Comments on: Attention Women It’s Okay To Show Interest! http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:15:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: halfshyhalfoutgoing http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-31331 halfshyhalfoutgoing Sun, 13 Sep 2009 02:09:07 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-31331 And it never hurts to have new friends...especially if you are shy...and especially if they are of the opposite sex. One woman could lead to another woman who could lead to THE WOMAN, so be generous to people who reject you in one way but accept you in another. You never know what blessing could be awaiting you around the corner. PS: Thanks to everyone on this blog (especially the men) for helping me realize I have probably been being WAY too subtle towards someone I like. Thanks for the advice. Two decades ago when I first met my husband of 17 years he told me when we finally got together: "Why did you wait all this time to tell me?" I said, "You didn't know? I thought I was being SO obvious." So ladies, don't pass up your possible soul mate by assuming ANYTHING EVER. And it never hurts to have new friends…especially if you are shy…and especially if they are of the opposite sex. One woman could lead to another woman who could lead to THE WOMAN, so be generous to people who reject you in one way but accept you in another. You never know what blessing could be awaiting you around the corner. PS: Thanks to everyone on this blog (especially the men) for helping me realize I have probably been being WAY too subtle towards someone I like. Thanks for the advice. Two decades ago when I first met my husband of 17 years he told me when we finally got together: “Why did you wait all this time to tell me?” I said, “You didn’t know? I thought I was being SO obvious.” So ladies, don’t pass up your possible soul mate by assuming ANYTHING EVER.

]]> By: halfshyhalfoutgoing http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-31330 halfshyhalfoutgoing Sun, 13 Sep 2009 01:58:17 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-31330 When a man I'm not attracted to shows me he likes me in a nice way I am always thrilled by the compliment. When a man I am attracted to shows me he likes me I am always thrilled as well (obviously). We women are socialized constantly not to be too aggressive or to act "needy" when sometimes we just want to grab a guy and drag him back to our feline den and eat him up. But for both men and women a little shyness when you are really attracted is probably natural. I've tried making the first move with men who have flirted with me previously who seemed interested and it often threw them off and didn't work...maybe men, like women are still constantly socialized to feel they should be the one to make the first move...or maybe its the hunter, mating thing in all of us - hard to know. If you are a shy guy and politely show someone you like them most women will probably be flattered even if they can't reciprocate and might start to count you as a friend or buddy at the least. When a man I’m not attracted to shows me he likes me in a nice way I am always thrilled by the compliment. When a man I am attracted to shows me he likes me I am always thrilled as well (obviously). We women are socialized constantly not to be too aggressive or to act “needy” when sometimes we just want to grab a guy and drag him back to our feline den and eat him up. But for both men and women a little shyness when you are really attracted is probably natural. I’ve tried making the first move with men who have flirted with me previously who seemed interested and it often threw them off and didn’t work…maybe men, like women are still constantly socialized to feel they should be the one to make the first move…or maybe its the hunter, mating thing in all of us – hard to know. If you are a shy guy and politely show someone you like them most women will probably be flattered even if they can’t reciprocate and might start to count you as a friend or buddy at the least.

]]> By: JustMe http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-18048 JustMe Wed, 10 Sep 2008 22:56:53 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-18048 This is one of those intriguing blogs i love so much on this site! It's really really.. educational, if you will :) I'm going through this right now.. I actually approach guys half way to let them approach me, cause I know that it makes it easier for them to not have to do all the "reading" and approaching.. I have worked against my old beliefs that a guy should approach you first and do all the flirting and SHOULD be able to understand your "signs" etc. About initiating another "hang out"; it's easily done.. I told this guy I'm hanging out with/flirting with right now, that I thought he was really funny and ended our text messaging by saying: "you're quite the funny guy.. let's do lunch again!" then he said: "how about tomorrow?" since that "first" move of mine.. he always asks me out for lunch, movies etc..of course I still initiate hang outs.. but it's not that "awkward" anymore..and we already have a "thing".. hehe.. He's really open because of my obiviousness (!) and I get soo much in return for it ;) Girls, these comments and this blog is a HUUUGE lesson!! This is one of those intriguing blogs i love so much on this site! It’s really really.. educational, if you will :)
I’m going through this right now..
I actually approach guys half way to let them approach me, cause I know that it makes it easier for them to not have to do all the “reading” and approaching.. I have worked against my old beliefs that a guy should approach you first and do all the flirting and SHOULD be able to understand your “signs” etc.
About initiating another “hang out”; it’s easily done.. I told this guy I’m hanging out with/flirting with right now, that I thought he was really funny and ended our text messaging by saying: “you’re quite the funny guy.. let’s do lunch again!” then he said: “how about tomorrow?”
since that “first” move of mine.. he always asks me out for lunch, movies etc..of course I still initiate hang outs.. but it’s not that “awkward” anymore..and we already have a “thing”.. hehe..
He’s really open because of my obiviousness (!) and I get soo much in return for it ;)

Girls, these comments and this blog is a HUUUGE lesson!!

]]> By: intruderdz http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-17999 intruderdz Wed, 10 Sep 2008 04:55:43 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-17999 My problem is I got the hints, but was too busy engulfed in my own excuses to make the move. Recently I have done this with one of the coolest girls I have met so far in my life, she was a good friend for about over 6 months, she would always give me "the smile" , double takes and very excited greetings. Now the situation is pretty ugly because I became the friend and stepped over the line when her interest was no longer there. I was too passive, always beating around the bush, not flirting, never letting my interest be known, while gathering information, finding out that me and her had soooo much in common. My biggest mistake is I was never myself around her, because I thought that she wouldnt like the real me. I always show interest and flirt with the girls that I don't really like that much, but not with her, man I hate myself. My problem is I got the hints, but was too busy engulfed in my own excuses to make the move. Recently I have done this with one of the coolest girls I have met so far in my life, she was a good friend for about over 6 months, she would always give me “the smile” , double takes and very excited greetings. Now the situation is pretty ugly because I became the friend and stepped over the line when her interest was no longer there.

I was too passive, always beating around the bush, not flirting, never letting my interest be known, while gathering information, finding out that me and her had soooo much in common.

My biggest mistake is I was never myself around her, because I thought that she wouldnt like the real me. I always show interest and flirt with the girls that I don’t really like that much, but not with her, man I hate myself.

]]> By: Erika http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-17996 Erika Wed, 10 Sep 2008 03:36:58 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-17996 hey everyone, gosh, I feel anxious just reading a lot of these comments! the anxiety comes from thinking outside of the present moment. forget where it's going to lead, just find something that works for you in the moment for connecting with people. it doesn't matter if they are men or women, multimillionaires or bartenders. when you remove any thoughts about anything beyond this present moment, right now, you can connect. the second you start thinking about what might happen tomorrow, or next week, or next year, it creates anxiety. and anxiety makes it very difficult to connect. other people pick up on anxiety and become anxious around you. I just blogged about how I use energy healing to connect with people: http://awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com I'm sure there are a million similar "neutral" things that are totally non-threatening to people and will give you an excuse and a vehicle for reaching out to anyone at the bar ... hey everyone,

gosh, I feel anxious just reading a lot of these comments! the anxiety comes from thinking outside of the present moment.

forget where it’s going to lead, just find something that works for you in the moment for connecting with people. it doesn’t matter if they are men or women, multimillionaires or bartenders. when you remove any thoughts about anything beyond this present moment, right now, you can connect.

the second you start thinking about what might happen tomorrow, or next week, or next year, it creates anxiety. and anxiety makes it very difficult to connect. other people pick up on anxiety and become anxious around you.

I just blogged about how I use energy healing to connect with people: http://awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com

I’m sure there are a million similar “neutral” things that are totally non-threatening to people and will give you an excuse and a vehicle for reaching out to anyone at the bar …

]]> By: Khiem http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-17994 Khiem Wed, 10 Sep 2008 02:51:28 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-17994 I'm really enjoying reading all these comments. It's funny actually. Shy men complain women don't show enough interest and I agree. Shy women rebukes by saying they are shy too and prefer men to really man up and initiate by approaching... which I ALSO agree. The irony is that... confident men might not approach the shy women at all b/c these women don't seem approachable, they don't seem interested (based on the body language) or they just plainly don't seem as fun (or flirty) as the more social ones. It's just too much work for them to approach a woman who seems "cold" when what ANY man looks for is receptiveness from the woman. So I have an idea for all of the shy people out there: stop being shy! :) :) :) I had to learn to overcome a lot of my insecurities to become who I am today. Shyness doesn't help in any situation, be it business or dating. So... anyone wanna get coaching now? ;p I’m really enjoying reading all these comments. It’s funny actually.

Shy men complain women don’t show enough interest and I agree.
Shy women rebukes by saying they are shy too and prefer men to really man up and initiate by approaching… which I ALSO agree.

The irony is that… confident men might not approach the shy women at all b/c these women don’t seem approachable, they don’t seem interested (based on the body language) or they just plainly don’t seem as fun (or flirty) as the more social ones. It’s just too much work for them to approach a woman who seems “cold” when what ANY man looks for is receptiveness from the woman.

So I have an idea for all of the shy people out there: stop being shy! :) :) :)

I had to learn to overcome a lot of my insecurities to become who I am today. Shyness doesn’t help in any situation, be it business or dating.

So… anyone wanna get coaching now? ;p

]]> By: JMH http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-17991 JMH Wed, 10 Sep 2008 02:10:02 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-17991 Thanks for the great advice David!. I'm one of these classy and confidence-inspiring women who has no problem flirting, touching lightly, and encouraging a man when she is definitely interested. But positive rapport is created when a man is enthusiastic in his approach, exudes confidence, and exhibits respectful appreciation of my femininity while drinking in every word of our verbal and non-verbal conversation. Powerful! Intoxicating! Thanks for the great advice David!.
I’m one of these classy and confidence-inspiring women who has no problem flirting, touching lightly, and encouraging a man when she is definitely interested. But positive rapport is created when a man is enthusiastic in his approach, exudes confidence, and exhibits respectful appreciation of my femininity while drinking in every word of our verbal and non-verbal conversation. Powerful! Intoxicating!

]]> By: C http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-17990 C Wed, 10 Sep 2008 01:33:48 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-17990 Busted! :-) Busted! :-)

]]> By: Kristen http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-17987 Kristen Wed, 10 Sep 2008 00:26:21 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-17987 Rob - I don't think you're being pessimistic, and it's probably true that if someone is not attracted to someone who is looking, staring or smiling at them that flirting is not going to change that ... ... but maybe the lesson is SO WHAT? If you're interested in someone, then smile, look and say hello so that you at least give yourself a chance to make the connection. If the other person is interested - fantastic ... and if they're not - move on and NEXT! :) You are right though ... people watch for one day lookinga at all the couples that pass by -- and you will quickly lose your assumptions about what everyone finds attractive :) Rob – I don’t think you’re being pessimistic, and it’s probably true that if someone is not attracted to someone who is looking, staring or smiling at them that flirting is not going to change that …

… but maybe the lesson is SO WHAT? If you’re interested in someone, then smile, look and say hello so that you at least give yourself a chance to make the connection. If the other person is interested – fantastic … and if they’re not – move on and NEXT! :)

You are right though … people watch for one day lookinga at all the couples that pass by — and you will quickly lose your assumptions about what everyone finds attractive :)

]]> By: JIM L. http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/attention-women-its-okay-to-show-interest/729/#comment-17985 JIM L. Wed, 10 Sep 2008 00:07:07 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=729#comment-17985 DAVID GREAT ADVICE AS ALWAYS!! I SHOULD TAKE YOUR ADVICE. NEVER GOING TO DIE!!!!!!!!!!!! DAVID GREAT ADVICE AS ALWAYS!! I SHOULD TAKE YOUR ADVICE. NEVER GOING TO DIE!!!!!!!!!!!!

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