Are You Too Obsessed With Vagina?
October 19, 2009 
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Are you so obsessed with vagina that you’re missing business opportunities everywhere you go? So many people are out there just looking to meet vagina (I use the word ‘vagina’ very loosely; women are out there looking to meet penis!) So let’s talk about this.
So many men are so obsessed about getting into a woman’s pants that they miss business opportunities all of the time. For instance, let’s say you’re trying to start your own business.
The key to starting a business is customers – if you don’t have customers, you won’t have a business. So, technically, every person you meet is a potential customer – maybe not today, but down the road.
Life is about investing. I look at life like the stock market.
Some stocks you buy, wanting them to pop in five minutes, and then you want to bail out. I look at those as like having a one-night stand. You buy this stock, it goes up $2, you get in and you get out. You get a little bit of a high and you’re done. That’s like getting laid that night.
Other stocks you buy because you know the value of the company. You know it’s undervalued at the moment, but you’re making an investment in the company for the future.
It’s the same thing that happens in dating. When you’re dating someone, you’re making an investment in the moment for the future. Everybody you meet has some type of potential for you down the road.
So here’s what you should do. Get the business card of everyone you meet, and on the back of each card write down the following three things: (1) Where you met them, (2) when you met them and (3) three personal things you learned about them (e.g., what they like to do).
Let’s say four years down the road you open up your own business. Every person you’ve met over the last four years now sits in a stack of business cards on your desk.
Open up a Gmail account and enter all of these people into your address book. For each person input their name, address, phone number, email and all the things you noted about them on the back of the business card. Then when you’re working 75 hours a week trying to build your business, you can write personalized emails to all those people you met.
You can write emails like, “Hey Joe, greet meeting you. Remember we met about four years ago in Georgetown? It was interesting, we had this great conversation about French wine and I actually went out and bought two bottles that you recommended. I never emailed you to say thank you, but here it is! Listen, I just opened up my own financial planning business, and I’m reaching out to everyone because this is a real passion of mine. Whether you’re looking to invest now or in the future, I’d love to keep you abreast of things. I’m writing a newsletter that I’d like to send out to you. If you’d ever like to talk investments with me, then let’s get together sometime.” Then end it with “your friend,” “truly,” “see you soon,” or something else very personal.
So what does this mean? It means that every day, you’re out there cultivating potential clients and dates. You might meet a potential client on a Wednesday, and he may lay $1 million on you Thursday (which is like getting laid right away). Another one might take ten years to get (which is more like a relationship).
Regardless, you cultivate them the same way. Every single person you meet has to go into your database.
Even the person who does hire you right away is an important relationship to cultivate and maintain, because you want to keep them coming back for more. It’s like great foreplay. If you please them and they come back for more, that means you’ve essentially f*^ked them really well and left them very satisfied.
You’ve given them really good foreplay. You’ve gotten to know them — their body and their mind. You’ve gotten them off, they loved it and now they’re back for more.
Life if about treating everyone well. Don’t do business with someone that you don’t like. I tell people that all of the time. That’s why I speak to people on the phone before I do business with them. I have to see if I like them. If I like them, I’ll want to work with them.
To me, it’s a relationship that can last forever. If you do business with friends, than it’s like it’s not really business. Friends trust friends. That’s really what it comes down to in the end.
This dating and sex analogy is a bit weird to think about at first, but it’s true. You just have to make everybody feel good.
“Some stocks you buy, wanting them to pop in five minutes, and then you want to bail out. I look at those as like having a one-night stand. You buy this stock, it goes up $2, you get in and you get out. You get a little bit of a high and you’re done. That’s like getting laid that night.”
I have to repost this quote love how you write this blog and the quote is priceless:)
The business card idea is rock solid, i will have to use that one from now on!
I gotta tell you David you are the real deal your teaching is so much better and real……than some of the pua or other dating coaches material I read in the past. So many props to you man.
Rick- I got to agree its an awesome idea, something I have been doing as well!
Jacob-
Many thanks for the email I had to re-read your answers twice it really is deep and got me thinking. Now I see why David says you are the best.
Hey Steve, glad you found it really helpful and thanks for the kind words:)
CJ- any big plan for the Halloween this year?
CJ- any big plans for the Halloween this year?
howe- not thinking that far ahead yet…there could be.
how about you?
I’m noow looking for some cool costume and party’s to go….any suggestion where i can find party?
go to meetup.com you will find tons of them!
CJ— thank you, and def. will have to check that out.
Okay, I’m finally going to come out of the woodwork after perusing your blog quite sometime now, David
Your writing always strikes me as insightful, witty, clever and silly. All wof which keep me coming back for more. You’re quite the prolific blogger on top of being a world-class dating coach.
This post is very “Keith Ferrazzi” like, not to say that you lifted this concept from him. I really like the direction you’re taking your business as well as the content your producing.
You’ll be seeing me comment more often.
Cheers!
Will
I only think about work when I meet people. It’s the only thing that is exciting to me. I don’t care at all about vagina, to be honest.
Will
thanks but who is Keith ferrazi?
Never heard of him
Hi David,
Keith Ferrazzi wrote the books “Never Eat Alone” and “Who’s Got Your Back”
He’s like the Dale Carnegie of the 21st century.
Brilliant, David!