife in Palm Springs, I am realizing how amazing summer truly is. I want to have that amazing summer feeling back that I had when I was a kid. So I think if we all get together and maybe sign some type of petition to enact that 3:00pm summer rule, that we can get that magical summer feeling back.
For those of you who are single, imagine all the great dates you can go on if we get this 3:00pm summer law passed. Imagine all the amazing people you can meet when go to the adult summer camp at 3:00pm after work, and get to go on a “social.”
I remember socials at summer camp. They were so much fun. Boys on one side and girls on the other. It was so much easier than speed dating.
Anyway, I think we should pass this blog on to President Obama and see what he can do to make this 3:00pm summer law happen. I think this could be something that could really work!
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One of the most important things that all of you can remember when you’re going out and meeting people is that friends are noise. They’re that random email that comes in all day long.
If you’re somebody who sits by your computer answering every email as soon as it comes in and you think you’re being proficient by doing so, you’re wrong. You’re actually not being proficient, because what is really happening is that you are allowing yourself to be at the beck and call of all the noise coming into your inbox.
Every single time you hear a beep signaling a new message has arrived in your inbox, do you know what that is? It’s an intrusion.
It’s basically somebody saying, “Answer me right now!” It’s almost like a two year-old throwing a temper tantrum in a supermarket. If you give into that temper tantrum, you made the biggest mistake in the entire world.
You don’t give the little tyrant a Popsicle, when it’s not time for a Popsicle. You reward the Popsicle when it is time for the Popsicle. Answering that email is basically rewarding somebody for intruding on your life.
If you’re in the middle of doing something and you get an email, it’s called noise. So when you’re going out and meeting people, your friends being with you out there are also noise.
All of a sudden you go and see a woman you’re attracted to and you want to talk to her. If you engage in conversation with your friend about it, your friend is going to be noise. “Ah, man, you can’t approach her right now. It doesn’t look like she wants to talk.” Noise. Negativity and noise.
You’re most efficient when you are by yourself. So when you decide to go out and practice meeting people to work on your social life, it should be like going on a date with yourself.
The most important thing to do is to be by yourself, go out there, and not have anybody judge you. Friends are noise, just like that annoying text or email that comes in.
Why do we have to answer our texts and our emails right away? We don’t.
We also don’t need to drag somebody along when we’re going out trying to meet somebody. So when you guys go out and meet people, do it alone.
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I got a great email today from a friend of mine. In his email, he asked me why I don’t drink alcohol.
The real reason why I don’t drink alcohol is because the sugar content in it makes my stomach feel funky the next day. I really don’t like to feel funky because one of my favorite things to do is eat.
Also, the temporary buzz I get from alcohol (which is very temporary) isn’t worth how it makes me feel the next day. If I have a glass of wine, I might feel a little more relaxed for about 12 to 14 minutes. That’s about it. The buzz doesn’t really last that long for me.
The taste of wine is good, but not worth the after effects that I experience. That’s the only reason I don’t drink.
It’s interesting though. There are a lot of people who do drink alcohol, and a lot of people whose personality totally change when they do. Last night we witnessed the annoying change of personality due to booze.
We live on the beach near the fireworks show and all night all we heard was loud drunk obnoxious people who could not handle there booze. They screamed and yelled like a pack of wild 5 year olds on a sugar high.
They lost all concept of manners and this drunken stupor not only sounded awful but you know really is not much fun.
You know how there is the Surgeon General’s warning on packs of cigarettes advising you that smoking is dangerous to your health? Well I’ve always thought there should be a warning label on bottles of booze that says this: “Warning: Consumption of this substance may turn you into an annoying, loud, obnoxious asshole.”
So here’s a tip for all of you who drink . . .
If the day after you drink people tell you that you were really rude, loud or obnoxious the night before, then I think you should stop drinking booze. Remember, you only have one chance to make a first impression.
You may think that you need alcohol to loosen you up when you go to a party. If drinking alcohol turns you into a loud, annoying and obnoxious drunkard, though, then everyone at that party who sees you act that way will think that is what you are like all the time. Even if you are the sweetest and most amazing person otherwise, people will label you loud and obnoxious if that is how they first see you acting.
So how do you get when you drink? I know some people who have a drink, and you’d never know it. My best friend can have ten drinks and talk to everyone in the room, and no one would suspect he’s had a lot to drink.
I’ve met other people who have only one or two drinks, though, and that turns them into a totally different person. Another friend of mine used to have three or four drinks, and Mongo would come out. He’d start drooling a little bit. His words would slur. He became a totally different person.
So start asking your friends how you act when you’re drinking alcohol. Alcohol unfortunately tends to give a lot of people temporary Alzheimer’s where they forget if they were loud, obnoxious and being an asshole.
So it’s time you started looking into your drinking, and finding out what type of person you become when you drink. If you become that annoying person when you drink, you may be turning off a lot of people without realizing it.
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There’s a woman I know who every 4th of July really thinks that if she gets the right spray tan and hits the right party, that she might finally meet the right man. This woman cruises every party. She meets some really interesting people, but even at her advanced age she just can’t seem to get it right.
Maybe it’s all the lingering issues this woman has in her head. Maybe it’s all her excuses that’s holding her back. If she could just along with others, then maybe life would be better. If this damn recession wasn’t happening, then maybe people would feel better about her.
Then there’s all the constant bickering she has with Iran, Iraq and North Korea. I mean, really, at this advanced age don’t you think she would have known that picking fights and taunting and teasing people doesn’t work? Don’t you think her mother would have taught her how to embrace her enemies?
You’d think on this day — her birthday — she’d be more reflective. I mean, 234 years old and still making the same mistakes!
234 years old and she’s still not meeting the right people at the right parties. Do you know why? It’s because people like you and I are running the place. Not only that this lady allowed a Brit by the name of Tony Hayward to destroy an entire part of our country.
This lady still shares a part of her with some very evil corrupt company.
You would think this lady has at least glanced at this blog and learned something!
People make mistakes. So the next time you get pissed at the government, about a war, or about whatever it is about the country that upsets you, realize that it’s just people making the wrong choices and decisions. But there is no 4th of July party for BP! Its time we really looked deep at what is important in this country and started preserving the earth so future generations can enjoy it as well.
If today when you’re at the 4th Of July barbecue the woman you want to meet doesn’t talk to you, are you going to create a war? If that woman doesn’t talk to you, are you going to blame the recession?
If a man doesn’t approach you today even with your beautiful spray tan, the ten pounds you’ve lost and with you looking great in your bathing suit, are you going to think he’s hiding nuclear weapons? If he is, you may want to find out quickly, because who knows what kind of 4th of July orgasm he can bring.
So today when you’re watching the fireworks and searching for a great party, cut yourself some slack. Our beautiful lady is turning 233 years old today and she still screws up, and I guarantee you will too.
You will leave one barbecue to search out a bigger, better barbecue. Then the next day you’ll hear how the barbecue you left turned out to be THE barbecue of the summer. You missed that barbecue because you left to go hang out at the summit.
I guarantee that today one of your friends will become too drunk and will get annoying. You will get hounded by someone who will tell you their name no less than seven times. Someone will fart in the middle of the party and you’ll have to embrace the fumes.
Today when you’re searching for perfection, realize that the country you live in is far from perfect . . . and that is what makes it such a great place to live. So have fun today at whatever party you attend. Stop searching for the perfect 4th of July. Cut yourself some slack and relax. You’ll have a much better time!
Today we’re going to an imperfect party with imperfect cooks, and we’re going to have a great time. The truth is that this great country turning 233 years old today cannot control the way your life is; only you can control that.
So Happy Birthday America! Also, remember, don’t look for the BBQ, i.e., the “bigger, better barbecue,” because when you wake up I guarantee you’ll find out you missed the best party.
They say “love the one you’re with.” I say love the party you’re at . . . cause it’s all you’ve got!
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How does that relate to the way you conduct your life everyday?
Are you even aware of what your energy, attitude and the way you feel about yourself convey to others.
It really is everything that determines whether you are going to be successful in whatever you are doing at this present moment.
This weekend is all about chasing the 4th of July festivities. Are you really in tune with yourself and when you arrive at your destination what do you think people see?
I want you all to think about this today.
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This week has been a crazy week at home, lots of couch time as my balky back has decided to torture me for the last few days.
When you have to rest you might as well channel surf and see what is on in the world of reality TV. Have any of you been watching the Biggest Loser on TV?
This story is amazing and it really shows that if you put your mind to something then you can achieve amazing results.
Starting the season at a whopping 526 pounds, Michael Ventrella was the heaviest contestant in “The Biggest Loser” history. By the finale, he had lost 50.19 percent of his body weight, a total of 264 pounds, shattering Danny Cahill’s record of 239 pounds from last year. Weighing in at just 262 pounds on Tuesday night, Ventrella easily beat fellow finalists Ashely Johnston and Daris George for the $250,000 grand prize.
Now before you check out this amazing man and how he did it in the video below. I want you for a minute to write down what is stopping you from your dreams and why you are not going after all that you deserve.
Whether its meeting the opposite sex or going after a career that you desire, what is really stopping you?
What excuses are in your head right now and why are you letting the excuses get the best of you?
This is an amazing story of will and desire!
I challenge all of you to look deep inside and find the strength to be everything you want and deserve to be!
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