Comments on: An Open Letter To All Women: Lay Off The Vibrators! http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Thu, 17 May 2012 06:51:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Amber http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-42445 Amber Mon, 23 Aug 2010 08:38:18 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-42445 David, I don't know where you are getting your medical information from, but her inability to orgasm without the use of a vibrator has nothing to do with the vibrator. They do not desensitize a woman, except perhaps after direct use. Her problems are either psychological, or perhaps her lover doesn't possess the skill, or hasn't figured out how to make her come yet. This is not entirely his fault, it is the woman's responsibility to make sure she orgasms from sex. If he won't accommodate her communication, then maybe you should lay off the man instead. Every bit of information I've ever read about the issue tells women to get a vibrator in order to increase stimulation and sensitivity in that area. However, if she's used to arriving at orgasm with her vibrator, and it feels like it's a problem, get one with multiple settings. Get another one and alternate. Use your hand today and the vibrator tomorrow. More vibrators, David, not less. This is the answer. And really, if it's her orgasm that's the goal, then, well, put the thing in your hand and use it on her yourself. David, I don’t know where you are getting your medical information from, but her inability to orgasm without the use of a vibrator has nothing to do with the vibrator. They do not desensitize a woman, except perhaps after direct use. Her problems are either psychological, or perhaps her lover doesn’t possess the skill, or hasn’t figured out how to make her come yet. This is not entirely his fault, it is the woman’s responsibility to make sure she orgasms from sex. If he won’t accommodate her communication, then maybe you should lay off the man instead. Every bit of information I’ve ever read about the issue tells women to get a vibrator in order to increase stimulation and sensitivity in that area. However, if she’s used to arriving at orgasm with her vibrator, and it feels like it’s a problem, get one with multiple settings. Get another one and alternate. Use your hand today and the vibrator tomorrow. More vibrators, David, not less. This is the answer. And really, if it’s her orgasm that’s the goal, then, well, put the thing in your hand and use it on her yourself.

]]> By: Derringer http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-28765 Derringer Tue, 16 Jun 2009 00:15:09 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-28765 Here is another situation that might cause women to rely on their vibrators. Men get upset if a woman teases them, flirting and talking about sex but never gives in to them. Well what about men doing this to women? I actually have a man who keeps talking about it, sending sexual pictures of himself and everytime I call him on it, he's not available. So what's up with that? Is this some kind of pay back for a woman who has done him wrong? He tells me he likes all this flirting and teasing, that it really turns him on and can't wait until we are really together. This has been going on now for a few months and we have kind of dated for a year. So of coarse when he gets me all aroused and then doesn't take care of business; then I want to turn to my reliable vibrator! I ready to tell him to take a hike!!!! Here is another situation that might cause women to rely on their vibrators. Men get upset if a woman teases them, flirting and talking about sex but never gives in to them. Well what about men doing this to women? I actually have a man who keeps talking about it, sending sexual pictures of himself and everytime I call him on it, he’s not available. So what’s up with that? Is this some kind of pay back for a woman who has done him wrong? He tells me he likes all this flirting and teasing, that it really turns him on and can’t wait until we are really together. This has been going on now for a few months and we have kind of dated for a year. So of coarse when he gets me all aroused and then doesn’t take care of business; then I want to turn to my reliable vibrator! I ready to tell him to take a hike!!!!

]]> By: Justine http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-28731 Justine Mon, 15 Jun 2009 21:18:14 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-28731 If a man doesn't know a woman is using a vibrator (like on off days when they are not together), then does it matter? I'll give it up when my man gives up porn. And really does it matter? As long as when you are BOTH present with each other when you are together. ;-) If a man doesn’t know a woman is using a vibrator (like on off days when they are not together), then does it matter? I’ll give it up when my man gives up porn. And really does it matter? As long as when you are BOTH present with each other when you are together. ;-)

]]> By: hunter http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-28677 hunter Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:01:56 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-28677 Derringer, I've heard of one such story, where a woman is seeing five men.... Derringer, I’ve heard of one such story, where a woman is seeing five men….

]]> By: hunter http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-28673 hunter Sat, 13 Jun 2009 16:09:55 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-28673 Some grumpy, grouchy, women, need vibrators...LOL!.. Some grumpy, grouchy, women, need vibrators…LOL!..

]]> By: Derringer http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-28670 Derringer Sat, 13 Jun 2009 15:25:04 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-28670 Hello, I am new to this site and find this very interesting because I actually was discussing this same topic with my friend. I was telling her that if one of my man friends didn't become available, I was going to become reliable on my vibrator! The thing is, I would think in todays world that it would be accepted for women to be like men, able to have different men in their lives strictly for sex! (safe sex) Hello, I am new to this site and find this very interesting because I actually was discussing this same topic with my friend. I was telling her that if one of my man friends didn’t become available, I was going to become reliable on my vibrator!
The thing is, I would think in todays world that it would be accepted for women to be like men, able to have different men in their lives strictly for sex! (safe sex)

]]> By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-28606 Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) Thu, 11 Jun 2009 19:39:16 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-28606 Bradley, I commend you for trying to give your woman an orgasm first but I think you need to learn to let go of the goal. You are creating undue pressure on yourself by attaching your sense of self-worth on whether or not you can give her an orgasm. The way for you to truly enjoy sex... and for her to truly enjoy sex... is to make the sex an experience of its own... an exploratory journey of how you can both enjoy each other's body. It should be about playing and stimulating both her body and mind, rather than a sheer physical practice of licking one part or two parts of her body. You have to engage and arouse both her mind and body... and if you focus on the process of arousing her properly, the orgasm will come naturally. Stop focusing so much on the end goal. A woman can STILL have great sex if she doesn't come as long as she knows you are giving her adequate time in exploring her as a woman. Bradley,

I commend you for trying to give your woman an orgasm first but I think you need to learn to let go of the goal. You are creating undue pressure on yourself by attaching your sense of self-worth on whether or not you can give her an orgasm.

The way for you to truly enjoy sex… and for her to truly enjoy sex… is to make the sex an experience of its own… an exploratory journey of how you can both enjoy each other’s body.

It should be about playing and stimulating both her body and mind, rather than a sheer physical practice of licking one part or two parts of her body.

You have to engage and arouse both her mind and body… and if you focus on the process of arousing her properly, the orgasm will come naturally.

Stop focusing so much on the end goal. A woman can STILL have great sex if she doesn’t come as long as she knows you are giving her adequate time in exploring her as a woman.

]]> By: Bradley http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-28591 Bradley Thu, 11 Jun 2009 11:08:25 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-28591 I agree! I love for my woman to have an orgasm but it is so hard to make it happen at times. After spending huge amounts of time down there the mood tends to go away when your tongue is cramping from licking so hard and so much. Sex is the same. I want my woman to have her orgasm first then I can relax and have mine. If she doesn't it makes me feel insecure because I couldn't please my woman. Like I wasn't good enough! I agree! I love for my woman to have an orgasm but it is so hard to make it happen at times. After spending huge amounts of time down there the mood tends to go away when your tongue is cramping from licking so hard and so much. Sex is the same. I want my woman to have her orgasm first then I can relax and have mine. If she doesn’t it makes me feel insecure because I couldn’t please my woman. Like I wasn’t good enough!

]]> By: WM http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-28508 WM Wed, 10 Jun 2009 06:38:23 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-28508 When I'm reading the first two pharagraphs, David... I thought you're talking about Sonja, hahaha... But I thought how could this be? Then, I saw "Daphne", and was relieved. =D Right on, Khiem! No machines can feel better to women, than a man. When I first heard Coldplay's music, I thought it was so gay. But there was a retirement ceremony for one of our teachers, our class need to sing "Fix You" on stage, so we kept practicing together... It really bond us together, I felt like we're just one big family... And strangely, I got hooked to Coldplay. =D When I’m reading the first two pharagraphs, David… I thought you’re talking about Sonja, hahaha… But I thought how could this be? Then, I saw “Daphne”, and was relieved. =D

Right on, Khiem! No machines can feel better to women, than a man.

When I first heard Coldplay’s music, I thought it was so gay. But there was a retirement ceremony for one of our teachers, our class need to sing “Fix You” on stage, so we kept practicing together… It really bond us together, I felt like we’re just one big family… And strangely, I got hooked to Coldplay. =D

]]> By: Barrett http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-all-women-lay-off-the-vibrators/1696/#comment-28504 Barrett Wed, 10 Jun 2009 04:14:31 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1696#comment-28504 Artificial stimulation can make it harder to enjoy the natural stuff for sure but like you said when you don't have non-mechanical stimulation it isn't bad to have a vibrator to take care of business. It is a great idea to lay off the tools when entering a new relationship to really give the sexual experience the full effect. Artificial stimulation can make it harder to enjoy the natural stuff for sure but like you said when you don’t have non-mechanical stimulation it isn’t bad to have a vibrator to take care of business. It is a great idea to lay off the tools when entering a new relationship to really give the sexual experience the full effect.

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