Comments on: Are You A Lover or A Fighter?

By: Sean

Sean — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:14:18 +0000

I think having an argument is healthy. Like you say- it’s passion!

If it reaches a point where it gets petty though, like “I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU LEFT THE TOP OFF THE MILK!!”…then some deeper frustration issues are going on.

Love is like any emotion – It can get boring and burn out. I think we all love somebody who has a bit of fire in them.

By: Coach Kimberly

Coach Kimberly — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 06:55:42 +0000

DavidL–This is so common in couples where communication breaks down and it becomes a vicious cycle. The biggest thing is to be true to yourself and communicate what is bothering you. The more you hold inside, the more it builds until suddenly one day she may look at you the wrong way and you explode. Maybe the breakdown is happening more in the WAY things get communicated not necessarily what is said.

By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 01:35:29 +0000

I’m definitely a lover…. but now I’m learning to fight for what I really want

By: Sandra

Sandra — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 23:47:08 +0000

Depends….I like to consider myself as a lover type of person. I have often said I am a lover not a fighter. Also the person you are with are they for you or against you. So if two people are in a relationship and they constantly argue they need to find someone they are more suitable with. Yes even the best of friends argue but the ones who knows they are wrong will ocme up and apologize.

By: DavidL

DavidL — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 23:01:47 +0000

I’m actually the opposite of John, if I open my mouth she’d just get more angry so I don’t say anything. If there was something that irritated me or something that I didn’t like and I wanted to talk about it, she’d get mad at me for getting mad at her, not because of what the topic was.

By: Marina

Marina — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 22:34:59 +0000

Mostly a lover with a lot of forgiveness, but at a certain point if it gets to be too much I more just let go of people and never look back. I would never function in a constant chaos/fightning relationship. Its just not worth it and drains too much. Arguing and disagreeing is fine but not outright fightning, what I
dislike more than anything is dishonesty and bs in a relationship.

By: John

John — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:36:54 +0000

Its facing them is the most difficult part, but I know that i have to, thank you.

By: Coach Jacob

Coach Jacob — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:35:54 +0000

The more you LET your fears take over you the less likely you will speak out. Become aware of all the fears you have, and face them, you will realize that they are just illusion!!!

By: John

John — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:34:16 +0000

Thanks CJ-

You are right that I am not acting on it, I am afraid I might make it worse if I open my mouth, Its my own fears that are holding me back.

By: Coach Jacob

Coach Jacob — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:33:04 +0000

John- You have to decide and act on the things you will not tolerate from women. Invite her to open and honest communication instead of keeping your mouth shut. You have to stand up and speak how you feel if you really want to move things along the right directions.