I cant take a little joke and now I’m very upset. ; )

Pete

You got to appreciate people for people… not just for what they bring to you… but in the end, you just took the post a bit outside of its intended use.

The point of the post is not to be a bad friend, but to recognize when you and your friends don’t click anymore. If you click, no matter the reason, stay friends with them… but if you don’t, it’s OK to let them go too.

And as far as the “expiration date” comment… can’t you take a little joke?

I know… words on a screen always mess the humor… argh!!!!

My general point, although you’re right I got a bit personal about it, in my own opinion and nobody elses, if youre ditching old ones and replacing new ones just to get something in return like meeting more women because he’s gay, and all his friends are “fag hags”, or you think you can score a new job, then to me you’re a shallow, slimey piece of shit!!! (cue the ridiculous no offense but line)

I was fortunate to hang out with some really cool fucking guys on the bootcamp, and the instructors were wonderful, wonderful people, but instead of bombaring with questions that have been answered on the blog time and time again I wish I got to know them a bit better personally and had more of a laugh instead of the same drab, grey shitty questions theyve heard 10000 times before(although i appreciate that its obviously a business thing and theres not much sugar coating to that).

Ive a ton of people on my msn list, who ive met from the days I used to hang out at seduction boards, people enlightened by double your dating, and although im glad to say ive met some wicked people and had some hilarious conversations, around 25% of those (including myself at one point, badgering people) you get into those same questions about living your life blah blah, so how do you tease her, im trying to afford a bootcamp, we were talking at a party for 1 minute and i knew she was into me then she had to go to the bathroom to take a piss or something, and yeah this shits really changed my life (multitasking jacking off in your mind about talking to absolutely everyone in the street, fucking a different girl every night while reading the Game (which is a brilliant book, for the purpose it was originally writte for)).

You can smell it on these people, like women and my friends could smell it on me. 2 years ago i reguarly chatted to a girl at a supermarket like a human being, then for some reason (I was either extremely high or incredibly stupid) I had a quick glance at Mysterys book before hand (no i didnt use those daft lines everyone quotes and takes the piss out of, i more or less used his structure) and got the creep look again and again.

Ive written a lot and im tempted to delete it because in retrospect it doesnt make a whole lot of sense/relevancy + im a bit drunk, but my main point in 2 sentances;

From personal experience if you start treating people for what theyve got, than rather for what they are, everyone else will smell it, youll get sucked into that little fantasy in your head you listen to instead of your lecture/job or whatever, rather than enjoying what you have, and youll pay the price! I more or less (a lot of more!!!) that you mature by yourself (a little help is always nice!), stop obsessing about the little goals list, stay present, and switch up your personality up to 11!

Pete

(Sorry for all the scrolling )

I love what you have to say. But I think it’s just a matter of interpretation as you pointed out.

Personally, when you have friends that are just there because they make you smile, they lift you up with their energy… well… that’s why you like them. Their “purpose” if you want to use that term is that they make you feel good.

A purpose or a commonality doesn’t have to relate to lifestyle or common hobbies… it’s the “you just click” factor…. and many times, that’s good enough.

Pete

Your point about your college buddies playing videogames I agree with, and if you paths are diverging or whatever then thats the way it is. And yeah, I suppose you could use the analogy of outgrowing something like Pokemon, videogames, hello kitty, rocket power on nickelodeon then ok, as in a friend then ok.

My (admittedly quite over the top) point was that I (personally, only my opinion) thought a lot of what was written on this page was pretty crude, about expiry dates and serving no purpose whatsoever (unless you call having a great time and laughing a purpose, then fine. If you’re bored rigid hanging out with someone, then obviously its not working out).

An admittedly large majority of my friends dont particuarly serve any purpose, but I have a great time with them as I mentioned earlier. Some of my friends I really dont have a lot in common with, but they make me smile. I’m not going to upgrade them for the next blackberry in terms of friends, or whatever. Ive no problem with making friends for the fact that youve got something in common, and you have a similar path, but I dont necessarily think you should forget your roots, and think that deleting friends who serve no purpose is just a tad pretentious! (unless ofc you havent called each other in months, and are generally no longer communicating).

I think what you wrote is fair but you might have taken it more personally than most. We aren’t telling that all your friends should be about self-improvement….

But what David is saying is that… we all outgrow certain things.. friends included.

All your friends, old or new, should like you for who you are… but they are some… who just outgrew the kind of person you are.

For example, I have old college friends who were very much into playing video games. They are still my friends… but now they are more distant friends rather than close friends… b/c my personal life doesn’t revolve around video games anymore.

So what we are saying is… look at the kind of friends you have and don’t feel bad if you are not wanting to hang out with the same friends as you used to.