10 Follow-Up Tips After The First Date By David Wygant
So you went out with somebody and you thought she was absolutely amazing. She was the hottest, sexiest woman of the moment. So, how do you ensure getting a second date and capitalizing on the heels of a great first date?
Here are 10 sure-fire ways to get that second date:
1. Ask her out at the end of the first date for a second date. When asking her out at the end of the date, be sure to ask her to do something she told you during the date she finds exciting. For example, if she likes Mexican food, tell her you know the best Mexican restaurant in town and you want to bring her there Tuesday night. Set that second date up so she doesn’t have time to think about the first date, and so she has something to which to look forward.
2. Text her or call her the very next day. Either text her a simple message that says “Had a great time last night . . . Looking forward to the next time.” Or, call her and leave a message and tell her the same thing over the phone.
3. Once you’ve secured the second date, and the second date is successful, you need to set up an “activity date” for date number three, e.g., take her to the park, go to the beach, or take your dogs for a long walk. Do things that cause her to picture the two of you as a couple. Dates should be creative, not boring. Sitting there and swapping stories over dinner tends to get monotonous after date number one, so start creatively planning different dates so the two of you can start to get to know each other in a very different manner.
4. Don’t expect sex or force the issue of sex until it’s right for both parties. Take things slow and enjoy getting to know each other. There are no rules about when to have sex for the first time with a new potential partner. You’re both adults, and if a woman decides that she doesn’t want to have sex with you for a month, respect her! Or, if a woman decides she wants to have sex with you on the first date, respect that decision too! When you do have sex, make sure that the two of you handle it like adults and not like children.
5. Be positive and fun when you’re out with her on a date. Don’t bash your ex’s. Don’t complain about all the things that are wrong in your life. Spend time getting to know each other’s good sides.
6. Listen to your date. Question things that don’t sound right. Have a two-sided conversation instead of talking at her. Most men tend to want to impress women based on their accomplishments. Women enjoy getting to know a man based on what’s inside. So spend time listening and having a conversation instead of bragging about yourself. The less you brag, the more interested she will be!
7. When out with your date, do not check out other women in front of her. Do this, and you’ll never get another date with her again.
8. Compliment her once about the way she looks. Don’t tell her all night long how beautiful she is, because she will start to think that you’ve never before been out with a woman as beautiful as her, and you’ll start to lose your power.
9. Instead of complimenting her looks, compliment her mind. Bond with her mentally and emotionally and physically, and she will bond with you in ways that you’ve never experienced before!
10. Don’t agree with everything she says. Challenge her mind – don’t just agree with her. If you agree with everything she says, she’ll look at you as being weak. If she sees you as being weak, she will no longer be attracted to you . . . and you will no longer get a second look or a second date. I’m not telling you to be confrontational. I’m telling you to be open, honest and real.
Follow some of these tips, and I will assure you that you will get past that first date far more than you have in the past.
Also check out part two of the video on the 10 ways to Escalate Attraction with a woman.
I think following up dates (or initial pickups, for that matter) right away with a text or call is a really good thing to do– and it goes against a lot of the traditional “advice” for guys out there, which says to wait longer or be “mysterious”. I think as long as you do it in a cool, non-overwhelming way then being confident and showing some interest in the woman is a strong thing. Some guys will argue that showing interest early makes you weak or low value, but this is totally backwards because low value guys DON’T usually show any interest, as it requires some real guts to lay it out there and take a chance.
David;
This was the most interesting yet. Great advice for the ones who just really don’t get it, and I know there are plenty.
This is great in a womans world also. When my friends and I go–say to eat a lunch. There are so many flirting opportunities. I don’t venture out of my chair much like they do to roam and scope. I like to sit and do my CSI casing of the joint undetected unless eye contact is made..LOL
Example;
We were in “Saltgrass” which is a nicer steak house here in Texas..they may be all over..I don’t know.
Anyway, our waiter was just to to cute and sexy not to play with. He loved it. My friends would laugh and tell me, “Girl you are crazy!)
Well, hey crazy is bringing cutie back to the table a lot on his own now.
It came the end of the meal. I always eat 1/2 of what I order if that, then I need a to go box. Here he comes with the to-go box and asks me if he can bag that up for me. I told him yes, if you would, you’re an angel, thank you.
He sits it on the open chair beside me
He says, “Here you go. I will leave this here for you.
Me: Thank you so much, now hopefully I remember to take it. I am known for forgeting things. lol
Him: Well if you don’t I will run after you with it so you don’t leave without it
Me: Really? You would do that for me?
Him: Yes, I would run it out to you, sure I would (with the nicest smile:))
Me: Oh, well hey. I might just leave it behind so you are forced to chase me down..with the food..LOL
He smilled and asked can I interest you ladies in some desert.
Yes, I was thinking “You baby, with some whip cream and make it to GO!” lol ‘What?? YES I thought that. Damn, he was hot and sweet and attentive.
Why me???? I made an effort to get to know him every time he came to the table. The eye contact was mine. My friends got the glances a waiter is required of in the job to take your order.
My friends never say please, thank you? barely. I am an abundance of yes please, thank you, you’re sweet. It is not to kiss butt, score points..it is just me being me.
I feel like anyone who ses this video and listens. will be receiving a real way of being yourself and altering that that you are used to that doesn’t work. This is a free session of wealth that surpasses monetary gain. You are gaining YOU. A real you who can go into anywhere and talk to everyone, then next time you go everyone is saying hello, hugging you…its great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
David:
I hope you are re-cooping well? You look very tired with your blinky eyes there..very cute..but sexy sleepy.
Hows the cold BTW??
Thanks daddio. I enjoy these videos. We are also getting to SEE the real you, which is great. You are not an imagined animated picture, but live and real:)
Joan…… Playing with Kids again? Gir
David-
I think the questions that your friend was asking make this one of your best videos because it highlights the difference between the prevalent practices of the pick-up-artists and what you teach.
Joan-
II think the adjective “irrepressible” suits you better than anyone I know.
Jim;
LOL Hey he wasn’t fresh out of the cradle. He was in his 4th year of college and the waiting job was one of two jobs he was working….soo I think he classifies as young man status.
BobM;
Thank you. That is the nicest thing anyone has ever told me…LOL
Yes, iI would guess that is fiting for me..like a glove. There is no restraining me..this is true. I conduct myself in a respectful yet playful manner..;)
Joan…. Thats gross, u should ask abotu his Dad!
DAVID:
I have something to share here that happened in Galveston TexASS Friday when I was there for Team Vipers Cheer and Dance Competition.
Short?? I will try This is as good a forum as any to post..I find it a nice spot to settle in.
Hanging out at the pool in the resort we were at, I with my new Cybershot camera—picture crazy I am. I went to get a water from the Tiki Hut Bar there by the pool, saw a nice looking smile attached to a nice looking man and a beautiful bird. Lou and Lola they ended up to be.
Spent the whole afternoon with Lou and his cockatail Lola–which the joke into the evening was I had been playing with his cockatail all day long. LOL I definitely met a match as far as puns go.
He joined us for dinner and he and I were never at loss for conversation. He conversed with EVERYBODY—no stone unturned. They all knew him and he was VIP. (He ended up to be a very prominent yet humble man, and hold the only patent for underwater lighting for fish ponds..
He was talking about how guys are just out to get a number and a woman in bed and they miss so much. “They miss the good coversation, the scent of her perfume, her dreams…” Wow! I am thinking ok this is sounding all too familiar. I asked how he was so intuitive to these things, because most men are not.
Here is the BLAST! He asks me if I was familiar with a man by the name of David “Wigant” is how he pronounced it. Well hell!!! I started to laugh and sa no way, and it took me awhile to compose.
WHAT?? He said he has listened to podcasts and reads the Yahoo articles and has learned some things from those that opened him up to the softer side of a woman..a heightened respect and pleasure in knowing the woman inside.
LOL I was taken back for sure, told him yes I was very familiar with David Wygant and his methods of teaching and sharing of knowledge.
Well, we went dancing next door, some of us after we got the girls settled in. He danced divine, definitely took the time to smell the hair, the perfume, and was just amazingly sexy and the PERFECT gentleman. Ladies were swoning. There were 5 of us and one of him–LOL He had no complaints. I was lucky to get taken to the side, was thanked for a wonderful evening and a nice Italian kiss on the chhek and some beautiful good night eye contact.
So David,
I just had to let you in on that. It was one of those Twilight Zone kind of moments..lol. Excellent!!!!! Know there are readers out there who appreciate as well as apply the shared knowledge. I told him to come in and post some time. Will he?? You can see him and Lola on my space picture scroll. Thank you daddio;)))
PS. Y’all can see Team Vipers Winning Competition Jamfest video I took there in Galveston on My Space as well.
))))))) Had to brag on “my girls.” They rocked the house down!!
Jim;
Mind out of the gutter—oh yea that is bowling–you golf soooo um mind out of the sand pit boy!
I wasn’t trying to get laid, just being me and having fun doing it. I also love how stupidily embarrased my friends get until they see the response of the man. Duhhhh ummm hey, try it out for ya self girls
Is ok Jim. Take a deep breath there and the fog will clear eventually.
Joan,
Get my mind out of the gutter? I have been reading your thoughts for a month now. You are projecting again, your mind is in the gutter! You talk a big game. A cougar seeking prey thats weak, or maybe just meek.
Jim, I think you misread Joan. It sounded to me like she was playing with you. It makes me think you’re being overly judgmental. She indulged in what seemed like, from where I sit, harmless flirting with another adult, and you said it was “gross.” It would have been just as easy to accuse you of projecting, but she just teased you.
Now you accuse her of going after weak or meek prey, totally ignoring that in her subsequent comment she describes spending a lot more time with someone obviously older, and not meek or weak in any sense.
You also said, in what didn’t sound like teasing, that her mind was in the gutter. Joan makes no bones about her bawdy sense of humor. But I haven’t seen much from her that would make me think that she believes other people are doing improper things.
Read her posts again, Jim, and see if maybe you were a little too quick on the trigger with your response.
Jim;
LOL How old are you baby??
I am a seasoned sassy sexual and sensuous SABERTOOTH—one step up from cougar status. lol
I don’t seek prey to devour. I am preyed upon after I speak and a person knows the real me;)
BobM;
Thank you for clarifying my intentions in my comment to Jim.
You read me like a book.
Jim go back to the library and read me right;))
BobM……. I read Joan correctly. She knows in her heart of hearts what i’m talking about. I understand she is all that and then some. I also know she is being playful, flirty and fun. Dont be so defensive. She is a big girl. and a big cat BOB………. the kind that get hunted.
Jim;
Ok. Yes–thank you. Playful, flirty and fun–yes this is me, most of the time it is, yes. Bob meant well, is my friend and I appreciate him.
I appreciate your comments as well Jim. Thank you.
Now, I am going to appreciate my bed, because this cat is one sick puppy.
Hmmm..even when I am sick as a dog..I can’t help myself. Goodnight
David,
Loved the video. I find it fascinating how guys who’ve been in the Community for a while have so many questions. They really make things way harder than it truly is.
If I was there, I think I would have added:
- It’s not about getting the number because a number is only a mean to continue a GOOD interaction. If there’s no intention to continue the interaction, then there’s no need for a phone number.
- Showing interest is not needy when you are the high value/high status/highly attractive cool guy. If you come from a position of “power”, showing interest becomes a compliment to the woman. Showing interest/giving compliments is only needy when you force it because you come from a weak position and try to seek rapport/validation too fast.
- An emotional connection is about making the other person feel appreciated and understood through their life experiences.
Cheers!
#10 is crucial… I used to think that it was good to agree with a girl… but the truth is when you’re honest and being yourself sometimes the little disagreements make for much more interesting conversation and even a little playful banter than simply being agreeable
to bobby rio,
yes,,,, resistance is good,,,,. it keeps a man out of the “wuss” category….
Joan what is your myspace address…
Sean:
Ummmmmm welllll who are you?? Have we met?
Tell me who you are. I click on your name and geta blank page? Hmmm