I do not use lines when i meet women,

So you are not getting the whole message about creating attraction and leaning how to become a great conversationalist.

You are still thinking in terms of pickup and routines.

Did you even do the observation practice and some of the other confidence building methods or did you just try to talk to women and get the numbers.

This takes time and there is no magic pill.

My stuff works it worked with me and thousands of others who follow and trust it.

I feel that you do not trust yourself at all and women sense that.

I have been doing this for a very long time and i have helped Davids like you.

Have you thought of taking a bootcamp?

Back to the point of flaking, my experience has usually been after a few months has passed and I’ve started to become emotionally invested. Mind you, all is still a new relationship and everything is great (I’m not at all overwhelming, as I think space is very important). I guess its hard to explain via this forum… It’s made me gun-shy, I know it’s about letting go — I find it admirable that some people do it so readily and what’s surprising to me I’m getting older, it’s more difficult. It makes me wonder, do I actually gravitate towards those ‘who flake’

You always want to make the person want more of you. You want to engage their imagination and curiosity. If they wonder about you, they’ll want to find out. The only way to find out is by going out with you.

However, connection is pretty important too. If the person doesn’t feel that you are respectable, trustworthy, credible… and genuine in the way you present yourself, they won’t waste their time on finding out. When you have a REAL connection, you can ask for people to commit to you… and that makes planning a whole lot easier.

Taras,

I haven’t seen you talk to girls before, but from the little times I’ve talked to you, I think you should try to convey your identity better. You seem a bit all over the place when you talk to the girls. I saw you jump topics so fast that it didn’t make sense. What were you trying to show through all your stories to the girls?

You want to be grounded… and be more consistent in what you show and tell the girls about yourself.

lol –> the first .. maybe ten or so comments by rey and rich were about flaking! haha, funny conversation!

but seriously, the flaking part. i haven’t been flaked on YET! i haven’t flaked either, but that’s probably because i go out with guys i already know in some way (like through someone, or from work etc), so all the flaking shit would be embarassing

as for letting go on a date.. that’s a whole’nother issue! i feel people are so caught up in feeling that instant sparkle thing at some point during the date, that we tend to focus on THAT as in waiting for it to happen, instead of focusing on our dates..
i believe in second chances, but i believe in them during a date as well…
let go and keep a healthy focus. who knows, if it does not click romantically, you might just find an awesome friend in your date!

Rich congrats on the cougar!