Are You A Mental Masturbator?
September 17, 2009 
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I rarely ever make a correction to any blog, but I have to tell you something. I can see why some of you are having trouble meeting the opposite sex.
You take things out of context when you read, and if you do it while you’re reading then I know you do it when you’re listening. My blogs are short, but if you want to get the whole message then you have to read them from beginning to end.
I posted a blog the other day that was titled “We’re Pregnant!” I got congratulatory messages all day long on Facebook, on the blog and in my email inbox. If you’d actually read even the first four lines of that blog, however, you would know that Sonja and I aren’t not pregnant and that the blog was about how men use the phrase ‘we’re pregnant.’
Enough about that blog, except that it’s interesting how life is all about perception. Some of you perceived that my girlfriend and I were pregnant.
It was probably the same group of people who don’t listen to what people say, and have difficulty transitioning into deeper, more meaningful conversations with people to whom they are attracted. Life is all about perception, but you’ve got to listen and communicate everything in order to get what you want.
It’s funny. I have someone who works for me who wants to know why they aren’t making more money. It’s not that I’m not paying them well. It’s that they are not doing what they are supposed to be doing (and need to be doing) to earn more.
If they’re not on Skype during the day, I can’t get a hold of them when I need to do so, and they are on the bottom of the sales numbers every month, then I will perceive them as lazy. I will perceive them as not having a good work mindset.
Now, if you want to masturbate the day away, that’s your business. I’m not talking about physically masturbating (although some people do). I am talking about mental masturbation.
People who don’t take action often times are mental masturbators. They’ll mentally masturbate about having great sex, losing that weight, being able to approach the opposite sex, or whatever it may be.
Mental masturbation is no different than physical masturbation. You just get off in a very different way.
You think about the big home you’re going to have, the car you’ll be driving or taking over a business. In reality, though, you’re still the same person who is getting nothing done and who has the same poor work habits.
Life is full of fears, and unfortunately some of us spend more time mentally masturbating away our fears instead of actually doing something about them. It’s no different than masturbating with your hand or a vibrator. Think about it.
Whenever you get off alone, it’s never even close to how good it is to get off with someone with whom you’ve connected. In a work context, whenever you actually accomplish a goal it is always so much better than mentally masturbating it. Approaching actual women and learning how to be confident doing will always feel better than mentally masturbating all the women you want to approach.
Eventually you have to overcome your fear and just do these things. I am a doer, not a talker.
I am not attracted to talkers. I’ll coach them, but I don’t have any friends in my life who are talkers. I surround myself with doers.
With whom do you surround yourself — doers or talkers? Do you surround yourself with a bunch of mental masturbators so you can stroke each other all day long and never get to your destination?
That’s all for this topic. Speaking of stroking, though, today’s video will tell you how to stroke women so they’ll climax like never before. Ahhh…your mind is so dirty right now, but the sexual technique I’m going to show you will stroke women in a place you would have never thought of…
Have a great day!
David I never thought you had a toupee! That’s ridiculous!
I wish you could teach your sense of self-esteem to the non-YouTube bullies that beat up a kid on a bus in Belleville, Illinois this week. If they loved themselves like you teach, this act of violence never would have happened. The sad thing is that Kanye West and Michael Jordan have been getting more exposure than this tragedy. Check it out on YouTube…
Anyway…lookin’ forward to what you’re gonna say once the cleaning crew finishes up!
David! How is it that you always nail it??
I have been surrounding myself with a bunch of mental masturbators. The only thing I want to do with my life is have a band and get gigs. I’m good for it -I got chops! For four years, I have been dealing with a guy that just doesn’t take it so seriously. I have seen people that started out at the same time, and I have been a spectator to their accomplishments, all result of commitment and hard work (that’s 90 percent of talent).
I declare myself guilty of prolonged mental masturbation in the first degree… Hell, I should have the hairiest hands in town! I keep dreaming of getting signed by a record label, playing major gigs, etc, but days go by and I don’t find the support and validation I need. A band is like any old regular table: it can only stand when all four legs share the load…
Anyway, yesterday I got my ears around the latest record by my favorite band. The first song killed me! Here’s a bit of the lyrics (translated from español)
“What will take me to the end
It’s my steps, not the way
Don’t you see you’re always behind
When you’re chasing fate?”
“I won’t feel bad again
If things don’t go my way
I’ve learned to careen
And slam right into the wall
Life drifts away from us
Like the smoke of that train
Like a kiss under the portal
Before I count to ten”
“I won’t feel like a stranger again
Even though I may not know myself
And I won’t love you so much
And I won’t stop loving you again”
These words kicked something open in me. It’s all I can say.
The point is, I am a doer, and I should start attracting some other doers, too. Thanks for this blog!
Diego
Thanks!!!!
I just read your post and really enjoyed your honesty.
Hey David. Like Diego says you hit it on the nail everytime. I was a talker so this brings back memories. As far as the people that surround me, it seems to be in a transition phase. It feels like I have inspired my close friends to stop talking about what they want and ‘wait for the right time’ and to just make it happen! Great video, ‘Kim tells all part 2′. Hello coach Kimberly. Thx David.
I couldn’t agree with you more, David. Just as some men read only the title of your entry, “We’re Pregnant” and proceeded two congratulate you, these same men will only skim the surface of a woman and make assumptions, instead of being curious and getting to know her.
In fairness to men, this is difficult, because it is not their biological mindset. Men’s brains are wired differently. Their instincts are to be focused and make quick decisions on relatively little information. As nurturers and caretakers, women naturally seek connection. But, your work proves that we have the capacity to be more than our biology.
As Kim points out, if a man knows and addresses a woman’s proclivity for connection and communication, he will build sexual trust, and this will allow a woman to relax into her body so that sex is a mind-blowing experience for her AND her partner. There’s a southern saying that goes, “If Mama’s happy, everybody’s happy.” This may sound selfish. Many men will think, “Why can’t Papa be happy?” And I’m not saying a woman isn’t responsible for her own happiness or shouldn’t meet a man halfway. But the fact is, if your woman is happy and feels connected to you, ain’t nothin she won’t do for you in or out of the bedroom. uhh…sorry..getting into character a little too much.
Great topic. Learned lots. I like all the changes you made to your webpage/website.
I’m curious. Beeing in highschool it’s hard to meet actuale people and by that I mean ‘doers’. Most people my age are, how you say, full of ego and all happy and cheerfull on the outside,and miserable on the inside. The bottom line is that most of them don’t actual try new things, they talk about it but never do it:ohh that’s too hard,what who x,y,z say then? and other excuses like that.My friends circle care too much about what other people think about them and don’t to things that maybe they would love.
And another special in a way question.
So you’re in a group:dance studio(my case)and I teach new people to dance and every 2 months comes a diferent set of people. What happenes when you have a fight with the guys that were there before ,cocky ones? By going to that dance class I really meet all kinds of people.BUT what happens when guys who want to get back at me start telling the ones I teach bad things about me? I’m not a bad person, I don’t do mean stuff but some people like me some hate my character.
Do you understand what I mean?Should I defend myself or don’t give a damn?
yo mike that is to true man and i can relate to that cause im in high school as well
That blog totally describes me
I do agree with all of the ideas you have presented in your post. They’re very convincing and will certainly work. Still, the posts are too short for newbies. Could you please extend them a bit from next time? Thanks for the post.
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