Orgasm Counters
By David Wygant
When you have sex with a woman, do you count the orgasms she has like you are counting touchdown passes by Tom Brady? When you’re going down on her, are you secretly counting how many orgasms she has like the Colorado Rockies are scoring runs in the miraculous playoff run they had?
To you what matters more, pleasing her or feeding your ego? I have always found that men who count orgasms are usually men who are so self-absorbed that they actually make the worst lovers.
Granted, this type of man may have physical tools to get a woman off, but a woman is looking for emotional tools with which to connect. She doesn’t just want to just know that you can just manually stimulate her to five different orgasms like Tom Brady can spread the ball around to Randy Moss, Donte Stallworth and Wes Welker.
A woman is looking to have an orgasm that is not only physical, but emotional. She wants to be able to connect with you on a deeper emotional and spiritual level.
She doesn’t really want you to be a walking talking vibrator. She wants you to be a walking talking Tom Brady. She doesn’t want you to just complete touchdown passes . . . she wants you to lead her to a deeper level of connecting.
Having sex with a woman is not just about getting her to climax. It is about getting her to experience a higher level of intimacy than she ever has before.
Great sex with a woman is creating powerful intimacy between the two of you. So how do you create this powerful intimacy? Well, for those of you who like to invest in your sexual future, I go over this in extensive detail in my Men’s Audio Mastery Series [INSERT LINK].
It’s taken me years to really understand the depth of a woman’s mind, body and soul. When I have sex with a woman, I want her asking, begging and pleading for more.
My goal is not just to make her climax. I also want to make her experience something so powerful (emotionally, mentally and physically) that she gets lost in my words, my touch and my body. That is how you want a woman to feel when you’re having sex with her.
I have a few friends who are orgasm counters. My conversations with them usually go something like this:
DW: “How was last night?”
Them: “ I got her to cum five times!”
DW: “Wow . . . that’s great. (Like I care)”
We’re not in high school anymore. Why men feel like they have to impress other men by talking about the number of orgasms they gave a woman is beyond my realm of understanding. I know the reasons why they do it though.
They do it to prove to themselves that they are being a good lover. Being a good lover, however, really requires being able to listen and to know exactly how to please your woman emotionally, spiritually and physically.
Granted, if you’re just a booty call then it’s fine to be just an orgasm counter. If you’re looking to really connect with women, however, it’s time you stop counting orgasms and start counting deep erotic passionate kisses.
Check out today’s video on powerful conversation starters with women.
Oh my….yes the orgasm count down. Let me just say I am so “multi faceted,” he never could keep count…and yes it was a big deal to him to do that. That is one department he never failed in…the only one really.
I remember more than once in the middle of the act, “Damn, so where are we now with your Os?” ????????????? Or that great line..”Did you cum?” Well hell, are you awake?????????
Who is counting. I am too busy enjoying and waking the neighbors because of it! LOL
It is an ego trip for a man to want to count the O factor. Just enjoy the fact that you are so pleasing, and keep up the good work;) The more Os she has, the more you are going to feel when you make your grand entrance.
You know, I observe and listen well to my friends talk about these guys who were so confident, “I will do ___ and ___ to you I know what I am doing..blah blah blah. The braggers were always the bummers with barely a boner to make bones about.
I think in my head….”Oh brother. help me find someone(s) I can enjoy in every realm of an encounter.”…geeze these stories make me wonder WTH is dating going to be like….sex…. I am looking forward to. You can’t stay so hot for so long. It isn’t healthy!!!!!!!!!!!! lol
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Alex Kay;
In reading your post, it is all too clear to me how vital to get the whole message contained in the blog, one must read twice.
I am the kisser of all kissers. To me,that is where the heat really gets hiked up in a big hurry…even if the kisses are slow and passionate…ESPECIALY if the kisses are slow and pasionate!!!!!!
I agree with this quote daddio. If am man would concentrate more on the getting lost in the deeeeeeeeeep and passionateeee kiss, he could be one down for the “count” and KNOW it has happened before clothes have ever been peeled back.
Kissing is making love with the mouth. Very sensuous and erotic>>>>if one is tuned into the vibe.
FOR ME!!!
I always want to count at least one!!!
Connecting at the deepest level where both are secure and safe. Thats love. Kissing can be a measure, how about the look without the kiss? Same thing! You know when you are connected at the highest level, its not about sex, its about the connection. So the Look can say as much as a kiss. So the look, the kiss, then the hot lovin. No need to count!
Joan: too bad of the 2500 mile divide….my lips to your LIPS!
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There is more than one type of orgasm. Some are far better than others, and I am a deep believer in quality over quantity in all things.
Thank you for this post. I’m so sick and tired of men asking me how many times I came. It’s NOT about quantity. Maybe coming from you they will believe that.
Shannon: Are you angry?
As I’ve said about a lot of things: Its about QUALITY, not QUANTITY.
Just one more thing not to ask. If I haven’t and you ask, I sure as hell won’t. Fortunately or not, depending on how you look at it, my ex used to ask.
Jim,
Not angry. Annoyed. The last two guys I was with were both obsessed with counting. And then would want me to confirm their number. I honestly had no idea, because I don’t count. I would prefer to be in the moment and not have to remember numbers. And usually, I’m so relaxed when I’m done that I don’t care.
Shannon: xoxo
Jim,
Thanks for the hugs and kisses. I needed them today. Right back at ya.
Shannon….. how many was that? xoxo or xo?
Jim,
Definitely xoxo.
I should be thanking you.
Whos counting
Definitely not me.
I count one, always want to count one!
Counting one if okay. But I think that if a woman truly has one, you won’t have to count.
I agree……. thats nice
I tend to lose count:)
Its all in the technique:)
Dude!
Jim,
Do you count? Is the “Dude” out of being impressed with David’s comment?
I am all about pleasing a woman…Always have been that is what turns me on.
As for counting maybe during my ego filled think with my dick 20s i was all about counting.
Now i am al about connecting and spending quality time devouring the woman that i am with.
Sex is a skill and we all enjoy different things.
You know what i love to do to a woman……
David,
Please tell what you love to do to a woman….I’m just dying to hear….or read.
I have counted for fun!! The girlfriend was multiple orgasmic. It Was fun to lay in bed and count. Just being playful! One weekend she had over 21, Amazing. She went to her female dr the following week for normal check up. Dr asked if she was having normal sexual relations, and she told her. The DR said Good for you!! LOL!!
Shannon
I really enjoy the art of seduction.
It all starts in my mind as i get to know a woman on deeper levels and peer into her soul.
I love long deep passionate conversation where you start to see someones core.
Once i get deep inside her head i then start to think about what I want to do to her physically.
It is like reading a map and i just can feel what she wanst once we connect inside of our minds.
I then like very slow deep passionate kisses that really let me feel her hunger that we built up through the mental connection that we have.
I slowly like to wander my hands all over her body feeling every little inch of her and enjoying each body part as i touch it.
Thats a start…..
Jim: according to one of the exes, mine was 23, but like I said, I never count. It could be one as long as i’m enjoying and connecting with the person I’m with. I am very thankful that I can have multiple orgasms. I have friends who have trouble with one. I feel sorry for them. And if your girlfriend had that many, you must be doing something right
David: That is one VERY good start. Do you have a twin…or a clone?
D how do you keep them from falling in love, being serious!
Jim,
How can you control another’s emotions?
Shannon
No clone or twin.
But this is the stuff that I teach in my bootcamps.
So all you have to do is find a D wygant student and he will indulge your mind and your body with erotic pleasure:)
Jim
I play hard to get..and i am emotionally unavalable right now.
Too much work sitting on my desk and not enough time.
David: I would love to find one of your students. At least they’ll be honest and grown ups. That is exceptionally hard to find.
Jim: You don’t want to fall in love? No judgment here, just asking.
D I connect with woman, treat them right, but they tend to fall fast just having fun hanging out. Makes me very cautious!
I would love to fall in love!
Jim: Do they fall fast and then it ends? You comment confused me.
D I just finished the book “Emotional Unavailability” By Bryn Collins. Its a good read,written for professionals in the field of therapy.
I understand what you are saying. My best buddy is a top exec with major comany and he is the same way. No further explaination needed. Thanks.
Shannon….. THey fall fast because thats what they want. I’m in my 40’s kids out of the house in college, alot going for me……… dates are easy to come by. I am alot like David connecting,i’m real, no BS. Woman like that. Maybe i’m guarded, i have been in love since my marriage, and she wanted a child and i was finishing raising my kids, and would not do it again. So it ended. But yes i want to fall and i know what it feels like.
Jim: It’s good that you know what you want. As I know, the trouble is finding that person. Kids seems to be a deal breaker. And people don’t seem to understand when you want something different than what they want. I would love to fall in love. Still waiting for that to happen.
Shannon. I think most people want love, but people settle for less. People are afraid to be alone.
Jim: You are so right. I settled for a long time and lived with someone I didn’t love. I’m no longer afraid to be alone. It’s liberating. And I know that love will happen for me at some point when I’m truly ready for it.
I do know love grows. I know what i desire in a person. My heart will tell me when i have found her. David has thought me to be open and engaging with all types of women. I am learning.
It’s good that you are open to learning. It’s good to be open with all types of people because you never know when you’ll meet that person your heart says is her. I’m trying to do that myself.
Shannon…. headed to bed, thanks for talking. J
Jim: Sleep well. Thanks for the xoxo. I really did need it.
xoxoxox
Right back at ya’. xoxoxoxoxo
Hello everybody…and
Joan: hey sweetheart:))
David: I really enjoy the videos you attach to the daily blog!!
Yakub:
Hey there baby—how are you doing?? I am sure “fine” would only touch the surface of your core;)
Well, if i were younger i would search you out sweety. You are definitely a DW graduate of success:))) Have fun and stay sweet.
Fred B;
Ok so what is the B for ??? Booyah, because if you click on your name you end up at a dead end no page to explore??
So that means your lips are non existant and how can you count to less than 0??
Hmmmmmm lets do the math…0+0=0 and that is 0=zero not o=orgasm LOL Even my math mind in all its scramble of numbers..i got your number…LOL
DAVID:
Ok daddio sorry! I will go sleep off my delerium now:))))))))))
….a some women, can orgasm every 8 seconds….
I love it! “A Walking Talking Vibrator” !!!!!????? This is too funny!
Dang! Maybe I need to read a book…
Jim & David,
I guess Shannon G’s name came up on a couple of her posts as just Shannon, which I’ve been using for months now. So, I was not the Shannon who said that she was sick and tired of men asking how many O’s she has had. I guess I will change my name to “Shannon’s View” from now on my posts don’t get confused with with the other Shannon G. I’m the Shannon who always ends with “S” at the end of my post.
Just wanted to clear that up so no one gets me confused with Shannon G.
S
to shannon G
Why did you settle for someone you didn’t love?
Hunter:
It’s a complicated answer. The short version is that I was not feeling too good about myself and I was more afraid of being alone than being with someone I didn’t love. I no longer have that problem.
to shannon G,
One of gods jokes is, making womens brains built to follow a man,,,,,,,, just to keep this place populated,,,, seems like….
Hunter: yes, i agree. that’s why love is so frustrating.
Off course, what a great site and informative posts, I will add backlink – bookmark this site? Regards, Reader.