Comments on: Are You A Talker?

By: escort

escort — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 01:34:24 +0000

David, great post and blog- i enjoyed reading it

By: Sandra

Sandra — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 13:30:31 +0000

The wants and desires of one…When my lover wants me to do something I am open and will give them my attention. Put yourself in their shoes how would you like it when you want something done and they look at you and put you off. Not fair is it.

By: drd

drd — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 01:47:15 +0000

thanks, marina.
i hope you’re right. i’ve known this lady for 30 years, we haven’t been in close touch
for years, but she’s really open about herself, a divorce, and relationships since then.
she’s a great companion, which means a lot to me. we enjoy a lot of the same stuff,
but she’s somewhat shy to get involved with anyone she knew while she was married.
i know most all the same folks, and it doesn’t matter to me. we’ve been having fun, and
have been able to talk about these things a little. i’m pretty fond of her, and doing what
i say is no problem at all.

By: Crystal

Crystal — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 21:34:03 +0000

Hey Jimmi,

Actually, I’m not afraid of him rejecting me. We sort of have an agreement. It’s just an unfamiliar situation and I’m just not that brazen — yet. For some reason I wanted him to initiate things a few nights ago. However, last night I went over to his house, crawled into his bed, undressed him and took what I wanted. He gave it up gladly.

I am hoping he will let me do the same tomorrow night.

By: Marina

Marina — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 11:25:13 +0000

drd,

sounds like you have the right building blocks to a great relationship, she just needs some time to see that you are what you say you are, through your actions.

By: drd

drd — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 03:18:14 +0000

marina,
in a sitiuation i was in not long ago. things were said, but didn’t happen. even little
stuff. now i’m seeing someone who does what they say. it’s like night & day. don’t
always agree, but there’s true communication. the first person was indirect &
evasive. this one’s forward, and even if we don’t agree, things are friendly, and
can be discussed with no problems. she’s shy & a bit scared of “relationships”,
but we do have one, and i’m gonna gently remind her of what we have.

By: Queen Lindsay

Queen Lindsay — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 03:07:24 +0000

I’m a talker but a back it up with being a doer.

By: Marina

Marina — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 00:12:08 +0000

i tend to distrust and slowly detach myself to people who say one thing and don’t do it. It makes you distrust them and you don’t feel like connecting real deep with them. It’s not like a flat out lie, but it show a lot of empty talk and I really don’t like it at all. It’s through your actions not your words you really show your true self.

By: David

David — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 23:50:06 +0000

and what if i ask her, and she says “no”?

By: drd

drd — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 23:45:32 +0000

i try to say just what i think and feel to people. it’s a little harder with someone
i connect with since i tend to just say it and not wait for the right time & place.
for example, i told the lady i’ve been dating, “I’d like to spend more time with just you”.
that’s exactly what i meant, but was taken as meaning i wanted more than she was
ready for. she’s a bit sensitive, and uses the past to “predict” the future and understand
the present. i’m guilty of that myself sometimes. patience is not one of my best
qualities, so now i get to think over just how to say what i want. y’all let me know
a good way to do this & i’ll listen.