Why Being Alone For Christmas Rocks!

Advice for Men & Women Break-ups, Uncategorized

By David Wygant December 22, 2010 146 Shares

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The other day I received a great email from a very special man named John.

John took one of my bootcamp’s that I had in London several years ago and he had something that he needed my help on.

John, being in the Christmas spirit, also volunteered to share his email with all of you.

Today I am going to talk about why being alone is the most powerful and amazing growth time in your life.

For those of you who have ended a relationship this year, today’s podcast will really hit home for you.

For the rest of you, listen and embrace the power of you.

One last thing. Today’s podcast has a very special announcement that will shock all of you!

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About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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Sammy

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Her name was Yannet. She was my very first love I had. And for some dumb reason we broke up. I suffered for 4 months. I couldn't eat right, I couldn't stop thinking about her!! My brother took me out of the hole I was in,,and I thank him. But it's so true what David says that we learn from each relationship we've had. I learned through David's podcasts that we all need to practice self-love and that there's no such thing as rejection. The most powerful gift that I have is having a positive attitude. Trust me, if you practice self-love and have a positive attitude, then nothing can stop us from having a nice relationship.

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russ

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

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Delicia

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Dear David, That was an amazing podcast!!! One of your very best and as you mentioned, John is truly and amazing and wonderful man!! His letter was very truthful and vulnerable!!! The answer to the question you asked was Santa Claus!! It was a children's story called "Twas The Night Before Christmas". At the end of the story, St. Nick say's the immortal words, "Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night!" :-)

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Andres

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Hi David, I recently started reading your stuff. I just read "Always talk to strangers" and it's amazing. Thanks for all the advice, although it all seems very easy with all that energy you project (sorry about the spelling... I'm from Colombia). I'll try to practice as much as i can from now on to become a better person and learn how to attract women. Happy new year to you and to all readers.

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Danny

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

That was an amazing podcast david, thank you so much. Just listening to this now and reflecting on my past relationships i have realized a pattern of things going wrong with my relationships. They may not have been the main factor as too why the relationship ended but they are a factor. A factor that i have ignored and that i need to learn from. thank you for opening my eyes to this and stopping me from being ignorant to it. Hope you have a merry christmas David and everybody that reads your blog :D

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steve

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

A no BS podcast. Reminds me of how our universal are wounds and emotions really are.

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James Y

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

I have to say... I could have used this advice, two years ago.

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Clint

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Running into the same problem again, not able to downland it on my pc. Anyone else having the same problem?

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Kevin K

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

John was incredibly honest and vulnerable in sharing this. I'm sure many people can relate to this. This was an awesome podcast David. What a blessing to have such a wise woman like your mom to share something like that at such a young age. It's great that you've taken that to heart and carried that forward with every relationship. You're right, too many people shut down after a break up and close their hearts. They get angry and bitter and start blaming their ex in order to avoid taking responsibility for their part in what happened and learning the lessons that they need to learn from the experience. i

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anonymous

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

oh enjoyed every bit of that podcast. Thank you and happy holidays!

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John

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Thank you so much David and everyone who has commented. It means so much to me. I’ve been writing my lessons since the break up for both closure and clarity. I’ve decided to do something I’ve never done before. I signed up to run my first 10K in February and I can’t wait! I start training tomorrow! Until then, David’s mother is exactly right. I am more confident now in knowing what I want in a relationship and that knowledge is priceless. I just read this quote the other day and would like to share it: People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer the suffering that is familiar. -- Thich Nhat Hanh Merry Christmas everyone!

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Clint Are you able to solve the problem? What browser do you have?

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Carlos Dominguez

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Amazing podcast!

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Carlos Dominguez

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Merry Christmas every one!

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Jen

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

He had a wonderful year and a half which he will always remember fondly. I liked the last part of your podcast. I'm glad I listened until the end. I used to keep things from guys I'd meet. For one, I never told them about my blog in case they thought it was stupid...and because sometimes my posts are really personal...but I don't want anyone who thinks I'm stupid for blogging...and I want someone I can trust with anything...so I'm going to stop doing that. Great podcast. I always enjoy visiting your blog.

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David Wygant

Thursday, December 23rd, 2010

Thanks everyone for the great comments today!!

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Anxious Sam

Thursday, December 23rd, 2010

Hi David, It would be an injustice to call you 'just a dating coach'. Have been subscribed to several coaches this year and quickly got bored of all the 'pickup artists' out there. Turning over a new leaf I have unsubscribed from those and stuck with you. There's so much more here than pickup tips. This year, with your podcasts, I've significantly changed my outlook on life in general and feel I am a much better person for it. Thanks. Have a great holiday.

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Whoami

Thursday, December 23rd, 2010

Thank you and Merry Christmas Master.

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Bartek_Poland

Thursday, December 23rd, 2010

Merry Chrismtas to all and You David, my best coach !

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Tom

Thursday, December 23rd, 2010

Merry Christmas David! What a powerful podcast! In my heart I hadn't let go of a past relationship (from a couple of yrs. ago), this podcast changed the way I feel now. Thank you : )

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Clint

Thursday, December 23rd, 2010

Problem finally solved Coach J. That was an amazing podcast as everyone mentioned!

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Bob

Thursday, December 23rd, 2010

This is something we all have to go through from our "first love" breakups. Long distance relationships rarely work, and now you know to avoid them, by experience. We think the world is over, and we will never find another love like it. Advice from friends varies from "Buck up and get over it", or, "be a man", to letting you cry on their shoulder, with words of comfort, praise, and understanding, like David's. It is just another part of learning to be a mature man, who is in control of his emotions, and knows how to deal with lifes traumas and inevitable dissapointments... Time heals all wounds, and it is just part of life, and learning how to be a man. We have all been through it, and have learned to move on, to the next challenge and experience.Good luck, and there is no doubt, that you will be a stronger man through your trials.

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Ace

Friday, December 24th, 2010

Wygant, I believe in this situation for John he finally went through one of the most hardest set backs in his life. Love is blind, stimulating, painful but at the end the best lesson we can go through. John please keep your head up and like the coaches SAY!!!!! Don't take it personal its not you. You'll become a very stronger individual after this whole cloud leaves you. It will stick with you for a while like Wygant said, you'll always remember the one that took your verginity and heart. Even if it was forced god forbid. My question is, how old are you? Fill free to respond back if you'd like.. Ace 2nd year med-student umkc

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Joe

Friday, December 24th, 2010

Thank you so much. Your Christmas pioadcast really hit home.

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Mario

Saturday, December 25th, 2010

I'm another guy from Colombia David, that was a great listen!

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Shogo

Monday, December 27th, 2010

I had a very intimate and powerful conversation with a beautiful young woman sitting next to me on a flight from Chicago to D.C. today. We talked non-stop from takeoff to landing. Our conversation was exactly what you expressed here so eloquently--amazing. I wish we could have both heard this before our flight... David, I am humbled when I hear you speak with such incredible love and conviction. The energy that you communicate and the inspiration that I am able to draw from you is simply irreplaceable. It is priceless--not the content of the message, but the emotion that carries the meaning. Emotion that cannot be described with words. David, you teach what 99% of other "dating gurus" do not--because they cannot. Love. It is the only answer, and I am honored and humbled to be receiving your message.

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Nans

Friday, January 7th, 2011

David- Once again, you shared with us a very empowering podcast. Time and time again, you go beyond the surface and discuss the core issues of our actions and their effects. I feel better about myself after each podcast. Thank you.

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Brian

Sunday, July 17th, 2011

Dave........do you need a corp pilot? I would love to fly you around to your seminars.

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Rosa

Friday, April 15th, 2016

A prcitoaovve insight! Just what we need!

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