Blue Lips
November 10, 2008 
26 Comments
We were having a funny conversation the other day and I was just wondering: do women ache like men ache?
You must be thinking right now, where is he going with this? Ache? Like in the heart? Or does he mean ache with desire?
You know that some men suffer from a severe case of blue balls. For those women who don’t understand blue balls, I wrote a great blog about it about six months back, but here’s a quick review.
A man suffers from blue balls when a woman is teasing him mentally, emotionally, and physically, but yet doesn’t deliver on any type of release. Your balls tend to swell up at this point, but they don’t necessarily turn blue. But they do turn very large and a painful shade of red.
And when you have blue balls and this incredible desire, it feels like you are carrying around 30 lb weights between your legs. If you’ve ever seen a rat walking around with swollen balls, that is exactly what blue balls feel like.
But the question I’ve always had is this: do women get blue lips?
Do they ever ache with so much desire that their lips actually hurt? Do they walk around and feel the pain in their lips all day long?
Do women have blue lips? Do blue lips even exist?
I’m curious about this. Many women don’t think that blue balls actually exist. Many women think blue balls are a farce.
But I’ve had blue balls throughout my life – when I’m really turned on by a woman, all she has to do is text me and I’ll get blue balls.
Perhaps some of us are just more sensitive down there. Some of us might really like the color blue.
But do women have blue lips? That’s the question that I’m trying to figure out today.
I need the women of the blog to chime in right now and let me know: do you suffer from blue lips?
Or is blue lips a myth, just something in my mind? Blue balls is a reality, but is blue lips just a myth?
Maybe blue ovaries . . . since our gonads are in our body, rather than hanging out, like your 30 lb balls.
And I’ve had an ache that area when fooling around has been cut short, not the lips, but in an area that may be close to my ovaries.
Um… blue lips? lol
I’m curious to hear about this as well!
Woman are very “expandable” in this area to handle childbirth, so I don’t think the pain a man feels would equate to a woman. But, I personally do feel a 30 pound ball of emotion roll through my body when the fun is cut short, so to speak. That’s when you’ll find my house really clean, or I get crabby for about an hour, or maybe cry a bit, or seek out something crunchy, salty, chocolately… I channel the emotion elsewhere. On the plus side, when the event “pops” up the next time and there’s a happy ending, it’s twice as satisfying. I’m not sure why this is, but it’s good to look forward to anyway.
Yes..In my world..blue lips, blue ovaries and all other blue parts in between exist; even my breasts start to ache. At that point, my sexual appetite becomes ferocious and I have to work at reigning in my thoughts. Masterbating provides temporary relief, but it all comes flooding back again..literally..Sex is phenomenol when I’m like this and when it’s with a partner who has the same appetite!
This absolutely happens to girls. It is terribly painful when it happens.
I am glad to see the women chime in!!!
I think we have a new term blue lips!
I thought David was suggesting that blue lips are whenever a woman wants to speak but never says anything. Like blue balls, there is never any release from the tension, and a woman may just go around all day and never say anything to the men around her.
With her female friends, it’s obviously different. (Similarly, no heterosexual guy gets blue balls with his male friends).
But blue lips seem like a speech restriction rather than anything erotic. I’d definitely say this myth doesn’t actually cause pain, but both male and female lips may figuratively ache from not talking to a stranger.
Now blue balls on the other hand — let’s hope that’s just happening to guys.
David T I think Mr Wygant is talking about the other set of lips.
I agree with L that there is an ache inside near the ovaries and it can become painful, both physically and emotionally.
I would say there is definitely a physical ache… like a ball of live wires with all the nerve endings going crazy inside… and it’s also emotional, a combination of an ‘OMG I want him!’ (whoever ‘him’ is at the time) intense feelings. But that that energy can also literally be channeled up the chakras into anything else too– creative project, working out, etc.
i’m glad girls feel the same way too! : )
all these years, i thought i was alone on this one!
Not blue lips. The lips are roughly equivalent to the folds of loose skin men often have around their penises, they’re not really central to sexual feeling. I have had a similar feeling though, but in my abdominal area. It’s horribly uncomfortable. Fortunately it only happens to me after repeated sessions of being turned on with no relief (yes, there’s a very bad story there)
So, blue lips really isn’t a good term. Blue ovaries sounds wrong for some reason, perhaps too much like some horrible disease. Blue gonads perhaps?
This definitely exists for women.. especially when you hit 30.. For some reason as you get more comfortable with your body and more experienced .. you have a better appreciation for what you’re missing.
Well – it’s true . . women do get this ache or throb of sorts! (learned from talking to my friends). Seriously – fully clothed and amazing kisses and caresses can turn me on so much . . that just lying on top I can move slightly and have an absolutely delicious O. Of course, now I need to know – do I divulge this to my date? Or is it my little secret? So why not shed the clothes? We’re just not there . .. yet. So he leaves and the batteries get a workout!
I wonder what would happen if men would actually tell women they are getting blue balls when that happens and vice versa, women would tell men when they are having “blue gonads”.
Wouldn’t we have “happier” couples?
There’s always an easy “remedy” for both “diseases”
I have heard that is called blue walls. My ovaries feel like they are carrying bowling balls. It is painful.
I would almost call it “green” balls. I feel like I could pick up a school bus and throw it at anybody that talks to me, like the incredible hulk. I get all Jeckel and Hyde, and manic. I get a lot done, but it isn’t any fun. My stomach hurts from my clit to my esophagus. I feel like a time bomb, and I don’t know the trigger. I also grab greasy and sugary foods over good food. I think it is way more of an emotion(hormones?) then anything physical…
It sounds like women have varying degrees of of the ache. I hear them saying they have an “ovary” or “emotional” blue ball. I guess I am on the extreme end.
Now, to be brutally honest. Some of us women ACHE, THROB & SWELL with physical desire. I am talking about a literal, physical, pulsing, blood rushing, clit engorging condition. It can be horribly painful… when it’s been too long it gets to a point where I feel like a dog in heat. And I don’t crave chocolate… I crave a.. ehm.. you know.
Men don’t seem to have a problem expessing their blu balls and sex drive, so I feel like they should hear that some of us do understand. Any questions from an honest lady?
I agree mx_mami,………There is a true physical component. The lips and clit can swell and flood with blood, it happens everytime we get ready for sex. If there is no release for whatever reason, it can be uncomfortable, your body becoming irritated by your undies because you are engorged. That’s brutally honest, I was suprised more women didn’t say that. I don’t get aches in my ovaries relating to being aroused. An engorged vagina from being sexually aroused is not so much painful and comparable to what a man feels with blue balls, rather than it is irritating against clothing and you just want to wear a night gown free flowing until you can calm down or release yourself. I’d rather just calm down when it’s this bad because masterbation doesn’t compare to a man. The good news is, when it’s that bad I’m usually with a man I’m comfortable enough to have sex with and have already done that with, I don’t get that hot for a guy whose private area I haven’t made sure I want. So I’m rarely left “blue”. That’s honest!
When feeling blue, wear red. Women also have something similar to blue balls. It relates to men’s lack of commitment.
I was hoping this blog would be about the OTHER set of lips, above the belt. I have felt so frustrated by my passion to kiss a man that my mouth would start craving a really passionate kiss….they don’t make vibrators to satisfy that!
stell, I met a man last year whose kiss was about as good as an ‘O. Done right it can bring a woman to the verge.
This phenomenon most assuredly does happen to some women. I believe it happens in women who are very sexual… for men AKA.. a high sex drive. I happen to be one of those women, and I experience a range of feelings, pain, which intensify if the lack of release if prolonged. So yes, call it Blue Lips, Blue Walls.. It happens to women too.
Hey, nice tips. I’ll buy a glass of beer to that man from that forum who told me to go to your blog
The feeling of a bowling ball in the lower abdomen is the best way to describe it. It really hurts and masturbation only does so much to ease the pain! Sometimes it will go on for DAYS after a really good kiss. :\
BLUE OVARIES, Im telling you now. Feels a bit like period pain, well in the same area anyways.