My mother in law just shit talked behind my back to someone over the phone. I heard her while I was in the bathroom. I’m to a point where I just want to blow up at her, after all I’ve done and she’s living under my roof. She’s got issues from childhood and needs to see a shrink.

Going to have a sit down w/ her tonight before I throw her out. Any suggestions on approach, she told someone over the phone that my parenting skills were a joke since I don’t hit my kids. Don’t know what she’s talking about because my 3 1/2 yr. old walks all over her. She makes up excuses as to why she doesn’t hit her but oh no she hit her kids. And if she was my daughters mommy she’d beat the crap out of her, note this is only when she acts up towards her. I think she expects me to hit her if my daughter disrespects her. When she is the one who spoils her and gives in to her every whim and I’ve warned her. My little girl sits out timeout when she’s in trouble and comes out a new person, a good girl.

“How come guys can say and practice “Bros before hoes” but girls can never practice, “chicks before dicks”?” Actually, most girls and guys do practice this variation of the Golden Rule but there is always someone who violates the code and they are found in the column marked “frenemies.” They can be the best of friends on one level but also the fly in the ointment on another.

It’s very astute of you to peg your bud as “oversexualized.” I would not recommend using that term to her face because it would stir things up in an entirely different direction. People who do that learned the behavior from others in their lives – often a parent – whether is was copying behavior or finding others with that behavior successful at getting the attention of someone who was not otherwise interested in any interaction. It takes time to realize that it can be a negative behavior when practiced at the expense of their friends and family…people who do this don’t see any boundaries because it’s the only way to be in their minds.

The sooner that you talk to her, the better, but no drama! She probably has a fair idea already with all of the kidding from others but if you want to remain her friend, you should give her the chance to own up. She is probably far more insecure than you ever realized or else she would not have such an uncontrollable need to be the center of attention whenever this guy is around. She may not know that she is hurting your feelings if she thinks that it’s a game…in which case, the only question is “Hey, girlfriend, what ever happened to ‘chicks before dicks?’” It’s really more about her behavior than about the guy himself so don’t make it about him – he could be in the wind. And as for him, maybe you can ask the next hypothetical question of what would he think of a guy friend who would steal his action by not respecting the ‘bros before hoes’ rule?

The military guy and me are long distance and never met before, but talked to eachother and liked eachother. We’rejust friends now and not in the right time to date eachother seriously. I think its best if we met first. He’s struggling, needs to find himself. He’s the type of guy I think I know that if we date, we’ll have to be in a good place otherwise it won’t work out. I don’t know if that makes sense.

I’m just getting to know guys and taking chances. Idk….

You need to sit down with your friend and let her know how you feel, a true friend should be able to share in person and not just on a site like this. If your friendship cant take you telling her this then there not much to begin with. Maybe she is not quite aware about what she is doing and if she. Besides if he is flirting with both of you he does not seem to be very serious with either of you.

Are you not the same a couple of days ago crazy with the boy who was going into military, give yourself some time to really find out if this new boy is worth it. Just make sure you really are into this new one før right reasons.

Based on what she does, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to “fight” for this guy’s attention and flirt more… or just focus on meeting another guy.

Should I ask him ifhe likes me? should I ask if he likes her? I don’t want to waste my time…

What kind of friend is she for her to flirt with the guy you are interested in?

Have you ever put your foot down and tell her what your boundaries are when it comes to flirting with YOUR guy?

To me it sounds that she’s insecure about herself. It’s one thing for her to like flirting, it’s another to flirt and get in your way. Guys have cockblocks but your friend is just being a “pussy” block!

If she really doesn’t see what’s wrong with it… you might have to reconsider how good of a friend she is. And honestly, maybe you need to call her out on it.

If she is attracted to him, tell her to be honest! Maybe the guy isn’t worth your time that much.

On the other hand, you might have to reconsider if you are truly interested in him or not. Granted, most guys would LOVE to have 2 girls fight for them… but deep in his heart, does he like you? Does he want you? If he does, why is he being so nonchalant?

Thanks. She IS a friend I hang out alot with. She’s the party girl+ education + looks and charms but I think she’s oversexualized…Anyways, Your list was pretty darn right. But I would not do anything to ruin or friendship, but it’s sad when one is being loyal and the other doesn’t seem to care. I pretty much did not want to see or talk to her after a dreadful week last week but now I’m not going to let her get in my way.

It just seems that when I put more effort into flirting and being myself around the guy, she pushes the lines even more. Just the other day, the time I spent with him alone and online chat with him afterwards–it just felt right, like we were heading in the right direction. He almost asked me out but said it in the form of, “For example, what if I ask you out, what would you say?” (He was talking about his fear of rejection before that so he used this example for some reason, and would’t tell me his true intentions.) The next day, she friend put up pictures of her on his laptop wallpaper! All the ‘magic’ of the day before seemed to have crushed under her new step in flirting with him. Sometimes I feel she’s taken him too far for me to have a chance with him, and my friends agree. Though, shouldn’t I not be insecure?

How come guys can say and practice “Bros before hoes” but girls can never practice, “chicks before dicks”?