Are All Women The Same?
March 19, 2010 
35 Comments
Here is something that I want every guy in the world to remember, and it’s something really important. Once you get this, it is something that will help you to grow immensely.
Here is what I want you to remember: Every woman is wired the exact same way. I don’t care if she is tall, short, fat, skinny, yellow, green, purple, orange or blue. It doesn’t make a difference. Every woman is wired the exact same way.
It is how you look at their mask that determines how most guys talk to them. When you walk up to a woman to whom you are not attracted, she is not thinking “This is guy is talking to me because he is not attracted to me.” What she is thinking is, “I’m a cool girl. This guy is talking to me because I’m a hot and sexy.”
Ask any single woman to set you up with one of her friends, and do you know what she’ll say to you? She will say something like, “I’m going to hook you up with my friend Mary. She’s so cute, it’s unbelievable.” Then you go and pick Mary up for the date, and Mary is not cute at all. When you tell the woman who set you up that you didn’t think Mary was cute at all, she will disagree and say that she is very cute.
Every woman thinks that all of her friends are beautiful. That is because every woman is beautiful.
For every woman out there that you don’t find attractive, there are a ton of guys who will think she’s very attractive. There are a ton of guys out there who will think that woman is hot.
So many guys can walk up to a woman they find unattractive and talk to them with no problem. If those same guys walk up to a woman they find attractive, though, they talk to her like she’s an alien.
Those two women are wired the exact same way. If you can talk to a woman to whom you are not attracted, then you can talk to a woman you think is hot.
Attractive women and unattractive women are are all attractive women to someone. You might look at my girlfriend and not think she is pretty at all. I don’t really care, because I know what I think about her.
So when you approach a woman, you need to remember that if you can talk to any woman then you can talk to all women. I tell guys all the time to go out and flirt with 80 year old women.
Find the ones who are wearing makeup, because they are the ones who still see themselves as the beautiful 20 year old girl they once were. If you can talk to them and be charming, they will smile and laugh with you.
They are no different than the 25 year old woman you want to approach. They’re all the same. That is something that took me a long time to realize. Women are all exactly the same. So if you can talk to one, you can to them all.
If I put masks on every woman out there so that all you could see was long hair, you would never “choke” when you tried to talk to any of them. You’d be able to talk to each and every one of them.
It is only when I took off their masks that you would realize to which ones you are attracted and you would start freaking out. Think about in that hypothetical how silly it is that you freak out when you see a woman you find attractive. You can talk to any woman right now, so go out there and do it!
David what about beautiful women that are snobby? I have approached some women that are REALLY hot, and they act all standoffish like they are all that and respond with one word answers and ignore me.
Maybe that’s what some men are afraid of. They think that these “hot” women know that they’re hot, and will reject anyone who’s not as good looking as they are.
I am writing this quote down on my white board, very important!
Every woman is wired the exact same way. I don’t care if she is tall, short, fat, skinny, yellow, green, purple, orange or blue. It doesn’t make a difference. Every woman is wired the exact same way.
Its very interesting how men gets all chocked up on the presence of a hot woman.
Hahahah that is so true every women really think that, and i never get that.
if you really put a mask one everyone of them, we would do so much better.
I believe for everyone there is someone out there, if we are just open and honest about this.
i rememba sitting at school wen i was 13 and thinking i shud start saying exactly what im thinkin, id b very spontanious and interesing, 12 years on im still struggling 2 do such a simple task,
This is not as hard as we make it to be.
I agree Client we make this shit so hard in our head, and that’s why we fuckup so many times.
Dave-
Very well said, you are responsible for your monkey chatter on one else gives a damn. When is the last time you were in your head?
This mask thing is a great topic to learn from. I believe if we didn’t have any mask we would live our life so fearlessly.
Jacob: I was in my head this morning in starbucks when i really wanted to approach this one blonde. i almost beat myself to death at one point because i didn’t make the approach.
Dave
There is no point in beating yourself to death. We don’t want you to commit suicide over a woman:)
I know its hard sometimes. But you need to become more action oriented instead of thinking too much.
I find that to be true because when i think its almost like i get paralized man, i hate that feeling. You know what i am talking about? i got to become more action orient like you.
Yes David I know exactly what you talking about because i used to feel just like you!
I think women go through the same problem as well, its not just a guy thing.
Really hot women (HB 9 or 10′s)have much more of a “bitch shield” engaged, and are much harder to approach, and engage, in my experience, due to the sheer number of “screenings” required from the volume of attention, and openings, they regualarly get. They may think basically the same as average women, but they are much harder to get a positive response from, than average women. My 2 cents.
Great post! I love the comments, great stuff as well. Let me tell you where im at, I would LOVE some feedback. My approaching as gotten A LOT better. Im starting to get out of my head, and making that initial observation. Now im in these interactions and their going GREAT! Im talking pretty deep connections. They end up closing me sometimes, numbers and emails. Now this is where the problem starts. After coming up with a perfect line, I lob her a text. I know to “Bring her Back to the Moment” with my text, and that initial text gets a nice response. But im having a really bad time at keeping momentum. We send a few witty texts back and forth, then it seems her interest fades. Im really feeling like swearing off texts. I need to feed off energy, and i think i lose something in the texts. With texts i tend to get deep in my head, coming up with the perfect text, it really keeps me from just livin in the moment. So fuck texts, I just call! Set up the date on the first call, then connect with her ENERGY when I see her.
Bob, I dont find that to be true. If you’re opening her with a “line” sure, you’re absolutely right, shes heard them from the best. But if we’re approaching with simply an observation, she really doesnt have a chance/need to activate the “bitch shield.” What I learned about these “Observation Approaches” is it makes you LESS OUTCOME based. Because you’re simply just throwing a observation out there, simple observational question/comment, not really needing anything in return. And if I activate a woman’s bitch shield that Im really attracted to, its usually because I got in my head(where the penis relays his orders) and gave off the wrong energy
Blind guys must get all the great looking women
Great blog,
All women are wired the same. They all want to have a good time. Weither that be 15 seconds or 15 minutes.
I’m really working on my monkey chatter and trying to keep control of my mindset. Today I was at the gym, I saw this hot blond, we made eye-contact, I said Hi, she said nothing, not even a smile back.
Monkey chatter in my head: You see, she does not like you. She just blew you off.
Me talking back to my monkeychatter: Is that really based on reality…I think not man..She probably is just Shy, it has nothing to do with me.
Later on as I was leaving, It started raining hard outside. Hot blonde stands next to me and asks if it has been raining for a while now. I tell her yes and ask her if she is by car or by bike.
She says by bike. We talk for a moment untill it stops raining.
Control the monkeychatter, dont let it control you. Because most of it is not based on reality.
Tantra,
For the benefit of everyone here, how do you feel women go through the same thing?
Yep. All women are the same. They all want me. Some of them just don’t know it yet.
YESSSS….
Collin…you and me speak the same language….hahaha
Like you said, some of them just don’t know it yet
Bob,
Regarding this whole bitch shield… it doesn’t exist!
If you behave as you are part of their group, do you think you’d encounter a bitch shield? “Social barriers” are only there if you are talking to someone you perceive as foreign to your group or to your kind.
So if you feel a girl is hot… if she behaves like she’s hot… do you behave like you are hot?
You have to learn to BE the hot guy… act like the hot guy… People recognize that you are hot by how you behave… and they accept you as such.
Damn Khiem, that one shook me..
Deep.
Niko,
Glad you connected with my previous post.
Now for your texting issues…. are you creating an emotional impact on her with your texts or are you just “chatting”?
When you text, you don’t have your voice tone or your body language to convey what you really mean… what you really feel… so in texts, you have to use punctuation/smiley faces and phrasing to convey your energy, your excitement…. so that she gets excited and intrigued by you.
So how are you inciting, inviting a response from her, without really requiring one from her?
You want to use language that create emotional hooks.
If you are part of our membership site, you can post your text exchanges on there and I can critique those for you.
Good Advice.
I try to always keep my texts intriguing. I just start to get too comfortable with it initially. I think I should just use it to set up an exciting phone call. On that phone call, connect on our lil moments, and set up the date. Just be more agressive, and not so passive. Not always needing confirmation. With a girl I’ve just met, she wouldnt receive my personality thru a text like someone thats been around me many times. Once we’ve hung out a few times, then I can really tease her with the text.
And about the membership site, where do I sign up!? Is this where I can see the Whole Foods videos, and David’s analysis?
You can sign up on the membership site at the top… where it says “Members”… click on that link and follow the instructions to sign up.
And yes.. that’s where we have our exclusive videos of approach break downs or other “leading to a kiss” videos.
F,
If we don’t show them who we are and what makes us so desirable, they’ll never know. Then how will it feel, knowing that there are women out there who will never be fulfilled in life because they never got to know us? Sure, it’s tough, but it’s our burden to carry for being so damn awesome.
Collin, you’re cracking me up!
But yes, men, don’t be afraid to talk to us!
Man, Today I went to a small cafe. There was this girl that I saw at a Taco Palenque like a week before. I taught that she was the hottest girl in the world when I first saw her. Well not hottest but I could see myself with her. I got a great vibe from her. We didnt talk at all though.
I told myself “The next time I see her, which I probably won’t, I will talk to her”. Well guess wat I saw her today at a cafe. What did I do? Nothing, I just stood there next to her, thinking what I would say. As time flew by I realized she was already gone, I was about to talk to her.
Funny how this works. I got a second chance and just threw it to the thrash.
Damn,
Mario
Well thank you Gaby. Any time I can make someone else laugh, it’s well worth the time. However, your second sentiment should be echoed back at ya. Ladies need to not be afraid to approach men.
william’s got the idea hahaha
This is so true. I still get a little bit of it (I used to be terrified of girls in school!), but its totally right, its just a mask.