The answer is in your comment. You need to allow yourself to hang out with other women. It’s one thing for you to care for her but your life should never revolve around ONE person.

You have to find that balance in your life to know when to focus your attention on one person, and know when to distribute your attention.

By hanging out with other people, other women, you’ll gain the perspective you need to know whether you want to continue to only pursue the one girl you like… or whether it’s time for you to let her go because you deserve more, you deserve better.

But at the end of that episode, he was riding the subway again, saw her smiling at him again and decided that despite the crowd of people between them, he was going to make his way down there and talk to her anyway. And that’s what he did.

We never saw the anonymous cutie again on any future episode because the producers & writers decided to create a relationship between he and the new lab girl Lindsey(Carla Belknap). They decided they should create a romance between those two for the show.

As for Question #2, I agree with Coach Kimberly. We let too much get in the way of having real relationships with real people in real time. My last relationship began on MySpace in late 2006 and after a few months with her, she had to move back home. Long story, not going into details. We maintained a close & serious relationship, but eventually after nearly 2 years apart, the distance and the time proved too much. We had often talked by phone, IM, & e-mail, but by December ’08 we finally decided it was time to move on. It was bittersweet, more bitter than sweet for me personally, but I knew it was the best thing for her as well as me. It was mutual. I still think of her very often and miss her from time to time, but I hope she has happily moved on and found a good man near her or had a good man find her. I wish her the best with all my heart! But it was time for me to move on also, which I’ve been in the process of doing for nearly 5 months.

I closed my MySpace account as a way of getting closure. I’m still not on Facebook, but probably will be some day. But here’s the thing, and this is where I really agree & identify with what Kimberly said. Call me old fashioned, but I want to be able to have relationships with people the old fashioned way. IN PERSON!
When I want to contact my friends about going out to the movies or to a sports event or going hiking or whatever else, I pick up the phone and CALL them! Occasionally I’ll e-mail friends, but we usually call each other. We don’t even text! I often texted with that girl, but haven’t since. And honestly, I haven’t missed texting since I’d rather hear a person’s voice and/or see their face. And I don’t think I need to be Twittering or tweeting or whatever for 12 hours a day either.

This afternoon I saw an amazing and super-vivid double rainbow while walking from my car to the supermarket. I enjoyed looking at it and just being in the moment and taking it in and enjoying it. I didn’t feel the need to twitter about it. I’m blogging about it now but am about to wrap up this long-winded message here real soon. And also folks, you need to kick that #^*(()^%$$W# console or PC game addiction too! You’re not developing any real social skills either by shooting at a bunch of pixelated make believe monsters that’s only making Microsoft or EA games richer and you poorer day by day.

I’ll wrap it up by agreeing with Kim again and saying not to let technology & the Information Age get in the way of or becoming a substitute for actual face time with the important people in your life or meeting new people who could become important people in your life.

Don’t fritter & waste the hours of your life in an offhand way. Because one day you’ll find, ten years have got behind you, no one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun…The sun is the same in a relative way, but you’re older. Shorter of breath, but one day closer to death.

Hmmm, that’s a good idea for a song.

But seriously, Carpe Diem, because “Your life is ending one minute at a time.”

The other people in that bus or subway car are not going to care or remember if you get blown off. So be in the moment and take advantage of those moments to make the most out of life.

Blog Two: I was in the same boat with Arlene but life must go on…Sometimes guys even gals look for someone to hold onto…but he needs to be told we had a great time now we must move on or he will possibly get the impression it is okay to go back to Arlene when the chips are down…There are two songs one by Heart: Who will you run to when it all falls down who is going to pick your world off the ground who is going to take away the tears you cry…Second one: Stop Dragging My Heart Around by Stevie Nicks and Tom Petty…

I have a question:
In some relationships I noticed that I even had experienced this is when the person you are with tries to change the person they are with then all of a sudden the man or woman thinks they are boss and tells the other one what to do. In two different situations I call these women battle axes and when I see a woman do a man like this it makes me angry inside and I start to feel sorry for the guy…
Scenario:
This couple came into the store and they had a child that I believe they were going to adopt and the boy was okay but the woman screamed out I keep telling you that you are going to hurt him one day stop it…Now the man was not doing anything out of the way to the child but helping him…But I could also see his embarassment. I thought to myself if I were him I would not adopt that child with her and get away from her…Well I seen the same couple and she was acting the same way but in a lower tone…
Tonight at the store this one couple came up and I asked a question and the woman acted as though she wore the pants in the relationship and ordered the man to do whatever she wanted…I really felt sorry for him for she look like she might carry a whip on her somewhere.
I would like to know what your input on this is…

David’s absolutely right about other people not caring. I met someone on a crowded train once, nobody cared one bit. I was quite forward at one point, and only one person looked over their newspaper.

If you’re the only one in a crowd who is talking and showing some charisma, you own that room!

As for what to say (apart from what David suggested), you’re all there for one reason or another. It could be queuing up for something, waiting for a bus or a train.

Comment on the queue, tell the girl in front how you really hate queues, how you’re allergic to queues, and ask if she would be kind enough to let you go in front of her (with a cheeky grin). Start a silly little flirty argument if she’s stubborn, or get talking to her if she is nice and does let you go ahead.

If you’re both stood up on the train, you could mention how its always too busy to get a seat. If she’s on a seat nowhere near you, you could get out your iPod, switch the hold switch on, and go to her and ask her if she has an iPod or knows how to work one (everyone does). Say how nothing happens when you press the buttons and you can’t work it out, and you hate the song currently playing. She, or some evesdropper, will fix this for you… and you’ve started a conversation about iPods and music.