Comments on: 6 Relationship-Ending Dating Behaviors

By: jmnnen

jmnnen — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 12:48:16 +0000

ooohhh that is the good advice to all…

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 27 Apr 2011 02:45:45 +0000

Cheaters always want to maintain their “privacy.” I knew my ex wife’s passwords into her email and Facebook accounts. Then one day she changed them. She started guarding her cell phone…

You never want to start out snooping on someone. But when the evidence starts piling up, you have to check into things to protect yourself.

How are you supposed to find out? When you catch the STD from her new lover that he lied to HER about? This happens in the real world…

By: Lori

Lori — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 22:04:46 +0000

I disagree strongly with 1,3 and 4. If our intuition and their actions are telling us something is “off”, it needs to be checked out. In two relationships I have had, when things quit adding up and I knew something wasn’t right, I looked at emails. Man, did I ever find out things I wish I had known from the start – if I had known I never would have even entertained the idea of a relationship with these guys! Both were liars and one was also a cheater! They both hid it quite well for about 3 years! And yes, they lied; otherwise I never would have had to go to those lengths to find out.
However, I am not talking about someone you have just begun dating. That would be creepy. The first relationship that this happened to me was with someone I had met on an online dating site; the second time it happened was with someone I had known for 15 years before we ever started dating, and I thought he was the most wonderful guy on the planet before I found out he was leading a dual life.

By: Rich

Rich — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 12:23:32 +0000

This is stupid advice. My wife was a flight attendant, about 5 years into our marriage started taking pilots (yes married too) with her on her layovers. I was killing myself to make her happy, but nothing ever did. For $40 I bought a keystroke recorder and finally found out the truth, which she was too weak to tell me. She was a skilled cheater, and I never would have caught her without it. Best $40 I ever spent.

Take it from me – information is a good thing. I would still be married to that whore otherwise, slaving away to buy her crap in a vain attempt to make her happy. You have to be discreet (she still doesn’t know how I found out), but you will never know a person’s character without checking. Be prepared to read things you won’t like.

By: Natalie I. Bishop

Natalie I. Bishop — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 08:59:41 +0000

Very interesting to read it

By: Dan

Dan — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 19:25:53 +0000

Good advice.

By: Pete

Pete — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 23:51:08 +0000

David nice blog thanks for all the tips but what happens when you want the girls who’s playing sex questions with you on facebook to move it on to phone and then eventually meet her?

By: Kay

Kay — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 16:14:53 +0000

You know, I’m *never* been in a relationship where I was even tempted to snoop or play detective. I do think, though, that it must be more tempting when you’ve gotten yourself intimate with someone you don’t know all that well in the first place.

By: Luis

Luis — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 01:26:30 +0000

The persons who do this have major issues of insecurity .They spend time ,money and energy looking for some one .. And when they find it they don’t know how to keep the relationship going . Most of the so call dating gurus talk about how to meet and open up women.. By the way how do you open them up do you use a chain saw or a can opener lol and it’s crazy how this people want to control their partner but can’t control there emotions and there insecurityS. What happens whe you try to help a love one with an addiction when your on their back all the time? What happens is that the more you care and try to help them the
ore you push them away .. In relationships is the same thing the more you want to know where they are all the time and to Who they are talking too. I know what some of you say. I’m doing it becouse I love you and care for you or I worried about you. Come on people you aren’t dating a little kid that is going to get lost or get kidnap ..And about lying in some cases they make you lie to them. The minute you tell them the truth they go off on you asking you more quetions .. For exemple if my girlfriend calls me and I happen to be in acombersation with some . She the minute I call her back she asks why I didn’t answer her call. If I tell her that I dint hear the phone ring it will be the end of the discution, and If I tell her the truth she ask who was it is the person is more important than Her. So let’s apresiate all of those people around us who tell us the truth even if we don’t like it.

By: Justin

Justin — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 21:51:46 +0000

Good luck meeting the family, David.

Great blog on how not to be creepy. I’d never do any of these myself, but you hear of people who do.

Just to complicate this issue, I would say it would be acceptable to break most of these if you genuinely think it would keep your partner out of harm’s way. For example not mentioning, or lying, to someone that their son has died while they are driving; I see as acceptable and appropriate.

What do you all think?