Comments on: Build Me A Relationship

By: lol

lol — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:19:53 +0000

lmao. when did chris brown become a “gangster?”

By: Marina

Marina — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 21:40:05 +0000

Tony,

Just as there are hollow men out there so are there girls…There are a lot of real girls out there who really act’s as human beings.

Yes and we will date a mediocre man just because he has an amazing personality, every thing he says turns every little light on inside us. When was the last time you guys, no offense just dated a girl on her personality and not looks…Ups

It’s about looking at the soul of the person, when you guys reach that point you will not have to deal with that kind of girls. Ever thought about it that way have you ?

By: Tony888

Tony888 — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 21:25:59 +0000

“My ex-girlfriend used to tell me all the time: Sometimes I feel you should just know what I want… or expect.

Well girlfriend, how am I supposed to know if you don’t tell me?”

AMEN to that Kheim! 100%! On the one hand I think men should know their gf pretty well if they’ve dated a long time or wife if they’ve been married a while. But still, we’re not mind readers and they shouldn’t expect us to be. And with all due respect to the ladies here, women can be really complicated, with a tendency to contradict themselves and change their mind very very often. And the way she was feeling about something or anything yesterday or last week or last month might be very different from now. Or 2 minutes from now.
Especially if it’s a certain time of the month.

“But honey, I thought you liked red shoes.”

“That was LAST week you idiot! You men are all so fuckin simple!!”

By: Khiem (DW Coach)

Khiem (DW Coach) — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 19:40:37 +0000

Open line of communication… ahhhhhh… that’s so important.

I think by opening ourselves up to one another is the only way you’ll keep the emotional connection growing and lasting.

I mean besides the sexual chemistry, it’s so crucial to align ourselves with our partner… we need a common direction together.

I like to say that relationships are our opportunity to create something together… but then… we got to talk about it, right?

My ex-girlfriend used to tell me all the time: Sometimes I feel you should just know what I want… or expect.

Well girlfriend, how am I supposed to know if you don’t tell me?

By: Vic

Vic — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 19:19:34 +0000

Here is a question for everyone: can two people in a relationship be truly open to one another, i.e. being truly vulnerable? On one hand I am trying to do more this in my life, but on the other hand feel that there are some things that can be private and kept to ourselves. Should we communicate everything?

By: Sandra

Sandra — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:11:51 +0000

And one thing I will add to this blog: If he beats up on his wife what will he do the children involved in their relationship. My last husband threatened me and here I had two daughters I was thinking okay if you do this to me what are you going to do with them. That does put a thought in one’s mind. So I got to thinking this guy has to go for at that time I had a underage daughter.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:08:04 +0000

Mike
Men who hit women to me are Pussies for they wont take a real man on for size. These guys know which side their bread is buttered on.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 02:15:20 +0000

Thanks everyone for your advice. When my daughter has had enough she will come home or I might just have to do the inevitable go up there. We have sent her a plane ticket and anytime she wants to use it she can. As far as abusive he has not touched her yet. But I have been told that mental abuse is worse than physical abuse. But I do agree she needs to come home. May can not get here quick enough

By: Infinity

Infinity — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 21:06:38 +0000

Great article, David.

Communication in a judgment-free environment is a great foundation to any growing relationship.

By: Tony888

Tony888 — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 19:55:26 +0000

And also with what a.movie said. There’s way too much bravado and “machismo” and whatever else you want to call it. Some of it is cultural and environmental. Young boys who grow up seeing their dads beat up their mothers eventually accept it with the mistaken belief that’s the norm and what all men should do to “prove who’s the boss around here.”

And in the inner cities where a certain kind of music has popularized the BS idea that “You gotta slap yo hoes an bitches around to be da big dog, dog! To be a true gangsta.” So cowards like Chris Brown and others like him are really just punks with guns who need a good ass-kicking. If they want to take their aggression out on someone, they should get in the ring or octagon with Rashad Evans or George St. Pierre.
But they wouldn’t last a minute against a real tough guy and they know it. So instead they think they can get away with pushing and knocking around their women. The epitome of insecurity.