Comments on: Are You A Dating Recycler?

By: Mike-Ro

Mike-Ro — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 10:12:51 +0000

Ok ..BUT David didn’t you say remeber someone from the past and call them and…”you never know”? Isn’t that dating recycling?

So this means , I shouldn’t go back to my ex just because she wants too, it’s a reason we broke up.Problem is we can’t stay friends for too long and then she wants me back.It’s all or nothing for her, wich puts me in a tough situation cause despite her bad parts,when she’s with me,she’s a whole diferent person, I can let out her true self.But I don’t see us working any more

By: Charles

Charles — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 07:20:38 +0000

TK- im not a member on the community site. Your email will work for`now. Thx

By: Coach Kimberly

Coach Kimberly — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:52:31 +0000

charles–are you a member of the community site? I can connect with you there or I can give you my email. Would love to hear how your doing

By: Charles

Charles — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 23:26:33 +0000

TK,
great questions. Ty for your insight. Ill let you know what I come with. How can I reach you?

By: Marc

Marc — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:16:32 +0000

I’ve recycled, knowing full well that it wasn’t going to work the second time either. You get bored and lonely.

By: Coach Kimberly

Coach Kimberly — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:20:50 +0000

Rhonda…so true! People tend to remember more of the positive rather than the negative of their ex over time! In fact, sometimes we idealize them.

Charles–it is hard when you’ve been with someone for a period of time, especially since there is such comfort in being with someone who knows you so well. It always helps in relationships to do a cost-benefit analysis. In this case, do the costs outweigh the benefits or visa versa? What do you get out of this relationship that keeps you going back for more?

By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 03:31:20 +0000

I just love the picture on this blog

By: Miss Mojo

Miss Mojo — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:40:18 +0000

David, I agree with you. Personally, I cut ties when it’s over. There is a reason it didn’t work out in the first place (usually a BIG one).

However, I understand why so many people do it. The distance of time fogs the memory and only the great moments are remembered. Especially the things we miss. For this reason, I tell the men and women I work with to keep a dating journal.

When the truth is “black on white” you CANNOT deny it. Thanks for this much-needed post…

Cheers!
Rhonda

By: Charles

Charles — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:05:56 +0000

Hi David. This blog might be talking about me. I say might because im still trying to figure out if i am recycling the girl that I want to be with right now, since we were in a relationship 2yrs ago for 2yrs. Or maybe im misunderstanding the word ‘date’. I do feel that we connected back then and that the connection has gotten stronger sine we got reacquainted a few months ago. Wait? Maybe this is just in my head since i want to be with her so bad. I love this blog, its helping evaluate my current situation. Thx