i am new to this blog. I heard of you from Rori. i really need to respond to this post because sometimes i get myself into trouble when i am attracted to a man where he’s just “texting” “not sure” how he feels about me, or completely clueless. I started to believe, that, when a man is attracted to a woman, he would pursue, why wouldn’t he?? If a man likes you, he’ll declare that to the world, just like you said the other post.
why do you think about my experience. i need some advice from a man’s perspective. thanks for the great post.

It is wonderful to have male and female friends — especially with widowed men with children as they understand me and it’s so comforting.

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must have mé confused with someone Else. Never had male friends behind my husbands back. But nice you are taking your time responding.

If DonJuan continues on this path he will definitely lose his g/f maybe that’s what he really wants to do but doesn’t have the balls to tell her he wants to break up with her. Either way her feelings are going to be damaged. If he breaks up with her she will heal eventually and hopefully. Men like DonJuan never know what they want they think they are God’s gift to women. Not so, men like DonJuan are scumbags. He is just keeping her “stuck” in a relationship that he doesn’t care about and doesn’t want her to move forward. If she wants to forgive him and continue in the relationship provided he doesn’t do it again then I would applaud her. If she kicks his stupid ass out I applaud her again. No one should stay in a relationship like that it’s demeaning, toxic and down-right abusive. DonJuan, would you put up with that? I think not. You’re just a jerk with no balls! You just want to use and abuse!!!!

Yes I did mention you with DonJuan. If you have male friends behind your husband’s back it will be just a matter of time you would cheat on him. Not only if a man will cheat on his wife to go with you, you can almost bet that he will cheat on you. He has a character flaw along with being immature. Why would one want to break up someone’s marriage? One probably only heard his side of the issue anyway. You don’t know what his wife might have already been through with him. Yes we all have our problems and I know that you cannot make someone love you, it’s a choice, but I’m with a.movie…I wouldn’t want that on my head. Just dating single men is hard enough with all their fears and idiosyncrasies. Now factor in a woman that will go out with a man knowing that he’s married. Hmmmm? Would you want that done to you? What is everyone trying to keep “one in-the-hole” just in case their relationship fails? Yes I have a few guy friends, but I’m not married. I believe and hope that if I do ever marry again that my new man in my life would be my best friend and I hope that he would feel the same way. I feel that a marriage should be a commitment, however I do understand that commitments in marriage just mean for the now for some. Truly a sad situation, we cannot control other people, we can only control ourselves, it’s called self-control (what a concept, huh)? Therefore I think things would be better if we as adults (that is if you are one) should not have “one-in-the-hole, it can only spell disaster for your current relationship, unless that’s the way you like it. My question to you is can you trust yourself? Are you a trustworthy person in and of your own right? I’m not against opposite sex friendship’s just the ones your SO doesn’t tell you about or vice versa, you know and they know in the back of their mind that one would like to cheat on one’s SO with them, when one becomes “a friend” with them on the sly. I know that even in mutual friendships in a relationship a man or woman can still stray, but again it’s a choice, no one made them do it. One wants to blame someone else and not stand up and take responsibility. One doesn’t want to discuss the problems they are having in their relationship and want to keep the “blame game” going. One will never have a healthy relationship if this wheel keeps churning. Own up to your mistakes and choose not to repeat it. Be it to yourself, God or your mate.

not sure I was mentioned with Donjuan. Have a great one