Approach Anxiety Be Gone!
December 9, 2009 
28 Comments
There is a topic that seems like it never wants to end. Men, women, children, grandparents — virtually everyone — seem to be afflicted with it.
The only thing missing is a Cialis® commercial. Imagine it . . . “Do you suffer from approach anxiety? Take Cialis®. It will cure approach anxiety and give you an erection that will last 36 hours.”
This podcast goes into the mindset that infects 85% of us, i.e., why we are so afraid to approach the opposite sex. I used to feel the same way, until I realized that it was all about my belief system and mindset. I talk all about that in today’s podcast.
I also make a special announcement in the podcast. For those of you who don’t already know, something happened around Thanksgiving that changed my life . . . but you will have to listen to the podcast to find out what that was.
Also, next week I’ll be doing a limited release of a brand new product that deals with overcoming approach anxiety and becoming a master communicator.
This product, however, will only be available to people on my list. It will not be available on my website for sale for months. If you want the opportunity to be able to get one of these special preview copies, and have access to a special offer along with it, then be sure you are on my list so you will get notified when it’s released next week Tuesday.
To listen to today’s podcast, click here:
I knew you’d marry her.
Great podcast, David! I too suffer from approach anxiety, and it’s nice to hear a podcast that doesn’t seem to hold things like that over the listeners’ heads. Hearing things like “you’re a gift” was absolutely beautiful to hear; seriously, it’s nice to hear some positive affirmation for a change! I think what you’re doing will help a lot of people. I know I have a long way to go, but I already feel better about myself for listening to it! Thanks again!
I dont have approach anxiety, but sometimes when i want to approach a girl i fell as if im invading her space, there will be times when i look at a girl and it seems as though she dosent want to be bothered by anybody just left alone
i have female friend thats tell me this stuff all the time about how thy cant go anywhere without some dude hitting on them
Anthony, I think you unknowingly stated what the distinction is between what your girl friends are telling you and what David is saying in this podcast…
There is a difference between approaching a woman and “hitting on her,” which connotes an offensive approach.
I bet if you would ask those same girl friends if they would ever be put off by a guy who made conversation with them or approached them in a genuinely friendly way, that they would have no issues…
Great podcast. I love the positive outlooks you gave. And I never even knew women would approach us men until two days ago. It happened to me, and then you mentioned it. Well, thanks and congrats.
Anthony, your girl friends are basically saying “Guys don’t approach me correctly”
Damn David…
How is it that you always seem to come up with the exact right thing to say, at the same time I am working on that same problem and just getting to the point where I figure it out for myself?
Congrats David. Good podcast!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kevin & Marie
Yeah maybe u both are correct, but at the same time u cannot disagree with what im saying
sometimes women look “pissed off or unapproachable stand offish” while out in public
I have approach anixity, its seems to me, that when david releases a really awesome podcast, i always get it at night time…so i feel really pumped up for meeting girls, but then after i go to bed and wake up in the morning, my drunken monkey chatter starts up, and says…”This is not going to be a good day for myself to meet girls, and with the ideas and tips from david wygant, arnt going to work” dam Drunken monkey chatter….i just think that best thing for me, is to go to one of david’s bootcamp (Y)
Thanks for the advise david!!!!! keep up the good work!
Joel M
Congrats David on your engagment!!!! ‘Unknown self inflicted disease’, amazing podcast. Thx.
Anthony…then find someone else to approach.
Kevin,
I loved your comment on how Anthony’s girl friends are saying “Guys aren’t approaching me correctly”.
That’s absolutely true!
When you approach and talk casually to a woman, she doesn’t think of you as hitting on them. She welcomes the interruption and the stimulation conversation.
Guys who TRY to hit on girls… are the ones that are doing it wrong… and therefore are being put in the “annoying” category.
If you are doing it right, women loves your company.
awesome podcast!!
Khiem,
Are you saying that the guys that approach just wanting to get with the girl are put in the annoying category? As opposed to guys who are genuinely interested and natural and just want to have a conversation?
What kind of things can you ask in the hallway at school (I’m a senior in high school)? “Hey, how are you?” “how was class?”
Congratulations David and thanks for another amazing podcast!
Good luck to you and your future adventures!
Man this really opens up my eyes. This is exactly what I got to do change my belief system cause right now its not great at all. Got to stop my anxiety from letting me have a great life and just go along with what I feel and not what I think. In the end
“Common sense is your worst enemy in meeting women”
Ditto to what Khiem said. Women love when men strike up a conversation naturally when it seems REAL and in the moment. When the comments are congruent with what is happening and not some random statements that come across as awkward or phony. Talk to us like how you would talk to anyone and more importantly….LISTEN!
The thing is that years of untamed monkey chatter eventually forms negative beliefs in your subconcious. When you go to approach a woman your mind automatically triggers those negative beliefs, so that even if you do acheive a fairly thought-free state of mind the underlying beliefs are still running their destructive programs in your subconcious and recalling those feelings on anxiety, inferiority, and lack of control.
I think clearing your mind of monkey chatter is extremely important but if those beliefs don’t change then ‘real’ changes wont happen.
oh yeah and big congrats on your engagement David
Thanx for the complient Khiem..btw…”Wanna Race?”
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In the words of Dr Wayne Dyer:
“Change the way you look at things at the things you look at change.”
*Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at, change
Congrats David….wish you the best!
Congratulatins David, I hope this time it works for good. All the best to you both.
respect everyone and everyone will respect you.
-Confucius
respecting everyone like children, men, women etc. if you approach anyone approach them with respect and not say anything offensive or too sexual and you will get enough respect back when you are respectful. but if you are disrespectful that is the only way you could really actually be rejected by anyone.
Congrats David, good luck! YOU DA MAN!
Eric,
I’m far from an expert, but here’s my opinion anyways. I feel like, “How are you?” and, “How was class?” are empty phrases. The answer to either one will inevitably be, “Good. You(rs)?” Before you know it, you’re right back where you started, trying to come up with something else to ask. And how many people are going to ask that girl the same question? Five? Ten?
Commenting on the scarf or shoes she’s wearing, the books she’s carrying, the earrings she has on, that giant purse she’s hauling, the kid who just got tripped, or anything that stands out is going to be different. From there, you just have to go with the conversation, joking around, poking a little fun at her, and getting to know her. The hallway between classes is great since it’s completely natural to say, “Hey I’ve gotta run to class. Give me your number and we’ll continue this conversation later,” or something similar.
Hope this helps!