Let’s talk about Mr. Perfect today. I want everyone to know about Mr. Perfect.

Everyone who is out there trying to improve their dating life by meeting people in situations in which they normally don’t meet people is playing the role of Mr. Perfect. So let’s put Mr. Perfect in a situation so you can see what I mean.

Let’s put Mr. Perfect in a supermarket. What does Mr. Perfect do?

Well, Mr. Perfect knows that he needs to go out there and converse with people all day long to become more sociable and to open up his energy. So Mr. Perfect will see a woman looking at crackers, he will see an opportunity, he will walk over to her, and then the same thing will always happen.

He’ll walk over and make a comment like, “Man, I don’t really know what crackers are good here” or “Can you make a suggestion on what kind of crackers I should buy?” What happens to Mr. Perfect every time when he does this? She walks away.

Do you know why? It is because that is what happens to people who try to be perfect and don’t make the situation natural. When you act like Mr. Perfect, what you say never comes out sounding natural.

Why? Didn’t Mr. Perfect walk over and say something based on what she was doing in that moment like I always say to do?

Well, yes, but when he walked over to her he probably walked over all nervous. He didn’t walk over to her curious and confident, with a real question to ask her.

He walked over there thinking about the question he was going to ask her the whole time he was approaching her. He was thinking, “I’m going to ask her about crackers. I’m going to ask her to give me a cracker recommendation.”

Then when he actually asks her about the crackers, it doesn’t come out natural at all. So of course she is going to walk away. Of course she will start heading in another direction, because that is what happens to Mr. Perfect.

So what does Mr. Perfect do when that happens? Even though Mr. Perfect knows that this was just one encounter with one person, he will immediately think to himself “I can’t do this. This is too hard. This is not going to work. She didn’t respond to me.”

Then, all of a sudden, he’ll start manifesting those negative thoughts in every interaction he has after that. He will sabotage his ability to make each one of those interactions successful.

The truth is that none of those negative thoughts are true at all. Mr. Perfect is fully capable of successfully approaching women.

The reason that the “cracker situation” happens to Mr. Perfect is because he sabotaged the interaction before he said a word to her by trying to be perfect. There is no such thing as perfect. Nobody wants perfect.

What do we really want in a relationship with someone? We want someone who understands us, someone who is going to resonate with us, someone from whom we can learn and someone we can really experience.

We’re not perfect people. So when you walk over to anyone, there is no such thing as perfection.

If someone doesn’t respond to you, it could be because you ran into a mirror image of yourself — someone who is absolutely and completely nervous to talk to people and doesn’t know what to say. In other words, someone else who thinks they have to be perfect.

So what happens when a Mr. Perfect meets a Ms. Perfect, is that one of them will walk away from the encounter because they are so nervous and don’t know what to say. They get way too much inside their head. It’s a cycle that will keep repeating until they stop being a Mr. Perfect.

You don’t ever have to be perfect. There is no perfection in life. None.

Despite this, there seems to be so many people who feel the need to be perfect when they are trying to improve their dating lives. There is no need for this. If all the Mr. Perfects out there would change their mindset, they would experience a lot closer to “perfect” results.