Be A Tourist To Meet Women
September 7, 2009 
21 Comments
First let me apologize to everyone about the “technical problems” we’ve had with the blog over the last few days. It always happens when you’re away 
Also, thank you for being patient while we got the issues resolved.
Hope everyone is having a fantastic Labor Day weekend! I can’t believe the summer is coming to an end. Today’s blog is great, as it is the best adventure you can have on this Labor Day.
One of the best things to do is to play tourist in your own town. Walk around your town on a Saturday and pretend that you’ve never been there before. Why? It will force you to ask for directions and recommendations and to converse with people that you haven’t talked to before.
Maybe you can make this an adventure with somebody. Pretend like you’ve never been there before. Not only will you meet interesting people, but you will also learn things about your town that you probably didn’t already know.
Just because you have lived somewhere your whole life does not mean that you know every restaurant! It doesn’t mean you’ve been to every little shop, or explored every nook and cranny.
By acting like a curious, lost tourist, you will be able to meet more people all day long. This builds your social network.
If you start connecting with a woman who lives in your town and you want to ask her out, you can say, “Give me your number. I’d love to get together with you. I live here, but I made a pact with myself today that I was going to re-explore my town. I’ve lived here my entire life and I wanted to feel like a tourist again. And since you were nice enough to share all of your information, I would like to take you out and show you one of MY favorite places.”
She’ll ask you which place is your favorite, and you can say “It’s a surprise! Give me your number and we’ll get together next week.” That is how you do it. Turn it into a game while still being honest.
At a recent Bootcamp a client asked me if I’d ever done this. I told him “Absolutely! It works really well.”
You’re not lying to them. You’re doing a social experiment on yourself. Also, it tells a woman that you are self-evolved.
You are showing her that you are a man that actually thinks outside the box. It takes a lot of guts to pretend to be a tourist.
How many times have you been with a woman who has complained that she hasn’t seen your vulnerable side? Pretending to be a tourist is a way to show a woman your vulnerability.
All right, let’s go take a walk! Enjoy your Labor Day!
Hey David. Very interesting idea. I’m going to try it soon. Meeting new people, finding out new spots in your city, new fall season. It’s like being an actor in your own movie, and the city is the set. Thanx David. Hope you had a great Labor Day weekend.
Happy Labor Day David! This is a GREAT exercise that I’m gonna have to try out ASAP.
Cheers….
No worries about the technical problems, thanks for letting us know David, I was beginning to wonder!
Hey Charles- how was your weekend?
Hey Who- how you doing buddy?
I will definitely miss the summer romance David, I am east coast guy now thinking about relocating, can’t stand winter:)
Clint- I am doing better now pal, thanks for asking!
Where are you thinking about relocating?
Great idea I will have to experiment with the tourist opener!
David- for the guy that said can it work? i am a living prof i remember one time you mention this in one of the blog, i went out tried this, it worked like magic and got myself a new date within few days, it really changed my belief system about meeting women, and how easy it is!!!!!
Steve- it’s inspiration to read that, thanks for sharing now i will def. try this.
Clint- make sure you don’t forget to have fun, and enjoy yourself, and the women will come:)
Jacob- That’s a another great point! I had to learn that the hard way:) but glad now it’s getting little bit easier than before!
great stuff CJ and Steve, will update you guys how that goes:)
looking forward to hear more, you have the blog!
Hey Dr. Who. My wknd was amazing, thx for asking. How was yours?
Charles-
It was great to have an extra day off after the weekend, I spend the time with some close friends and family, we had a BBQ:)
Thanks!
btw….My real name is James, i think i will have to change Dr. Who to James soon:)
Doctor-
James sounds better:)
Don’t worry Dr. Who soon James everyone in here changes names we got Barbie and Ken aka Yakub later Jacob and Khiem.
So true playing tourist in your own town is eye opening, so often we search high and low for things far away and forget to look close to what is right in front of us.
Marina
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