Comments on: A Letter To David Letterman . . . And To You http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Thu, 17 May 2012 06:51:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: runescape hack http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-33547 runescape hack Thu, 26 Nov 2009 15:12:54 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-33547 great view I agree great view I agree

]]> By: horsegirl http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-33223 horsegirl Fri, 13 Nov 2009 17:31:02 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-33223 .... to clarify - my point in writing the above is because I want to change my actions/reactions in a positive way before it does lead to his cheating (if he hasn't already which would explain alot). Thanks …. to clarify – my point in writing the above is because I want to change my actions/reactions in a positive way before it does lead to his cheating (if he hasn’t already which would explain alot). Thanks

]]> By: horsegirl http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-33222 horsegirl Fri, 13 Nov 2009 17:28:27 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-33222 I just came across this subject. I want to comment even though it's a month old. I agree and understand how the one cheated on can be a part or all of the problem. And, I agree that sometimes the 'fix' begins with the 'victim' of cheating. However, I have been cheated on (plural) and I know what I did in at least one instance that 'helped' it be 'okay' for him to do it. In another situation though I was showing my desire for him sexually (and overall) and wasn't holding back letting him know I thought he was "all that" to me. When he started rebuffing my advances and turning me down, acting uninterested,etc. (repeatedly)then I began to feel hurt, rejected and confused about what was wrong. His excuse was "I'm just comfortable with our relationship". Okay, I can accept that to a point, but I wasn't getting the reassurance in any other way to replace the 'honeymoon phase' of our sex life. I felt very undesirable and that in turn led to wondering if he was getting his needs met somewhere else. He was always 'tired', had to get up early, etc. I'm still with him (3 1/2 years), but to save my self-esteem and to avoid 'beating a dead horse' have been thinking of ending it. We don't live together and that has been a sticking point also. I really miss coming home and waking up with (sharing my life with) the person I love. I am open to suggestions as to what I can do to change my approach to 'fixing' our sex life or to change my reaction to the whole issue. I know part of them problem must be mine - it takes two to make a relationship succeed or fail. Thanks for reading my addition to this subject and for any constructive critism offered. I just came across this subject. I want to comment even though it’s a month old. I agree and understand how the one cheated on can be a part or all of the problem. And, I agree that sometimes the ‘fix’ begins with the ‘victim’ of cheating. However, I have been cheated on (plural) and I know what I did in at least one instance that ‘helped’ it be ‘okay’ for him to do it. In another situation though I was showing my desire for him sexually (and overall) and wasn’t holding back letting him know I thought he was “all that” to me. When he started rebuffing my advances and turning me down, acting uninterested,etc. (repeatedly)then I began to feel hurt, rejected and confused about what was wrong. His excuse was “I’m just comfortable with our relationship”. Okay, I can accept that to a point, but I wasn’t getting the reassurance in any other way to replace the ‘honeymoon phase’ of our sex life. I felt very undesirable and that in turn led to wondering if he was getting his needs met somewhere else. He was always ‘tired’, had to get up early, etc. I’m still with him (3 1/2 years), but to save my self-esteem and to avoid ‘beating a dead horse’ have been thinking of ending it. We don’t live together and that has been a sticking point also. I really miss coming home and waking up with (sharing my life with) the person I love. I am open to suggestions as to what I can do to change my approach to ‘fixing’ our sex life or to change my reaction to the whole issue. I know part of them problem must be mine – it takes two to make a relationship succeed or fail. Thanks for reading my addition to this subject and for any constructive critism offered.

]]> By: Shannon http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-32212 Shannon Fri, 09 Oct 2009 00:00:50 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-32212 It must have been really wearing on his soul for him to just come out and say that. shocking to everyone. This won't go away for a while, I'm afraid. It must have been really wearing on his soul for him to just come out and say that. shocking to everyone. This won’t go away for a while, I’m afraid.

]]> By: Crystal http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-32205 Crystal Thu, 08 Oct 2009 18:25:21 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-32205 Hey Amy, your post made me think of something. I have noticed that a lot of times men don't want to t communicate about something because they don't want to be the bad guy or they don't want to do something that might make the woman overly emotional (some guys just don't know what the hell to do if we start crying). But, the result of this avoidance is that the guy becomes the bad guy in the situation because fearful avoidance is an asshole move. It also causes women to become more emotional that we would have otherwise. In fact, men avoiding the situation is usually what brings out the crazy bitch or crazy ex-girlfriend in me. (And by the way fellas every girl is capeable of becomeing a crazy bitch or a crazy ex-girlfriend and it is usually in direct response to something a man has done, or neglected to do to us.) When all is said and done telling the truth early and often to the significant people in your life is the best way to avoid drama, pain and bad situations. Hey Amy, your post made me think of something. I have noticed that a lot of times men don’t want to t communicate about something because they don’t want to be the bad guy or they don’t want to do something that might make the woman overly emotional (some guys just don’t know what the hell to do if we start crying). But, the result of this avoidance is that the guy becomes the bad guy in the situation because fearful avoidance is an asshole move. It also causes women to become more emotional that we would have otherwise. In fact, men avoiding the situation is usually what brings out the crazy bitch or crazy ex-girlfriend in me. (And by the way fellas every girl is capeable of becomeing a crazy bitch or a crazy ex-girlfriend and it is usually in direct response to something a man has done, or neglected to do to us.)

When all is said and done telling the truth early and often to the significant people in your life is the best way to avoid drama, pain and bad situations.

]]> By: Charles http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-32201 Charles Thu, 08 Oct 2009 13:51:57 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-32201 Amy- 'I’m not a carton of eggs- I can handle it!' Great analogy. Love it. Ive found that a lot of women can handle it, but of course how the topic is approached is crucial. Amy- ‘I’m not a carton of eggs- I can handle it!’ Great analogy. Love it. Ive found that a lot of women can handle it, but of course how the topic is approached is crucial.

]]> By: Alex http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-32198 Alex Thu, 08 Oct 2009 08:41:38 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-32198 Dear David, My name is Alex and I live in Sydney,Australia! I've been married for 10 years and separated for 2 years, and at the end 2 days before the court for divorce she came out openly that she was dating another man much before! I was totaly devasteted and hurt to the deep of my soul!However for the last 2 years we've been separated i was trying all my best to get back with her,making communications talk about marriage how to work and to leave happily ever after,but she refused to cause of her parents and especialy her mother(i couldn't get along with them at all),and after the 4 great little angels of ours,all boys that is,we are now waiting for divorce papers from the court! However when comes to this man i think he was the one listening what she has to say and she felt more comfortable around him,as kim said over coffe for start and the relationship has progresed with him on the deeper level! I was and I admit that i wasn't good listener at the time and i was avoiding her most of the time,not that didn't want to,but cause of hard work i was doing and her parents medling in our marriage! Anyway when comes to this man,he was actually dating my wife and was cheating at the same time behind the girl he was going out with!And his ex girlfriend told me everything about him,but the funny part is that she is my girlfriend now!And I am thinking what have i've done? I wasnt with my self at all during our marriage but now i see many things and I have change a lot,and I will try to do everything to get us back together! The problem is i will need all the resources i can get,including some of yours and Kims advice! Please,please help! Even that we are got dovorced now not officialy yet,but I hope in my heart I can still turn the things around! Anyway,enough of me winging, so I will be glad if you can shoot me with some ideas or advices! Many thanks, Alex Sydney,Australia Dear David,
My name is Alex and I live in Sydney,Australia!
I’ve been married for 10 years and separated for 2 years, and at the end 2 days before the court for divorce she came out openly that she was dating another man much before!
I was totaly devasteted and hurt to the deep of my soul!However for the last 2 years we’ve been separated i was trying all my best to get back with her,making communications talk about marriage how to work and to leave happily ever after,but she refused to cause of her parents and especialy her mother(i couldn’t get along with them at all),and after the 4 great little angels of ours,all boys that is,we are now waiting for divorce papers from the court!
However when comes to this man i think he was the one listening what she has to say and she felt more comfortable around him,as kim said over coffe for start and the relationship has progresed with him on the deeper level!
I was and I admit that i wasn’t good listener at the time and i was avoiding her most of the time,not that didn’t want to,but cause of hard work i was doing and her parents medling in our marriage!
Anyway when comes to this man,he was actually dating my wife and was cheating at the same time behind the girl he was going out with!And his ex girlfriend told me everything about him,but the funny part is that she is my girlfriend now!And I am thinking what have i’ve done?
I wasnt with my self at all during our marriage but now i see many things and I have change a lot,and I will try to do everything to get us back together!
The problem is i will need all the resources i can get,including some of yours and Kims advice!
Please,please help!
Even that we are got dovorced now not officialy yet,but I hope in my heart I can still turn the things around!
Anyway,enough of me winging,
so I will be glad if you can shoot me with some ideas or advices!
Many thanks,
Alex
Sydney,Australia

]]> By: Amy http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-32196 Amy Thu, 08 Oct 2009 06:01:30 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-32196 I've never been cheated on, but this reminds me of other forms of douchebaggery I've experienced. When I think of it, lack of communication was involved on those occasions as well. One thing I still can't fathom is why a guy would just stop talking to me and end it instead of talk to me about what he's thinking and let me know if I need to do something differently. I'm not a carton of eggs- I can handle it! I’ve never been cheated on, but this reminds me of other forms of douchebaggery I’ve experienced. When I think of it, lack of communication was involved on those occasions as well. One thing I still can’t fathom is why a guy would just stop talking to me and end it instead of talk to me about what he’s thinking and let me know if I need to do something differently. I’m not a carton of eggs- I can handle it!

]]> By: CB http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-32195 CB Thu, 08 Oct 2009 00:28:21 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-32195 Couldnt be more right on with the podcast. intiating that Honest communication on the brink of a relationship that could be potentially failing will reveal plenty on what the next move should be! in the past i have cheated. my reasons for cheating were due to the fact that the sexual desire/passion i wanted wasnt there. i had noticed my pattern, and looked deeper and realized i was getting involved with people too soon. itd get dull, and i'd cheat. THATS a gauranteed way to have someone Never talk to u again, right? i have learned that i was getting involved to fast, theyd fall in love, etc..i find the new approach i have is healthier. Though its not easy or my typical pattern, i now take my time for sex and have communication get impeccably strong. I feel this is due to me realizing sex isnt the most important thing. i rather be open and honest and share my goals and aspirations with someone, as opposed to sex them and get bored too soon. ps. I really enjoy reading your emails, David. Couldnt be more right on with the podcast. intiating that Honest communication on the brink of a relationship that could be potentially failing will reveal plenty on what the next move should be! in the past i have cheated. my reasons for cheating were due to the fact that the sexual desire/passion i wanted wasnt there. i had noticed my pattern, and looked deeper and realized i was getting involved with people too soon. itd get dull, and i’d cheat. THATS a gauranteed way to have someone Never talk to u again, right? i have learned that i was getting involved to fast, theyd fall in love, etc..i find the new approach i have is healthier. Though its not easy or my typical pattern, i now take my time for sex and have communication get impeccably strong. I feel this is due to me realizing sex isnt the most important thing. i rather be open and honest and share my goals and aspirations with someone, as opposed to sex them and get bored too soon.
ps. I really enjoy reading your emails, David.

]]> By: Crystal http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-letter-to-david-letterman-and-to-you/2277/#comment-32192 Crystal Wed, 07 Oct 2009 21:21:22 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2277#comment-32192 I have never cheated on a significant other. I was cheated on once -- by my first boyfriend back in high school. I broke up with him immediately, no excuses. and no one has cheated on me since. To avoid cheating: don't do or say anything you wouldn't want your significant other to know about. If you are doing things they wouldn't like or you wouldn't want them to know about you may not be cheating yet, but it is the kind of behavior that will lead to cheating. I have never cheated on a significant other. I was cheated on once — by my first boyfriend back in high school. I broke up with him immediately, no excuses. and no one has cheated on me since.

To avoid cheating: don’t do or say anything you wouldn’t want your significant other to know about.

If you are doing things they wouldn’t like or you wouldn’t want them to know about you may not be cheating yet, but it is the kind of behavior that will lead to cheating.

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