So yesterday was my first full day back in the office, and I got to spend most of it at the dentist’s office getting a crown lengthening and a crown. It’s so much fun having your mouth open for four hours! I found that I was fine, until I opened my eyes and actually saw what they were doing: yanking, pulling and scraping. So much fun!
Anyway, back in the office today and have I got some surprises in store for all of you! Check back on Thursday for a HUGE announcement. . .
Are you someone who breaks up with someone on November 3, 2009 at 4:30 pm, and by 4:31 pm on November 3, 2009 you are in another one? Are you someone who goes right from one relationship to the next?
Are you a relationship gypsy? Relationship gypsies are people who spend their entire life in relationships without ever taking a break. When you do that, you are basically bringing your baggage with you to every new relationship.
Another definition of a relationship gypsy is someone who basically dates the same person over and over again, but who thinks they are all different. In reality, though, they are not different at all because you have never taken that necessary “timeout” for yourself in between your relationships.
If I am talking about you, then I want you to think about a few things. Something that I talk about all the time — especially with my coach TK — is how to break the pattern of being a relationship gypsy. By the way, if any of you don’t know TK (Therapist Kim), she is one of my top women’s coaches.
I am actually going to be coming out with a product about this, but the way to stop being a relationship gypsy is to really learn how to spend time with yourself — embracing yourself — so that you will start to attract the right kind of person into your life the next time. This is so important to learn, because relationship gypsy behavior is truly detrimental to you and your life.
If you don’t break the relationship gypsy pattern, you will continue to basically go from house to house, without ever getting your own house in order. Look back at your relationship history. Are you someone who dates the same person over and over again?
So if you want to know more about relationship gypsies, post a comment in the blog today. If you’re not a relationship gypsy then stay tuned, because later in the month we are going to talk about relationship junkies. . .
I am more than a relationship GYPSIES and I want to break that.If you can recall David, I sent you an email that related to that. Looking forward…..Cheers
This is a very interesting blog, David. It seems that our society tells us that unless we are in a relationship, something is wrong with us; we are outcasts. I have nothing against being in relationships; in fact, they can be a great thing; however, sometimes I wonder if we are in a relationship is our life our own. I suppose freedom is scary for those not accustomed to it.
Dave,
I feel ya on that one. It’s sometimes like, if your not in a relationship, there’s something wrong. Like you arent worth being in a relationship with.
Similar to not having a job. It’s easier to find one, if you already have one.
So why don’t people just think for a second, and say “hmmm… why not give this person a shot?”
David, TK, or anyone else have a thought on that?
I am a realtionship junkie wanna be- but in reality I am a freedom junkie. I choose only men who are incapable of having a realtionship- saving me from ever having to deal with a third date let alone a relationship! Seems like the benefit is that I am not carrying consistant baggage- or oh wait- maybe I am….See in or out constant or inconsistant we bring it on.
There’s this girl i started dating almost like 2 years ago, but we never got to be into a relationship because I didn’t feel 100% confortable. We decided to be friends, well this took some time and talking from both parts, and since we are in our 30s, it was done.
But, from time to time, we kind of date, you know, we go out, there’s some makeout, and some sex at the end.. is this considered a gypsy relationship?
There’s some attraction for sure, but at least from my part, I dont feel like having a serious relationship with this woman.
I think taking a set amount of time off between relationships/dating before getting into anything again is healthy as it gives us time to reflect on where and why things went wrong.
No dating, no relationships, just time for yourself and getting used to being single again. Any baggage effect would be nullified as you’re more aware and grounded in who you are before getting into anything again.
I can say I am one but…at 18 I thinks it’s ok to experiment as much as you can BUT I noticed that I can’t manage to pull of anything recently. I got 4 phone numbers and all of them canceled out or didn’t respond. Why do people give out they’re phone numbers if they don’t want to get to know each other?
I know you can get a lot of phone numbers with pick-up crap but I actually did it David style
.Still don’t get it. Anyway I’m gonna write this down .It was a real wakeup call.
Recently I keep a journal but I note everything I learn that day or the things that I remember
Took a lot of time but that post with the window shoping really did the trick.
I think after every relationship, it’s important to take time for yourself to really redefine what you want.
Relationships are really your opportunity to choose whatever kind of person you want to be when in that relationship with the other person. It’s so great!