Be Decisive
December 2, 2008 
10 Comments
Everyone complains when people aren’t decisive. Women complain when men aren’t decisive, and men complain about women doing the same thing.
Here’s the bottom line: do you know why you are indecisive? It’s because you’re on the fence about somebody. That is why you are indecisive.
If you really liked that person, you wouldn’t be so indecisive.
I’m referring to a woman we were just checking out online. She’s looking for a guy aged 28 to 45, and she wants the older guy because she thinks he’ll be more decisive in his life.
The fact is that we’re all indecisive until we find the person that we really want to be with – then we are decisive. If we really like somebody then we will be decisive. We’ll go after them, we’ll make sure that we call them back, we pay attention to their needs and desires, and we’ll be very in tune with their feeling – that is being decisive.
I know that I was dating someone recently and she said to me, “you’re just so indecisive.” The reason that I was so indecisive was that I just didn’t care. I just wasn’t that in to her.
So I think that it’s just one of those excuses that people make that everyone does, and it should be socially acceptable. Really, everyone is indecisive until you find the person that you are decisive about.
The only way you will ever learn how to be decisive is to get out of your head and eliminate the monkey chatter.
Todays video is just the cure.
very important blog David!!!!!! I think being indecision if you meet some one great can reduce the momentum and attraction. It is my main problem and I have discovered it to day in this blog.
this blog with be a turning point for me and any one who has problems dating.
Sweet! Thanks for posting that video David! That was a very important discussion for me.
ya i’m too indecisive at times when it comes to girls, but sometimes i also get criticized for making a decision too fast without looking enough into the situations….
Funny how I watched the video on YouTube before I found this post.
Great discussion, David. I think it’s important that guys get it out of their heads this “scientific” approach to meeting women. The only thing that science has any part in meeting and attracting women is your DNA.
If you trust, love and respect yourself, it will go a long way with being comfortable with yourself and exuding that energy around you. People won’t have a choice but to gravitate toward you. It’s all about being true to who you are.
There is no checklist and no science to this, guys. Make a decision and take control.
Own not just the moment, but your life!
I think indecisiveness comes from fear of making the wrong decision. You’ve gotta be decisive in all your life, not just romantic situations. Even if you’re not interested it’s best to be decisive and not string people along. Decisions will get made, you either make them or they get made for you. I like to be the one doing the deciding as much as possible.
WOW !!! this blogs is the short one BUT very very important.
I much agreed here and this has happen to me too- being indecisive what ever i do NOT only in dating world
Being decisive has saved me time and time again from some of the worst possible outcomes over the years, both personally and professionally. Whenever I was indecisive, I paid in spades over long periods of time with no escape until I bit the bullet. Thanks for the timely reminder.
lol I must’ve watched that video like 5 times again and every time the message sinks in a little bit deeper.
guys can someone help me out with a problem im 15 yrs old and i really need help
Sure, go for it.