Comments on: Are You Superman or A Regular Man?

By: Jayden667

Jayden667 — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 15:41:06 +0000

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By: Sam

Sam — Tue, 15 Jan 2008 05:29:54 +0000

I read this post and while it make some sense, I had an experience that seemed to follow this concept almost to the letter only to have it backfire on me. I met a woman last year in a lounge/nightclub and we danced close together and started kissing. We had a chemistry and as I took her home that night, we kisseed again and agreed to go on a date three days later. We go on the date, I take her ice skating and ate Italian and our physical intimacy increases to the point where we go up to her place and start pressing against each other, we kiss intimate parts of each other’s bodies and it looks like we would have sex that night.

However it was a Wednesday night, and I had ran out of sick days at the job I had at the time, which required wearing clothing that I had back at my house that I could not com back home in the morning and change to (she lived in Manhattan and I lived in the Bronx, plus my job started at 8AM). She asked me if I wanted to sleep over and I told her that I couldn’t as much as I really wanted to. We did agree to see each other again a few days later.

That weekend, she was in a car accident, and when I found out, I was very worried and called her a few times just to make sure she was okay. Fortunately she only had minor injuries. I saw her again maybe a week later and bought her flowers and a get well card; she was much less affectionate, but I attributed that to fallout from the accident. I called her two days later to check up on her and asked her when we could go out again and she told me that she felt that we were moving too fast and thought it would be better if we were just friends. I was very crushed and I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. What did I do wrong in this situation?

By: andre O. frm nigeria

andre O. frm nigeria — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 01:31:12 +0000

i couldn’t agree more with JOAN because when u play that “resistance game” for too long a time the theme of it starts to lose its steam……. Gaining control of your sex life starts with your approach to ladies and also importantly how you view it as regards to starting a new relationship.
Remember when the body/mind misses something sex for example its because its starting to get used to the idea of not having sex in a while……the body is an automatic “adaptive” machine…
the resistance game is advised to an extent….there’s a thin line….most of the time you could just overdo it and end up missing a great piece of ass(if u just wanted to flirt around for example) or a nice girl(who at the time just wanted some good loving)….

By: Khiem

Khiem — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:34:18 +0000

I think we should rename the theme of “resisting” woman’s sexual advances as “making her wait”. Delaying sexual gratification can be a powerful psychological sexually arousing factor.

But as someone pointed out, resisting the woman in ways that makes her wonder if you truly DESIRE her kills the mood.

So my take would be: take advantage of any windows of opportunity for escalation but always lead. If you always lead, the woman feel that you are taking control, that you are taking charge. And as such, you become that “superman” that she’s been dreaming of. If the woman takes the lead, it should be because you “allow” her to take the lead… not b/c you are the weak man and you accept anything she throws at you.

By: Joan

Joan — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 19:57:46 +0000

Bertie;

LOL You are so hilarious. Love the description of the bush trimming. lol
Yes…I have to say as much as they drive me crazy still, at times…my kids also have brought me much happiness and laughter abundant

Lou bega;
Thank you for the compliment. I enjoy posting and I am glad someone enjoys the reading.

By: Bertie

Bertie — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 16:29:43 +0000

I do admire all those who choose to wait until marriage, but I honestly don’t see that in my future. I’ve already spent half my life married. I am at an age where practicing any form of birth control is pretty much a guarantee that I won’t be bringing life into this world, and if I were to, I can say I wouldn’t be thrilled about being pregnant again, but I love all of my kids, and kids never do anything when the opportunity is right for you. They show up at the wrong time. They ask you what you’re fixing for dinner the minute you step in the door after a thirteen hour day or come back from a long agonizing flight trying to save someone. They also make you laugh hysterically when you’re walking down your sidewalk to the car and while ducking the bushes you’ve been promising yourself to prune they say “Mom, you really need to trim your bush!” and you get to thank them for paying such scrupulous attention to your personal hygiene, and you both laugh like idiots.

By: Lou bega

Lou bega — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 14:31:32 +0000

Steven:
I have enjoying your post about delaying sex till marriage. Its a sign of self control, maturity and care. i did confess on this very blog about two days about my deliberate decision 3 years ago to zip up till marriage. Its a very healthy decision and i support u 100%.

Joan: Great post as usual. Is your

By: Bria Dear

Bria Dear — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 13:55:53 +0000

First off – I can relate to LA and the rain. When I lived out there, I never had to wear a coat heavier than one worn during the Fall on the East Coast. Rainy weather hits LA from December – March, it is clearly their “winter”. I, too desperately missed the seasons and am now glad that I’m back on the East Coast getting a toast of them.

Secondly, I run from any sign of possessiveness. I had years of having to permit someone to tell me what I was “allowed” and not “allowed” to do – it was called childhood. As an adult, nah, I don’t think so. I’ve had possessive ones in the past and that cured me of ever letting occur again. Hats off to you Jacob for kicking that one to the curb.

Thirdly, I’m not sure what to say on this blog…..b/c David makes it sound like we women are plotting and scheming to get sex from guys. We try this “trick” and that “trick” and yadda yadda. Who are you dating that does that? In any case, I will agree that it is very much a turn-on to have a man resist sex for a time maybe b/c it doesn’t happen that often. If there is chemistry, then resistance only helps to enhance it. Women don’t like “easy” men and take them seriously any more than men do with women.

Bria

By: Joan

Joan — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 08:37:15 +0000

JACOB;
I do declare….! Is there a Dr. in the house???LOL
I wondered if you would give the swift-kick to lady leach! lol Kidding I am glad to see you here and participating.
Glad to know I bring those pearly whites a smile ya silly

Steven K;
That is an excellent quote! Very insightfull indeed.
In reading of your reasoning about your friend Nora…it saddens me that a father would turn his back on his own flesh and blood, but I am thankful she didn’t abort the baby, and kudos to her for raising HER child.

I am having to help one of my daughters friends through the haunting trauma of that right now. She has been like my child for many many years and even calls me mom. She sends me notes and comments on my space before my own kids. LOL
I wish she would have come to me beforehand and it would probably not have happened. Adoption to a lesser fortunate family would have been an acceptable alternative. I just hold her and let her cry and grieve. I cry and grieve with her.
She sees that there were other choices now that it is too late. She is afraid to go to sleep because she has nightmares of the sound of the machine they used…Ok well I need not explain, nor can I any further.

The STDs as well….I am VERY leary. I am not phobic, but this would explain why the word “no” has come out of my mouth many a time.
You are so right about the 100% foolproof methods failing the mark.

I have 3 beautiful grown kids. The methods of protection used were all supposed to be the safest…to the point of insane! So this is the way I feel;

When God has a plan for your life, you can try and stop it all you want, but guess what? LOL HE always is a gentleman, AND HE does what he sees best for our benefit. I wouldn’t change that aspect, of my otherwise rotten as eggs marriage for the world

By: Steven K

Steven K — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 06:00:43 +0000

Hi David and good evening,

I just got your email, and I’ll respond immediately. It’s 1 a.m. here EST, so you can expect to have a quick response by 9 a.m. Sunday my time, which is 6 a.m. yours. I’ll give you some times you can contact me via phone, as well my information how to reach me.

Thank you.

-SK.