Attention All Women Explore Yourself Sexually
December 9, 2008 
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There is a conversation that comes up time and time again with my women clients that I think is really interesting. So many women tell me how they want to explore themselves sexually, but then tell me all the reasons why they don’t do it or why they feel they shouldn’t do it.
A lot of women are so afraid to explore themselves sexually. They think to themselves things like “God, What I am going to do if I explore myself sexually then the man I end up with wonders where all this sexual experience comes from or how many guys there have been before him?”
Here’s an open letter to every single woman out there: Go ahead and explore yourself sexually!
I love being with women who know who they are sexually. I love women who know how to please a man. I love women who are in touch with themselves, and know how to please themselves.
So many women don’t know who they are sexually. So many women don’t know how to please a man. So many women are not in touch with themselves, and don’t know how to please themselves.
So many women are afraid to explore themselves sexually in these ways because they believe if they do they will not be “marriage material” for somebody. The truth is, though, that those days have long passed.
If you’re an independent, free-thinking, sexual woman, then you need to go out and explore your sexuality in every way. You need to do that because by exploring your sexuality, you are really going to start opening up and will blossom like a little flower.
Start learning what things you like. Take time out of your life to learn how to sexually express yourself. Learn how to please a man.
Think about all of your lovers, and use them as a drawing board. Figure out what the men liked and figure out what you like. When it comes down to it, the reason why so many relationships don’t work out is that the sex becomes dry and boring … and you know if there’s a limit to what you can teach each other.
So learn all of the great tricks, and bring them into your new relationships. I guarantee you will never get bored.
Todays video is all about how to embrace your body so you can feel sexy around men.
I go over all of this in depth and what men really want out of a woman in my womens mastery series.
The information I share in this will shock you on how men really think. Click here to learn all the secrets.
Personally, I don’t ever judge a girl for being sexual. In fact, it’s just more of a turn-on if I know she’s good at what she does.
David love that you have a woman’s video up!
I can relate to the woman in this video (in fact I feel like I could be her she sounds so similar to the way I talk about myself) I think it’s really interesting to hear you talk about how we need to remember that men like women of all different body types. This is a good reminder all of us ladies need.
AMEN…love this blog. Thank you for reasuring my belief in sexuality. I whole heartedly agree with you on this one. I am a woman who is very sexually confident and feel sorry for woman who are insecure sexually.
I have a question? What does a woman wear when the monthly comes up? I wear dark pants for I do not advertise.
I take a day and pamper my body. I have went as far as to embrace it as well. There are times that I will go solo for I have not been with a man going on five years. In today’s society it plays to be safe.
It doesn’t take a quantity of men to learn to be a quality lover.
TR: I totally agree with your comments. Same is true for men. Some guys think that they need to sleep with tons of women to get good in bed or with women, and become their best self. But what they realize in the end, that it takes inner work on oneself. Inside and out.
Like David mentioned, if anyone change inside and out, it will blossom into a beautiful flower. That’s the kind of work I had to do, not just as a coach but also as a student of this.
btw….where is Joan!? I miss her.
I have to say that I always thought that it wasn’t “right” or that if my friends from church found out they would all be talking about me, would throw holy water on me, and I would disintegrate like the wicked witch of the west in the Wizard of Oz.
In reality, if I do not take care of myself in this way, I tend to get frustrated and I feel really tense and blocked. And my friends from church talk about sex way more than I do – ha ha!
I can’t say that I am totally at ease having to do this, but I do feel better afterward!
How do you learn how to please a man? I am not with anyone & probably won’t be sexually for awhile so how do you learn for future reference?
What a person does in this life is between them and God. If someone says something then that is on them. You are not responsible for the paths they chose to take in life nor the decisions they made. When it comes to Lord Jesus we stand individually. It doesn’t bother me when I want to pamper my body and be sexual with it. This keeps me from being sexually frustrated and away from std’s or hiv aids.
You learn the most about sexuality by exploring it deeply with someone.
Having multiple partners or many partners doesn’t ensure you are learning anything and becoming good.
As funny as it sounds, if a woman explores herself sexually, she makes it easier on the man to please her because she’s more in touch with what makes her feel good.
Whereas if she has no experience exploring herself, the man has to do a LOT of work to help her figure out what feels good to her.
Gabrielle, if you want to learn about how to please men, there are a lot of books on that topic that you can find at the library or at the bookstore.
Personally, I’d recommend you watch some sex educational videos. I’ve watched that myself out of curiosity to better myself and they are just great! You get to see how the body moves, and the motion it takes to really become a great lover.
However, in the end, it’s all about the psychological arousal. Most men AND women will think you are the best lover if you can truly arouse their emotions.
The way I learned was when I was alone for almost three years. Now that I am single once more I started to read Cosmopolitan and how a man wants to feel by his partner. I am not interested in women. I am a ride em cowboy person. After I learned these ways then whoever I was with I would practice on them.