I’ve been ruined. Once again, I’ve been ruined. Every time I go to Europe and eat lots of small meals with fresh organic foods, I come back to America and the processed foods in my favorite restaurants make me feel lousy.
Last night, I went to one of my favorite sushi restaurants, and now I am going to be off of sushi forever. The next time I eat sushi and raw fish will be when I am reincarnated as flipper. The other night I ordered in Chinese food from a healthy Chinese restaurant, and let me tell you that the next time I’ll be eating Chinese food will be when I’m reincarnated as Wo Ming Ching the fisherman.
I miss all the wonderful meals I had in London and in France. Oh well, I guess I’ll just have to take another vacation soon.
Oh, and I want to personally thank everyone who left great comments yesterday about my big announcement on the blog. If you haven’t read about my big announcement, click here (because you missed something pretty huge).
This is something I talk about almost every single day. In order to meet the kind of people you most desire, you need to learn how to attract them (and not chase them).
I mean, how many times are you guys going to go out on a Friday or Saturday night and chase women before you realize that it doesn’t work. You are just what I call chasing the night. You need to realize that your actions — all of your actions — are picked up on by lots of different people.
When I was in Cannes recently, I was standing in line behind a man at a buffet. If you’ve ever seen me in a buffet line, I act like I’ve never eaten a meal before in my entire life. It was one at one of those beautiful hotels in Cannes with a great breakfast buffet, and I was really hungry and anxious to get my hands on the lox.
So I might have gotten a little too close to the man in line in front of me, and at some point we bumped into each other. It was really no big deal. I mean, how many times have you accidentally bumped into someone, right?
That man, however, gave me the dirtiest look in the world — one of those “f*^k you” looks. So I sat down at my table, and I saw him give me yet another dirty look.
How many of you do this? How many of you accidentally bump into someone because you get too close to them, and then give the other person a dirty look because they invaded your personal space?
Do you realize how many other people see you give that dirty look and see the whole interaction take place? They don’t look at the other person as the asshole. They look at you as the asshole.
They don’t wonder what’s wrong with you because you accidentally bumped into someone. They wonder what’s wrong with you that you have to be such as asshole.
When we’re talking about attracting people (and not chasing them), this is the type of thing that will not only not attract others — but will actually repel them. So be careful what you do.
The next time somebody is too close and they bump into you, just smile and say “No big deal.” You never know who is looking at you and checking you out. You never know who is getting turned off by your actions.
When you give the dirty look or something like that, you are turning off every person around you (not just that one person next to you). If you’ve learned anything from what we’ve talked about, it all comes down to creating attraction.
When you give the dirty look, you are actually creating instant detraction. That may or may not be a word, but it is the perfect term for when you doing the exact opposite of attracting people to you (including those people of the opposite sex you most want to attract). So everywhere you go, be sure to avoid the art of detraction.
1st post! Yes, you’re right. What’s the big deal with getting bumped? Here in Manila, you will actually get that dirty look everywhere. Even being nice and courteous doesn’t help. People will still give you that dirty look. Heck, they’ll tell their friends about it and look at you the same. Or they’ll feel you’re a big ass.
And you’re right about processed food… It makes me feel lousy too. Especially when you drink soft drinks…. Yikes! All the sugar stuff they chuck in it. :p
Yes! Lets talk about the art of attraction, the other day I was left to sit endlessly trying to get a break in traffic and get to my next appointment!I was late and these selfish drivers would not let me in!
STOP! STOP! STOP! COME TO REALITY! THAT IS NOT WHAT WAS HAPPENING!
Here is what was happening in reality. I had pulled into a tiny but cheap gas station to get fuel for my beautiful but eternally thirsty Corvette convertible. The station is situated right on the corner of two very busy city streets. It was smack in the middle of rush hour and there were cars lined up for more than a mile at the traffic light.
Now please guess who had set himself up for a long wait?
Me of course and there I sat! SO, I turned on my “fun personality” and began to have fun. First I cranked up the music and began to sway and tap my fingers. Then I turned to the traffic, looking for a car with that “Right Person.”
There she was, 6 cars back in an SUV bright and animated, about 45 years old and attractive. I focused my smile at her until she noticed me, smiling, swaying to the music and needing into traffic. She and I connected, only for a moment but that was plenty. She gave me a brief smile and waved me into traffic.
I FELT GREAT, I HAD FLIRTED MY WAY INTO A NICE LITTLE FAVOR FROM AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN! I wouldn’t date her, I’ll never get the chance but I captured her attention and she responded to me. Ha, ha, ha, I got myself lots of those little happy beans that go to fill me ego jar and make me a very dangerous man around single women!
Is that what you were referring to?
Good for you Monster!
I like the way you turned this around and made the conscious decision not to play the victim. I think if everyone held your glass-half-full, instead of glass-half-empty outlook, the world would be a much nicer place.
Well Andy, evidently you “get the picture” of how to have fun wherever you are.Thanks for the compliment.
The opposite sex can be a magical fountain of good feelings or Scaaaary, (oh no) Frustrating (Ah crap)or just plain off the radar entirely! (God, please take me before I get to that place!)
For me, my interactions with women always seem to be a good indicator about how I am feeling about life in that moment. The great thing is when I see a pretty girl I get to take a stab (metaphorically) at altering my mood to the upside, substantially! Oh and if she doesn’t want to play then, poor thing, she just missed a jolly time and a bunch of happy beans in her ego jar from yours truly!
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I just realized that even though I have a girlfriend to die for, I have created a life for myself with dozens of women that I can flirt with (sometimes until I get swatted with a paper and sent back to my girlfriend), dance with, smash on (massage), eat with, or even argue with, until we giggle and smack each other. My life right now is SUPER STRESSFUL and having a bunch of lovely women to unwind with makes life a pleasure! You know, they are always there, whether I take the time and muster the energy/ courage to connect with them or not. Girls, people like me, fighting for their happiness in a tough world that can take pieces of your soul if you lose your smile!
Monster, you’re right. it’s good to have people around you that you can interact since we tend to be stuck busy with our businesses. ;D that’s something I’ve been working for all this year: building the best social network ever.