Comments on: 6 Dating Behaviors Guaranteed To Scare Men Away

By: vallery

vallery — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 06:19:48 +0000

why nobody thinks that a woman can fall in love fast,and it is after few dates and sex,we know it from the moment we meet the man.when in love you become mad,possesive and everything wrong you mentioned.so the men who run from this 6 points are really running from love,which they probably didn,t want when they met us.maybe they were just for a bit of fun and sex.it really hurts a lot behaving by the rules,like a dog who expects a treat ,after behaving and does what is expected of him.we are not animals and there are no rules.why shouldn,t i trash my ex,if he was a monster,it doesn,t mean a am a bad person for choosing somebody wrong.maybe he was great and external circumstances we have no power upon changed everything,and men should be happy if we became clingy and possesive,if not it really means we don,t care about them.it,s of course if they really like us,not just a piece of ass.it,s all so stupid,should i call,will he call.i have been married twice and believe me we all know when we are in love and there are no rules.

By: akinware michael

akinware michael — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 11:37:31 +0000

sincerely am so happy that i stumbled on this article at the time i am not happy about my getting ready to marry relationship with my fiancee. point #2 as been the most obstacle btwn us and is separating us now. i made up my mind to send a copy of printable sheet to her may be she will learn from it. thank you so much, i am the most blessed man on earth now.
more so i wont mind if you can link me up with a christian lady at 28-30, who is ready to get marry. i am a nigeria and a pastor at 33. my mail is : michaelakinware@yahoo.com
thanks

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 01:08:15 +0000

: ) Why not, let’s give it a go. Thanx, Ken.

By: Ken E.

Ken E. — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 00:29:46 +0000

When I went to college my mom’s father moved in. (They added a room for him.) But he contributed as he could… did the cooking, kept the garage and deck clean, and gardened in the summer… He read the paper and like to watch the news in different languages… After he died my Dad’s parents moved into the room. While they could have helped, they decided they were to old and needed to be taken care of… you might say a bit more stressful for all…

Find that sitter… And fix up the bedroom – for your own enjoyment… See if your husband will try something for a week… Do a spoof on a new couple crazy about each other. See how outrageous the two of you can be given the circumstances… Try to go overboard and have fun with it without regard to the actual state of feelings for the other person. LIke you’re in a play, but improv.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 19:28:20 +0000

Ken….you’re right. It hits me when you asked if I wanted it or if I feel it’s missing. I hate to admit it but I begin to feel no attraction for him in the recent years. It certainly didn’t help things at all now that his parents have moved in with us, PERMANENTLY. Forget weekend getaways, we have to FIND a sitter for them. Forget table for 2 on the weekends, let’s make it four now.

By: Ken E.

Ken E. — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 15:52:29 +0000

David,
While I may be wrong, I don’t believe STD’s played a large role in historical evolution. I believe they’re more recent. (I’m open to someone educating me to the contrary.)

I also believe staying together is more about child rearing than child making… Keep in mind that people are now living decades longer than in the past; and “adulthood” has moved from puberty (sexual maturity), to self sufficiency sometime in the 20′s. It appears that as you indicated our genetic past had both. While some people would like to compare people to either chimps or bonobos, I think it’s a both/and…

Lisa,
You indicate that other men give you hot looks, but you husband only does when he has one thing on his mind… I suspect those other men have the same thing on their mind when they’re giving you those looks, but you’re not around them the rest of the time.

If you’d like some heat in your marriage, I’m sure you’re capable of turning it up. If YOU feel it’s missing, YOU can do something about it…

“…only when he wants…”
Do you want it with him??? Is your home a library or a sensual sanctuary? Do you know anyone who “wants” to be worrying about work at home? Teach him how to take his mind off of it…

By: David

David — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 14:26:59 +0000

Lisa-

Marriage is an outdated concept, created for mate retention. From an evolutionary perspective, it was a tool to reduce the possibility of STDs from multiple, unknown partners as well as to secure a sexual resource in order to pass your own genes along. Otherwise, someone else’s genes may be passed along unknowingly (from a males perspective). It’s a very patriarchal concept, and it’s confusing because humans were designed for both monogamy and polygamy (through physical traits such as genitals but also for emotions that you mentioned like lust and jealousy, which conflict with each other).

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 04:56:06 +0000

My question to all the men out there is…I’m in my early thirties and been with my husband for 14 years now. In recent years, the only time he’ll look at me is when he wants you know what. He hadn’t given me that HOT look for years now. However, I’ve been receiving lots of HOT looks from other men all the time. We no longer have the passion, sparks, chemistry, etc. AND we don’t have any kids yet. I’ve tried talking to him and he saids he loves me but he’s just tired and pre-occupied with his career. I’m confused. To all those men and women out there, is this what happily ever after is about after you said your vows?

By: Dunga

Dunga — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 00:28:15 +0000

I probably would substitute in place of #6, ‘measuring him for a tux and otherwise using a crowbar to get him to the altar’.

By: David Wygant

David Wygant — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 17:54:49 +0000

Hey Ken, yes this blog is an awesome forum … but I also ALWAYS encourage all questions to be posted back here in the comments to the blogs as well. I do this for two reasons. First, I get over 300 emails in my inbox on a daily basis … so I have reserve my personal attention for my clients. I answer all questions posted in the blog, though, so I encourage everyone who has a question to post it there! The other reason I encourage everyone to post their questions back here in the blog is so that they will get not only my feedback, but also the opinions of all the blog readers as well! Sometimes a reader’s questions will also spark a GREAT discussion among the blog readers as well, which can end up being fantastic.

You’re right Ken, that if someone wants either individualized attention from me or more indepth coaching from me, they should absolutely check out my personal coaching packages (in person, email or phone coaching) or check into coming to a bootcamp! For single questions, though, I welcome everyone to post them in the comments to the blogs. Thanks and keep all the great comments coming!!